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tyedye · 02/07/2006 16:01

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Tyedye · 05/08/2006 14:20

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JennyLee · 05/08/2006 14:23

hope you are okay, whatever happens.

gothicmama · 05/08/2006 22:16

tyedye hope you r ok

Lemmingswife · 05/08/2006 22:17

I am thinking of you too, Tyedye.x

Lemmingswife · 06/08/2006 11:18

Tyedye, I have just read your text & have text you back. Please try & escape from this horrible lifestyle before serious damage is done.
Have you phoned any of the numbers your HV gave you?

I know you say that staying with your Mum is not ideal, but maybe it would be a good temporary solution.

Thinking of you.xx

Tyedye · 06/08/2006 13:27

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Lemmingswife · 06/08/2006 17:21

Thinking of you , Tyedye. Please look after yourself.xx

Tyedye · 06/08/2006 20:06

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Tyedye · 06/08/2006 20:07

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Lemmingswife · 07/08/2006 09:54

You need this man out of your life, Tyedye. Don't let him destroy your children in this way.

Tyedye · 07/08/2006 17:32

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Lemmingswife · 07/08/2006 17:35

Glad to hear it, Tyedye. I am pleased your Mum is supporting you.

lou33 · 07/08/2006 18:07

i had to call the police on exh 10 days ago to get him out of the house

he didnt hit me but was verbally v agressive and v drunk

a couple of days later the domestic violence dept sent me some numbers in case i need them again

Lemmingswife · 07/08/2006 18:11

I am sorry to hear that, Lou. How frightening for you.
Has he been like this before?

lou33 · 07/08/2006 18:22

oh yes, whenever he drinks, which he has a problem with, but he crossed the line that night

he was supposed to be staying with me for about 10 days, but still wouldnt go 4 weeks later

he came back drunk and started ranting at me , and i wasnt feeling good, so i asked him not to do it now, wait til i was feeling better, but he carried on and then said TO my kids that i was a lying c*t, and that if he was 25 i would let him stay so i could f*k him on my bed

the kids kept crying and getting upset, and i kept asking him to stop, but he wouldnt

when he went outside to smoke i locked him out, then he became apologetic and asked to come inot speak tome and started crying, but i said no and walked away, then he started shouting at me again

he persuaded my oldest dd to let him in and came in immediately shouting again, and i was asking him to go, the kids were so distraught, i kept telling him to stop this and look at them, then he went out for another cigarette and i tried to lock him out again but he heard me and pushed the door open saying he wasnt going anywhere and to make him leave, by calling the police

so i did

of course he started crying and apologising again but i wouldnt hang up, so when i had finished the call he said to the kids, that i was only trying to get rid of him to enable me to bring my new boyfriends round to f*ck them

4 police arrived and persuaded him to go, but he harrassed me by text the whole time, then he turned up on my doorstep a couple of hours later insisting he slept in the garage

i didnt sleep that night worrying if he would try and break in, and i thought the next morning he had gone, and went to the garage to put the groceries into the freezer and he was there

he apologised but when i didnt welcome him back with open arms he got arsey again, left, came back to shout again, upset the kids again, left and went to london, but i was sent texts from him every 20 mins which were more and more abusive, and threatening

so he isnt allowed to stay here anymore when i am
he got out of order yesterday when staying (i stayed away) and when i got back i told him to go, and he started again

all this is because he keeps prying into my private life since we split and he wont let me have one, ranting on about who i ma having sex with, who is worthy and who isnt etc, saying i dont care for him and how could i because he loves me, but we have been split since november!

so no more now, my foot is down , i have been too accommodating of him but not anymore

Lemmingswife · 07/08/2006 18:31

Oh my life, how awful! Poor you & poor children. He sounds a complete nutter & a very scary one at that. Your children must have been so frightened.
I don't blame you for putting your foot down. He cannot behave like that.
Hope you are ok now.

lou33 · 07/08/2006 19:06

yeh they are fine

he is trying to apologetic i can see what a twat i have been route atm, but it isnt working

DVX · 07/08/2006 19:35

Lou I am really sad to hear that! Sometimes getting tough is the only way.

Tyedye how are you?

lou33 · 07/08/2006 20:39

he is sending me messages saying he is lost now, and that he needs a friendly ear...

Tyedye · 07/08/2006 20:41

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Tyedye · 07/08/2006 20:42

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lou33 · 07/08/2006 20:43

lol

he wants me to avoid sex too thats the problem!

not going to happen tho

Tyedye · 07/08/2006 20:46

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Tyedye · 07/08/2006 20:52

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Quootiepie · 07/08/2006 20:53

I wish I knew about MN and this thread 2 years ago