MY NEW BOYFRIEND'S EX WIFE WANTS HIM BACK

[ANNETTE5355]

I a guy a month ago and we still getting to know each other and now his ex wife who has been divorced from for 5 years (they have not been speaking much) wants him back,they have a 11 year old daughter together. They got divorced because she cheated on him and had another man's child. He told me on saturday and will be making his decision by the end of this week, he feels very bad for putting this on me and wants to do what is right for his daughter. I have been understanding and supportive up to now and listened, he has still been txting and ringing me everyday since she asked him.what do I do, how do I treat him, I have just been myself and not been any different and still laugh and joke and we able to talk about anything. He seems very confused.

Make it easy for him. Tell him to get fucked.

Let him go. Cut contact don't wait around for someone to decide wheither they want to be with you or not.
You are worth more than this

That old chestnut. Either he is using it as a get out clause to leave you or he is already seeing her.

Either way make the decision for him and lick the dirtbag to the kerb.

Cut all contact and never treat yourself like that again x

Dump him... deciding at the end of the week indeed. How dare he!

Eh, deciding at the end of the week?? Tell him that you're not an option and he can save himself the decision. Cheeky fecker.

Make the decision for him and save your self respect.

Are you seriously sitting by the phone whilst some bloke you hardly know decides who gets the Golden Prize That Is Him ?

Tell him to go fuck himself

Wow 5 years is a long time for her to change her mind suddenly! Are you the first woman he's been with in that time (that she knows of)?

If he needs to take a week to decide between you and a woman who cheated on him, had another man's child (who I guess is there for his child so will always be involved), who he has not been speaking to much and then out of the blue says she wants him back he doesn't think very highly of you.

Tell him you don't need a week and goodbye.

It's only been a month consider it well worth it to get rid.

Is he having a laugh? Expecting to carry on seeing you whilst he decides if he's leaving you for his ex? Fuck that for a game of soldiers! I'd kick him to the kerb rather than lick him there as SoleSource suggests :) but get him there one way or another!

Dear God, tell the arrogant cunt to take a hike.

So you are the reserve partner sitting waiting on the subs bench in case the relationship with the ex doesn't work out?

He has a very high opinion of himself, doesn't he?

The fact he is even considering it means you absolutely need to tell him to piss off. He's being a prick.

He has set himself up as the prize. Go on a date with someone else. Forget him.

no, I am not the first, he previously was in a relationship with a girl for 4 years after the divorce who wanted him to go back to her country and start a family and leave him daughter behind, so he broke up with her and now we have met on "eharmony", I just feel why did he put himself on a matching website if he is not sure if the past is the past, I do feel why do I have to go threw this, but also wanted to trust him and give it a chance, it does bug me why he is even considering going back, but i did not want to add extra stress to the stress he has to deal with now.

Annette, how can I say this kindly.
What fucking stress?
He's like a dog with two dicks.
You have known this douche for 4 weeks.
Where is your self respect in all this?

So he's thinking about getting back with the woman who cheated on him and had another man's child?? That's your competition? I couldn't actually think of anything more insulting!!

Text him now and tell him you've made the decision easier for him. What a prick. Lucky escape there OP.

What a pack of lies! My guess is that there is no girlfriend back in her own country and that you're just the latest in a series of affairs. He gives everyone a few weeks then pulls the 'my wife wants to try again' trick when he's had enough.

I smell excrement of the bovine variety....

He likes having you as an option. Great book by Pat Allen called 'Getting to I do"

He thinks he has control of the situation with 2 women after him- keeps you dangling with 'confused' and 'stressed' man

See yourself as the prize - not him. Move on and forget him (more difficult if you've already started sleeping with him)

Ltb.

another vote for its all lies. he is breaking it to you 'gently' and is going to dump you. he wants to make it 'noble'.

sorry.
but on the other hand this is a very odd thing to do and you are sooooo much better off without him.

omg, bovine excrement indeed. Tell him it turns out, his wife hired you and you're a private detective. Watch his blood run cold.