Dating Thread 63- disappearers, wedding bells and dodgy eye candy, all are welcome

[hostesswithleastest]

Oops that title may have put off newcomers :D

Anyway.... the old thread is dead long live the new!

Luis forward in what way? Like, keen?

You're prob there by now, just seen what time you posted so hope it's going good. Report back later.

Im meeting phd guy at 6 for coffee and people watching.

Scattergun approach msbrown? Then you can judge what site suits you best. I've tried loads and ok cupid though not teeming with people, seems best suited to my personality. I found pof vacuous but it's horses for courses. The rules upthread are an excellent guide on how to manage od.

Luis the accent is just fab
I am excited about getting to do a proper loo update

Hope the lunch date went well luis

wisely hope there is a spark between you and PhDs guy! nothing better than people watching

Welcome msbrown just get on a few sites and see what you think, I personally keep myself hidden on POF but message guys I like, as I was getting weirdos messaging me. But each to their own and all that.

Waiting for the loo update ham. Good luck!

Fireman is a perfect gentleman, texting me since date number two, I've suggested some alcohol on next date! Still not sure but nothing to lose still

Loo update - scot nervous bit going well. Unsure about spark just yet

Hi all, I've not posted since Bant gate. BANT where are you?!

I've always lurked on this page and have taken good advice from it.

So, please people come back and post.

We miss you!

Hi all, I've not posted since Bant gate. BANT where are you?!

I've always lurked on this page and have taken good advice from it.

So, please people come back and post.

We miss you!

Hi all, I've not posted since Bant gate. BANT where are you?!

I've always lurked on this page and have taken good advice from it.

So, please people come back and post.

We miss you!

Hi all, I've not posted since Bant gate. BANT where are you?!

I've always lurked on this page and have taken good advice from it.

So, please people come back and post.

We miss you!

Hello all and welcome msbrown.

I've had date with Phdguy. He is so sweet! And so, so different background wise but we got on very well. Def not a player I think I could drink him under the table and some.

I kept looking at him and asking myself if I'd met him at a party with all my usual crew around would I like him? Would I want to know more about him? And I thought yeah i would. I'd think what a nice bloke, and since I'm at a very different place now to when I thought appearances were everything a couple of years ago I've said yes, I want to see him again.

Where is Luis? that's a very long lunch .

kaumana I don't know where Bant has gone but I know there was an exodus of posters who went elsewhere as a result of Bantgate.

I was about to post something myself about this myself when you posted.

So I'll say this: I think this is an enormously important thread which should stay alive because it's such a resource within MN. It should not matter that some of the regular posters (and possibly the originators) have gone because it's supposed to be a thread for people who are OD and want/need support and a forum to chat about experiences. Well, that's what I think anyway.

too many 'myselfs' there.

I posted earlier on the love at first sight thread. Just had a lovely night with new man, not quite as besotted as I was first time, but I still think he's adorable.

Most of the regulars still post here sometimes. I think a lot of people took umbrage at Bantgate - and also I'm quite sure that some people don't feel safe on this thread anymore due to personal vendettas from other posters. There's always a bit of politics on long-running threads.

sweet I know. It's a shame.

wisely sounds positive, I've found myself saying yes to second dates! even if there are no firework type sparks initially! whilst still keeping my option open of course

And just where is luis hopefully too busy snogging

Hi all,

I've been Away for work for the last week and a bit, so haven't been able to keep up much. wisey I'll look at your profile when I'm on a computer instead of my phone and once the jetlag has worn off a bit.

Nothing much to report from my end though. Oh I saw mermaid, it was very nice.

Hmmmmm. Hot scot went to the loo about eleventy times during the evening. I nearly asked him if he was doing lines in there a party from that loads I liked about him and in no way a waste of a babysitter. If I had to be blunt I'd say if he was more sure of himself he would be sexy as hell

Hi all, I'm delurking. I'm having no luck whatsoever OD and only seem to attract men that I find wholey unattractive. I need a reality check. The last three dates/meets I went on I was rejected by each man. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. I need help!!!! Who fancies 'going in' and checking out my profile? I've single forever and ever and ever and I'm craving intimacy. I don't know why but I feel it more strongly now than ever. Please help :)

morning all

Still no word from Luis eh?

Hey unBant thank you for that.

Ham maybe he was doing a loo report .

feelinlucky don't despair! OD has a way of both alienating and pressurising folk at the same time so I think it's the nature of the beast really. If you'd met these guys socially without the 'date' context, chatted for a bit and then moved on you wouldn't have felt rejected would you?

Which site are you on?

Hi aka, I tried them all but settled with Pof and okcupid because I realised the same guys are on free sites. It's not all bad and I realise I shouldn't take it personally. I'm feeling a bit fragile and just realised this morning it's because I've devoted the past 11 years to my son and he's just started secondary school and doesn't seem to need me very much anymore :( I used to get all my cuddles from him. I do seem to only attract hgv drivers and men who look like my dad's mates. Im no model but I'm a good bloody catch :)

Turn it around and see it as an opportunity to do a bit of reinventing yourself as a woman who can be a bit more spontaneous - my DD is away at 6th form college and will probably go on to uni so I get where you're coming from, but it can be a good thing.

POF and OKC seem to be the busier sites don't they? I was talking to my date last night about his end of OD and he said he's contacted by a lot of women who are 10 years older than him. Personally I avoid anyone more than 5 years either side of my age because Im bloody ancient!

Aka, it's scary!

feelinlucky, I sympathise totally. I joined Match last night and am not too hopeful of even getting one date... I haven't seen one profile that I like the look of. Not one. The scattergun approach is a good idea but at this rate I'll be turning the gun on myself.

My best friend says I'm not picky enough which is why my last 2 relationships didn't work out. But having seen what's available I don't think there's anything to be be picky about. It's like trying to find designer shoes that fit and are the right colour in a charity shop.

I guess there's someone for everyone. I sure hope so...

Morning all! Had a lovely afternoon, big sparks and seeing him again! Went to friends after and left charger there so couldn't update!