Dating Thread 63- disappearers, wedding bells and dodgy eye candy, all are welcome

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Oops that title may have put off newcomers :D

Anyway.... the old thread is dead long live the new!

And what a kisser! Walk in the park, lovely sunshine and holding hands. I sooo could have

Lucky Luis, I miss that feeling, there's hope for us all :) Blousy, I love your analogy. I know exactly what you mean. I don't think I will find anyone online but at least we're trying.

Luis, I'm living vicariously through your updates. I had a lovely walk in the park in the sunshine yesterday too but my companion was my Labrador. I soooo would not kiss him.

feelin, I've signed up to Match for six months. Six long months of looking at cringeworthy profiles. My bf is a serial internet dater and tells me to treat it like a job interview, a real project that needs lots of hard work. Yes, we must try and keep trying. Frogs and princes and all that.

I've got friends coming for Sunday lunch and here I am….well I've done the shopping so that's something.

So phd guy and guy from earlier in the week both want to take me to see the same film.

My slight reservation about phd guy is our different backgrounds and experience. He's from the rather wealthier part of the commuter belt, lived in a fuck-off big house until the divorce etc etc. I'm a working class gal who happens to have done well in my career and I swear like a trouper. Ah well, it'll be fun and interesting if nothing else. He's on POF because his roofer recommended it!!!

Anyhoo I need to chop veges and such like.

Wisey, that's interesting. About the roofer. I did wonder why some apparently well-heeled types go on POF.

Wisey I wouldn't let differing backgrounds put you off dating someone.

wisey what film?

Aah texts all morning from Chef (he's not now but used to be) I keep wanting to shout "yes chef!"

He wants to meet tomorrow

Ms - I love your charity shop analogy it sums up od so well!

Lots of well heeled types on pof down here too.

So, I thought I would 'man up' and get back on the sites, I sent a nice email to someone and he was bloody rude in return. What a wanker. I think I need a break I think.

Don't despair feelinlucky. If I'm not giving up then neither are you. I won't let you. I am soooo insulted by the people that have winked at me on Match. I mean, really? REALLY? And even more insulting are the people who have viewed me and NOT winked. They obviously think I'm out of their league... Surely??

I hope I'm not coming across as a bit up myself here because nothing could be further from the truth.

I may have to revisit POF. I got 2 dates very quickly there a couple of weeks ago. The first appeared to be quite respectable. Until he decided to regale me with tales of his misspent youth as football hooligan and how he is on nodding terms with various local gangsters. Yeah, right. The second date turned out to be the funniest date I've ever had in my entire life - and I've had a long and eventful life(!) He was so camp I almost felt I should point out my gender. If Julian Clary and Paul O'Grady had a love child he would be it. He wants to cook me a meal on Wednesday night and even said in the text that he'd make someone "a lovely bitch". I shit you not. What is that all about? I'm tempted to go because he was such a laugh. I'd have paid good money to see him on stage he was so funny.

Oh, what's a girl to do?

Haha, blousey, that made me laugh. Ok, I'll hang on in even if it is depressing the life out of me. I've had some crackers email me today. At least you sound like you're having fun. Definitely go on dinner date with clary boy :)

Ok, so I just did something a bit crazy! I saw the guy I went on a date with over a week ago was on Pof. I emailed him and he mailed back saying he didn't think I was interested because I ignored his whatsapp messages. I didn't get any whatsapp messages! Anyway, I don't know what to think. He knows I'm interested now :) was that a huge faux pas?

Lucky - give him the benefit of the doubt but only once

Blousy - go definitely! One thing ice realised since I started od is how much I have missed having bloke mates

feelin, to fuck with faux pas! When you get to my age (49 ahem) you realise that it really doesn't matter who thinks what about who. I can't do the game playing thing any more because a) I'm not clever enough and b) I just don't care. Save yourself a whole heap of time and just say it if you want to and do it if you want to. Deal?

Ham, I really really really want to go. The dinner is going to be lush, no? BUT what if he's not gay? I cannot work him out. His texts read like a carry on film script. I only have to tell him I'm shampooing my carpets and there's a whole string of texts back about carpet burns and scrubbers. He might be camp but he's also 6' tall and works as a big burly builder. What a conundrum.

Sold! You have to go and report back he sounds hilarious!

Blousy, deal :) you have got to go on the date. My guess is that he is not gay though so be prepared! Can't wait for the gossip :)

Blousy he sounds like a lot of fun. And I reckon that if you have a great time on a date, it's worth going, even if you don't think anything will come of it.

I continue to attract the casual brigade.

I was talking to someone seemingly looking for more - and decided to overlook the use of n instead of and, and confusion between your and you're... I even got to the point of agreeing probably meet for a coffee but he is driving me mad - leaves me messages on the site like helloooo? as if always hoping I'm around. If I don't reply to a message within about 10 minutes he sends another asking if I'm OK or if I've lost interest; he started calling me honey in every message once I agreed to meet up and asked "are you still my girl?" after I didn't respond quickly enough - he said he was joking, but it is just too much. Isn't it??

Hello all, hope we've all had a good weekend of dating escapades! I've been away with a girlfriend all weekend, lots of fun and a welcome break from thinking about men!! I'm supposed to be having a date with the detective tomorrow eve, I texted him, he tried to call back but I missed it and then I texted again but haven't heard back...hoping all is well in our world! I expect contact soon or I will be quite pissed off...

Blousy - Gay or not, sounds a lot of fun!

Feelin - Go for benefit of the doubt but text from now on to avoid any whatsapp mishaps!

Wisey - Go for it, who cares about backgrounds - I'm thinking Made in Chelsea girl and Professor Green as an example ;)

Splish, he sounds like too much hard work and ever so slightly deranged :) I hate overfamiliar too soon.

wisey another one here saying go for it! I really don't think it matters about background etc! as long as you want the same things

luis Wow, sounds bloody lovely, my idea of a great date, all those tummy butterflies and grinning

Lots of positive stories.

I've had an interesting email on match from a nice bloke, got a few DC free evenings coming up, might have to see what he is like.

Still in contact with fireman, but keeping options open!

Splishsplosh. Yes that's way too much. It's a bad sign. He has issues. Take it from me. "are you still my girl" would put me right off. I know I'm hardly the oracle - with the trail of disasters I have behind me as I look over my shoulder - but I would be very wary of anyone who is showing signs of being possessive. On the internet. WTF?

Ok. I'll go on the date with the gay builder on Wednesday....if I get a proper invite. He asked me what I liked to eat and if I wanted "afters" though?! You've no idea how confused I am about this man! He describes himself as a college lecturer on his profile and I jokingly asked him if he was a hairdresser - because he is just sooooo dapper to look at. He laughed and said of course not, "I'm a builder!!!!! But I do have my hair highlighted and use Nivea". On our first "date" - I use that term lightly(!) - he told me how he used to be a New Romantic in the 80s which he loved because he could "get away with wearing lippy".

Am I being naive?

I've already had a possessive controlling ex, so it also makes me most uncomfortable - and I know if I go on the site he'll pop up as looking at my profile within about 2 minutes then will start messaging me. Maybe this is why I find the casual ones easier to deal with!

Blousy - who knows? If he was straight would you be interested in him? Or is he just good company? Either way, he sounds fun, wo maybe just enjoy it for what it is.

Splish block h he sounds indeed deranged.