Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
7. If it's not fun, stop
8. loo update is mandatory

Dad

That sounds serious Flo hope she is ok!!

Dad when you messaged did you refer to their profiles? I usually would reply to someone who made a funny comment that referred to mine

wisey hahaha .. That's even worse than my 'stand up and give me a twirl so I can have a proper look at you' date !!!

Kirsty - yes, a few chatty lines in each case, which I must say (without wanting to sound like a bitter and twisty lonely git) is more than I had from the few "hey there :)"s which I didn't even realise until recently, is automatic - so they didn't even type that, that I've had!
In fairness, the woman who looked possibly the most likely did eventually message me to say her daughter was in intensive care.
I am getting used to the idea of getting zero response and I do agree it's better than someone sending a message that says "I took a look a look at your profile and concluded you are fat and/or ugly munter and I'd rather set fire to my own face than go for a coffee with you"

Oh Flo You have a lot on your plate. Hope your DD is ok.

Kitty Time is a massive obstacle for us all.

DFU

Flo blimey, admitted for a month, I hope she's ok.

Kirsty I'd forgotten Twirl Man

DFU that all sounds a bit cack, is there just little choice in your area ? I would imagine that the kind of women you'd be messaging ( I'm guessing they'd be intelligent, interesting and appear to have some humour about them ) would be precisely the kind of people to respond to one of your messages because. Messages from amusing men are few and far between.

Hello 49 and Wisey

Date with notfrench.. Lets see how this goes

Hello KinNora

Well I think a bad date is good every now and then - it helps to confirm that it ain't all me!!!

Nameless has gone tantric.

Whoop!

Nora the Venn diagram of women with a readable profile that isn't just about their cats, their holidays in Egypt and their wide tastes in music ranging from 1966 to 1967 Motown and being a non smoker around my age who I don't find immediately repulsive is admittedly small - couple that with the fact that there's a seemingly zero intersection between that group and the ones who express an interest in me who seem to be huge, very short monosyllabic smokers and it does seem there's an issue here, even though I live between three major Midlands cities.

Has anybody else had the same POF as me? When first joined up, quite a lot of interest and messages etc then??..not much happening at all.

Do they do something with your profile after you've been on for a bit so as you become a paid up member ?

Hi Kin Got 10 minutes to get ready. If only he would bloody ask me to marry him, I could stop with the headless chicken routine.

So wish I hadn't done the strong woman stuff so well. Grr!

Snape does that make you Trudie Styler ? Although I'm willing to bet Nameless is about 5 million times more attractive than the elderly lute botherer.

Wisey bad dates are god's way of making a person realise just how attractive and normal they are in comparison.

DFU - oh. Well that's a bit shite then, has Bant been able to give you any useful advice ? I know lots of people have helped with your profile.

You could ask him to marry you 49 :)

(Part of me would like to marry Mr Nice. Seeing as both of us are still married to other people and he has said he doesn't think he'll get married again this is unlikely. Doesn't stop me daydreaming a little though).

Awwwwww, 49, you want to marry him ! Just tell him x

I have had to bleach my brain from yelling 'MARRY ME!!!' halfway through makin' lurrrve' shagging nameless.

not sure I could go five hours with the lute player. nameless, however...

and yes. wedding planned. I don't actually believe in weddings. that's an inreresting contradiction...

49! Propose!!! You know you want to...
:D Well maybe not tonight I guess :D

I bet we will be hearing wedding bells clanging from the rooftops for multiple couples on this thread before end of year... Snape is that a for-real or dream wedding? I don't believe in marriage either (for myself) but I LOVE it when friends get married and I cry during the ceremonies

I shall weep buckets when you lot get hitched I'm telling you... :D

MsApprehension for me texting-ex season was about 10 days ago. It was astonishing. Total silence since, since I did not reply to any of them with anything other than anodyne friendliness and I think they were all hopiing for a 'yes I'm free fancy a no strings quickie before you ignore me again for 6 months?' reply :)

Meh I feel like a bitter old spinster today. Still seeing Cityboy. He was nice actually, said if he could have a gf it would be me but his life is too messy and he can't promise anyone anything. I do appreciate the honesty a lot and we will stay friends.

Wisey your date description is pure comic poetry, especially the disco dancing bit. I would have asked for a demonstration before running away...

Flo hope you're okay and it all goes well for your dd

Wisey how awful but how funny.

DFU I think you should try a paying site maybe if you can stretch to it - how about Match or GSM? If you set up a "free" profile on match they'll email you with special offers for membership after a while.

Lovely romantic weddingy woo floating about at the moment. It would be wonderful to have some thread weddings! Who's going to be first I wonder? Someone will have to open a book ...

I am feeling very romantic about Alpha at the moment. Trying to keep sane and sensible head on but honestly I cannot remember feeling like this before, not even when i was sixteen. I think he is at least as bad, thank goodness. BUT we've only been seeing each other for three months and we still haven't had Coffee so it's far, far too soon to be getting like this.

Aw OWW that is just lovely. (hums wedding march :))

Wisey was it you asking whether the sites put you on a sort of lower rank after a while- I think they do unless you go on all the time. I find if I go on at all, I get views etc; if I don't, then absolutely nothing. Eg nothing for past few days and I used to get 4/5 messages per day sometimes on same profile and pic. Am mostly on sofa atm so it's no bother. I wouldn't pay okc, tbh.

I've never paid for OKC, I paid for match and its a bit meh.

Notfrench was okay. Possibly a mate but not fanciable. I think my p

Hope you don't mind me butting on your thread but I just wonder what others think..

Recently joined OK Cupid. Im not looking for The One but neither am I looking for just a shag. Went on a couple of dates, nothing interesting. But then was contacted by two guys, both very up front about being in open relationships.

This appeals to me as I'm really not looking for a heavy relationship. My last one ended up in a bit of a stalker situation and I had to get the police involved. So I don't want someone who will be dependent on me.

But I don't want to see someone whose partner doesn't know they are seeing others. Last thing I want is to spoil someone's relationship.

Any suggestions re how I can make sure their partners really are ok with it?

I had a date with one of them already and some of the things he said did seem genuine - mentioned some of his wife's partners and has a link to her OK Cupid profile. It fits together. But I've not been involved in open relationships before so I don't really know what to look our for.

Any advice very welcome!

... Whoops. Damn phone. ... My political views weren't in sync with her because she's somewhat of a radical feminist, has spent the last 8 years in Nicaragua teaching women how to stand up for themselves, and we had a discussion about nature vs nurture where I said it was some of both and she said I was talking bollocks and its all sociopolitical. And there is no such thing as objective truth. At which point I felt compelled to quote Tim minchin at her

Actually it didn't go swimmingly.

hostess yes it was me asking about profiles being 'demoted'.
That could be it as I'm not on it a lot - however I kind of feel like being online is a bit like walking into a bar full of blokes and just, well, standing there.