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Dating thread 62 .. All welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 20/08/2013 16:37

The Rules

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. People vanishing, lying and being generally weird to you are not your fault
  6. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  7. If it's not fun, stop
  8. loo update is mandatory
OP posts:
kittykat10 · 03/09/2013 06:43

Kinora

I did , part of me will always love him. He was my 1st kiss, lost my virginity to him but he changed.
We had sex in Jan, and as I was leaving he said he might start seeing this girl, I later found out he'd started seeing her in November!

I do wonder if I'll ever find a decent one .

KinNora · 03/09/2013 06:50

I think there's a few of us feel like that Kitty - fingers crossed, eh.

kittykat10 · 03/09/2013 06:58

Kinora

Yeah this one seems ok, we had a naughty chat last night , and I believe him when he says we only do things when I'm comfortable with them.

My ex hurt me physically , due to way he wanted sex so I'm very cautious now.
I don't think he meant to but had problems since .

KinNora · 03/09/2013 07:10

Briefly putting my work hat on Kitty, I hope you've been to see someone about that, I'd be concerned that you're still having problems some time after the end of the relationship.

kittykat10 · 03/09/2013 07:19

It's got better , I haven't seen anyone and putting my former work hat on I know I should but it's improved.
Basically I leak urine occasionally if sneeze and if I vomit .

Never had that problem till, lost virginity.

kittykat10 · 03/09/2013 07:23

Sorry a bit to much info !

KinNora · 03/09/2013 07:59

Oh don't worry about that, information has to be pretty extreme for it to be too much for me. There's a physio who posts on the Health board who's evangelical about pelvic floor strengthening, it might be worth seeking her out for a bit of advice.

OhWesternWind · 03/09/2013 07:59

Pelvic floor exercises Kitty! I have an app on my phone to remind me to do them.

You sound like you've had such a shitty time with men. Really hoping you've turned the corner now and there are lots of good things ahead.

Nora not one, not two but THREE DATES! You can't just drop that in casually with no information. Spill!

Juliette so glad things are a bit better.

Hello and happy Tuesday to everyone else. Day off work for me today as dd is starting secondary school (and even that fact isn't enough to get her out of bed)

KinNora · 03/09/2013 08:09

OWW - Hot Tub, STD Man and Mr Chocolate Highway - meh. I was supposed to be seeing some other bloke too but I've binned him off.

I have an industrial strength pelvic floor < smugly polishes nails >

akaWisey · 03/09/2013 08:13

Sorry, I'm barging in on this thread which I don't post often on because I'm an OD failure because I'm so busy and it moves so fast.

Had to share this date with someone, I'm still Grin two days later.

He messages me in response to my ad, and 'ideal first date'.

So we arrange a picnic, he'll do all the food and lovely location, a park with wild parakeets in the trees above.

Arrive, he's there, ok looking. Then:

Can we sit in the shade because he hates the sun - it's clouded over.

"I bought some food wisey": a small bottle of water (for me), a Waitrose chicken chilli wrap and some Ox flavoured crisps "left over from yesterday" and some king prawn cocktail.

Most interesting fact I learned:

"I have 6 sinks in my house because I've got lodgers".

Fact I most didn't want/need to know:

"the tendons in my feet have gone and they hurt all the time" (before removing his trainers).

Most unlikely fact I learned:

"I used to be in a disco dancing troupe" (had to stifle a loud belly laugh).

Dull, dull, DULL!!!!!!!

Lasted 90 minutes before I ran for the hills. Grin.

He actually asked for another date?oh dear shall I or shan't I?

You couldn't make it up, you really couldn't!!

ALittleStranger · 03/09/2013 08:50

Don't!

I used to be baffled why the mind-numbing dates always wanted another one - couldn't they tell? Then a friend pointed out that they were probably so unaccustomed to someone agreeing to date them and not running for the hills after the first yawn that they mistook politeness for attraction.

kittykat10 · 03/09/2013 09:30

I'll have a look in to pelvic floor exercis. Just finding it embarrassing that it happens. I mean I knew it happens when you have kids but I've never been that lucky.

49howdidthathappen · 03/09/2013 10:26

Oh Kitty Your ex sounds an utter shithead.

Never ever settle for such crap again. You are the prize Smile You will find a good un. You may have already Grin

49howdidthathappen · 03/09/2013 10:28

Wisey How are you resisting Grin

Flojobunny · 03/09/2013 10:31

Oh dear, the food sounds dreadful and the company sounds worse.

kittykat10 · 03/09/2013 10:34

I hope I have , a bit gutted he busy on Saturday tho. I said it was ok and maybe another day, tried to sound casual about it but had got hopes up.

Oh well me and telly again x

DadfromUncle · 03/09/2013 12:26

akaWisey Funniest thing I've read today - thanks for posting it. I can't even get a first date, but maybe I'm not missing much. Slightly concerned I am more entertained by stories of disasters than I am by tales of marvellous success, but thanks for sharing. Hope things improve soon.

kittykat10 · 03/09/2013 12:53

Think we all have had disaster dates, mine has to be when he said I was fatter than my pof profile picture !

Best of it I'd made him a cupcake lol

ALittleStranger · 03/09/2013 12:58

Dad are you still on POF? Time to change site perhaps?

DadfromUncle · 03/09/2013 13:18

Stranger I am on POF - I added a profile on OKC too (in fairness I have still to get around to updating pics on OKC - I've only got one pic on there and word on the street is that it doesn't do me an favours.
Being scrupulously fair to the whole world, I don't often see a woman on POF or OKC who I think is worth me messaging (maybe 6-7 since I started) so I'm not saturating the sites with messages and getting no response Smile
kittykat10 That's funny - I'd want to be very sure of my audience before making a comment like that - certainly not one for an early date I'd have thought.
Mine comes from a really long while back - date going well - I knew she worked in a bank and I worked in Insurance and estate agency. I explained I never really dreamed of being an Insurance Broker and ventured (foolishly) that I imagined she must be the same "Oh no, I always wanted to work in a bank" she said. In case I seem harsh, she insisted on unplugging her telly, (including the aerial) before leaving the house.

lurkinglorna · 03/09/2013 14:32

mwah mwah everyone! Grin been reading. all quiet here really on the romance front Smile happy though, feel like my life is moving forward in other ways.

kittykat10 · 03/09/2013 14:34

Well I feel awful. Just chatting to Mr car and reason he can't see me Sat as his mum needed his help then it dawned on me his dad only passed away late last year.

I feel a bit selfish now and guess if we are going to carry on I'll have to share!

MsApprehension · 03/09/2013 15:22

HAHAHAHA

My ex just texted me. Has he been getting tips from this thread?

I laughed so hard I nearly shat.

Flojobunny · 03/09/2013 16:04

Haha that made me laugh out loud and startle my guinea pig.
Thankyou, I needed cheering up. Just back from the hospital with DD, they want to admit her... For a month Shock
I start my new job on Thursday, huge promotion, lots to prove Sad

DadfromUncle · 03/09/2013 16:51

Flo - is " startle my guinea pig" a euphemism?

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