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Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 20/08/2013 16:37

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
OP posts:
Bant · 03/09/2013 22:35

Wisey - the majority of dating sites have more women than men. It's more a case of walking into a bar full of people, many of whom are bored with the women they're chatting to and looking towards the door, and the others oblivious.

Where I am, there are about 50% more women than men on the sites I've checked. So every time I fiddle with my profile a bit I get a whole bunch of Hungarian women checking me out and subsequently winking at me. It makes me feel like a bit of a tease to be honest. And not in a good way.

OhWesternWind · 03/09/2013 22:37

Green sorry no useful advice here as I've not been in that situation. I think the open relationship scenario could be a bit fraught generally, though, lots of potential pitfalls. have you thought about a fwb scenario maybe?

Bant oh dear, doesn't sound terribly harmonious, but a good debate can be great fun if its all done with the right attitude. I suspect this might not have been the case here though. What did she think of the wisdom of the Minchin - was it the clincher?

Concentrateonthegood · 03/09/2013 22:42

Just a quick update on my Londoner. I have decided to just take a day at a time. i told him what i was feeling and he has reassured me. He says he's more worried that he doesnt know what i see in him! he has been lovely today. We were going through old relationships and he said I can't believe anyone would want to split up with you. :-) maybe, it could be this easy and I'll take your advice and enjoy what's happening.

Hormonalhell · 03/09/2013 22:46

Wisey your post made me proper laugh!! Grin I thought id had some naff dates but that tops them all!

I'm on POF not found salmon but plenty of tiddlers with a few sharks thrown inHmm

akaWisey · 03/09/2013 22:46

Bant Sad.

akaWisey · 03/09/2013 23:08

Well I just changed my profile and did a few 'meet me' options because I think it does something to your visibility or some such crap they tell us

akaWisey · 03/09/2013 23:09

Hormonal glad to be of service Grin Sure I can rustle up a few more the way things are going - watch this space.

Flojobunny · 03/09/2013 23:11

Oh dear, politics can be so tricky! She sounds very closed minded though.

Ikeameatballs · 03/09/2013 23:19

Hi all

I was on here very briefly when I was thinking about starting again. Just signed up with matchaffinity at the weekend so hopefully will be dating again soon. 35 now and last went on a proper date when I was 15!

49howdidthathappen · 04/09/2013 08:28

I didn't pop the question. I feel its going to happen though. I have never ever wanted to be married. When we were last in Scotland he did get a bit emotional about me having said 'I never want to live with another man'. He also said 'of course I would never ask you about marriage, know how you feel about that'. How I did!!!

He will wear his kilt. How will I keep my hands to myself Blush
I will wear deep red.
It will be just the two of us

kittykat10 · 04/09/2013 08:37

Had a long chat last night , he doesn't have girls at home , he in same situation as me ie living with family.
So car it is, in a way I guess it will stop me rushing into Mrs housewife mode and according to an ex that what messed us up.
I will sound daft I live in one room , I can't afford my own place so when I was with some one it was nice to sort of have own home.

Sorry having a bad morning , keep having very UN ladylike thoughts about this bloke !

49howdidthathappen · 04/09/2013 08:46

Welcome new folks Smile

Ikea I was 25 years out of the loop. Now here I am, day dreaming/planning a Christmas wedding. I fucking hate Christmas!

Snapespeare · 04/09/2013 12:24

hostess oh Lordy no! Fantasy-in-my-head-wedding. We have never discussed such things! Think this is as a result of my ex flatmate and my friend getting married next year. I spend a lot of time looking at hats.

green eyes umm, other than asking to meet their OH I think that checking out their profile is he only way to check they are ok with poly/open

49 THREAD WEDDING?!?!?!?!

OhWesternWind · 04/09/2013 16:52

Ikea I was out of the dating scene for twenty years or so. I've (mainly) really enjoyed the last year doing OD and am now enjoying life even more now I'm not doing it Smile. I think it can be a great boost and good fun if you go into it with the right mindset. And of course you've got us lot to cheer you on.

49 Christmas is, as I was told earlier today by a chap in Homebase, only fifteen weeks away. How are you going to let him know your views on marriage have changed? I used to be quite anti marriage too but am coming round to the idea a bit more in my old age, not that anyone's asked me since I was in my early twenties. I love your plans for your outfits!

Things are just getting better and better with Alpha. I have a worrying situation going on at the moment and he's made some very kind and helpful suggestions to help me sort it out. It's wonderful having someone there looking out for you. I find it strange to have someone being so nice to me, but he says he just wants to make me happy. He's still at this sodding conference but only two days to go til I get my hands on him Grin

That's the only problem here, that he's away so much with his work, but I can live with that.

Moanranger · 04/09/2013 17:15

Re wedding, I have decided that nothing will change between me & Meet Up guy til we have been together 1 year, so that's 25 May 2014. No wedding this year for us.
I am still married to shxxhead STBXH, and I hope & pray things are closer to resolution with him by then. He is being just AWFUL at the mo.
I am not against marriage,BTW & think it can bring clarity to the relationship. Problem for me & XP is we were in business together. Not a good idea.

Snapespeare · 04/09/2013 17:29

hmmm. I'm agaimst marriage from the feminist standpoint of being passed from being the responsibility of a father to the possesion of a husband in order to secure the financial property of a male lineage. but as you get older, those reasons fall by the wayside & it just seems like a natural progression in a relationship, not that one belongs with someone in the sense of being 'owned'Hmm but that you publically declare that you happily choose to be with someone.

but yes, I'd love to be able to say 'this is my husband' & Grin

that said, it'd need to either be after a HUGE promotion that involves a substantial payrise or after youngest leaves school (4 years) & tax credits disappear ever practical

lurkinglorna · 04/09/2013 17:44

dunno a lot about them but HUMANIST weddings look interesting to me.

MirandaWest · 04/09/2013 17:46

I won't marry anyone again until I have lived for them for at least a year or so. And Mr Nice doesn't want to live with me until his DS has finished university (he hasn't started yet and it's a 4 year course). Think he wouldn't want him to feel pushed out at all. Plus from my point of view we are currently in catchment for a good secondary school and in 4 years DD will be in year 7 (she's the younger one and there's no sibling priority). Which would give us more scope for somewhere to live. Plus I think XHs girlfriend is planning to move down here in about 2 years so would be good for DC to not have too many changes happening at once.

Doesn't stop the odd bit of daydreaming though :)

Snapespeare · 04/09/2013 18:04

Fuck it, off to [[http://www.rocknrollbride.com/ rock n roll brides again... Hmm

Snapespeare · 04/09/2013 18:05

Tsk. www.rocknrollbride.com/ working link

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Hamwidgeandcheps · 04/09/2013 18:32

I've just had a POF message from a man with a photo of him in greeting underwear with a wobbly body.

Please bleach my eyes.

DadfromUncle · 04/09/2013 19:00

What is "greeting underwear"?

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49howdidthathappen · 04/09/2013 19:01

Yes snape That's it exactly Smile He did tell me after I had told him that I was anti marriage that he had never wanted to marry either Hmm

OWW 15 weeks Shock Will have to get my thinking cap on. We are going out Saturday night to the place we met. Could be right time, right place Grin

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