The Dating Thread - episode 61

[lurkinglorna]

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@ Yoga's great pair of jeans...

Morning All

Castro When my STBXH announced the end of our 24 yr marriage last Feb, I was inclined to do what you are proposing, but I met someone 6 weeks later, & it has helped me hugely in coping with this new phase of my life.
Sometimes the best way to get over an old man is to get under a new one.

See what happens.

Glad things are looking brighter, Title.

Hope Bant and Lorna both got what they wanted.

Morning all and a particular wave to yoga nice to see you back

Well FoF came round for dinner last night while DD8 was there and the two of them got on really well .. He brought her a one direction book and they had pillow fights arm wrestled and bonded over a love of choc fudge cake .. We were playing it very low key until we went into the kitchen to do the dishes and she caught us kissing .. She said nothing and just carried on as normal .. He stayed over but got up really early to go to the gym ( his normal Monday routine although he has missed it the last couple of Mondays )

Everything is amazing

How was the angry European lorna

kirsty so happy for you
'bant stock shop will have me chuckling all day.
What to do guys? Mr IT asked for second date . Mr Jazz also came back from hols and asked for 1st date ( had to postpone due to hols/ commitments ) on Sunday , when I'm seeing Mr IT, Now, Mr IT is a better prospect ( closer in age/ location/ situation). So do I go anyway or is it bad form. If I'd done both first dates last week ( as planned) would have been ok but this way just doesn't sit right but then I'm an old fashioned girl....

Raen what's happened with Mr IT? Unless you're DTD I would have a first date with Mr Jazz, but not on Sunday.

Just got asked to go out tomorrow night by a man from PoF. Nervous... haven't been out on a date in 4 and a half years!

Raen Are you concerned about dating more than one at once? I can't see why not

Raen I agree with Stranger - I would say that seeing two people for dates is ok. I didn't think that until recently, but I reckon as long as nothing too heavy has happened it's fine.

Mr RL has just popped round again. He didn't stay long as he was called into work last night and is still hyped (high adrenaline stuff) but he was bouncing off the walls...

Ho hum...

No not DTD only went on 1'date but second on sunday : yes it is seeing 2 at the same time ( just doesn't seem right!) but nothing heavy happened yet. Like I said Old fashioned.... If it was RL I wouldn't do it, guess OD is different ( or times have changes since I last dated in the last millennium

MsApp that's fab! Just be yourself, and try to enjoy it. Where are you going?

Raen I'd feel the same - haven't been in that position - but in the flaky world of OD, you know it makes sense to keep a couple of irons in the fire.

Kirsty sounds great! Glad you managed of a snog DD was unfazed - bodes well for future get togethers!

Lorna, hope the European scratched your itch ;) .

Not much to report here... Loving chatting to the footballer, by his own admission he is a bit of a bugger so I'm still trying to work out if I could handle a FB arrangement with him. He's definitely not relationship material, but oh my, he is hot... The recycler is giving good chat.. And the postie is lurking again. No dates on the horizon though....

Is anyone on match (male or female)and willing to have a peek at my profile? I seem to get the chancers, perves, bores or oldies!! Pm me :)

Hi Kirsty - so glad things are going well for you.

I'm bored of POF already. Meh.

Hi Yoga Good to see you back

Lots dates coming up. I wouldn't worry about dating more than one guy at this stage Raen

Lorna Well?

kirsty he was very nice indeed. sent him a message on pof "soft sell" saying "text me if you're in town", got text back quickly, he asked if i wanted dinner or drinks last night. i said well i just want to see you really.

i went over in a very pleasing skirt (was thinking of sticking a durex in my bra and going commando for extra effect, but might be a bit scary), welcome kiss, pashing, walked him to bedroom, out in 1 hour 30 minutes.

tried not to make conversation apart from small talk.

"what lovely weather we're having!"

planning to see dr pashing tomorrow night, and he texted to say "no kissing in alleyways necessary".

wt acutual fuck? so now we need to work our way past all the bases again?

Oh do you think he has plans for you? Lorna Just not asked you yet..

The European is a fast worker.

48 ha ha yeah wondering if I can just keep on having sex with the european without ever talking to him....

Not really sure how Dr Pashing is going to pan out. he asked whether i needed a lift from anywhere, i said i finish work at x so he said he'd meet me nearby.

hope it'll be ok.. he's somewhat cute, but i do get the vibe he's a bit "dotty" so doesn't really have any plans apart from going out a bit? (think i mentioned but for his criteria, i don't fit ANY of his needs - kids and a stable career)

also confirmed with one of the guys i met on saturday that we will see each other again, but leaving it with him. other guy has left it with me to let him know.

Oh Lorna that's intriguing....

I'm going to meet the footballer tomorrow. There may be trouble ahead... He wants to show me his hamstring injury.....

D - bonne chance!

I've got a date for Friday. I've not mentioned the fact im celibate again yet i will drop it in when the chat gets going abit more.
moan - i understand the idea of getting under someone else what have you and there was someone but he turned out to have a girlfriend but knowing i would have dtd was enough for me in a way.
im following advice I've seen on here quite often about having time out between relationships. can't hurt to stay in the loop dating wise but then i wonder what is the point?

Thanks Lorna

Castro I get what you're saying - the fact that you could if you wanted to - I quite often only get to that stage too. There's maybe no need to drop it in to conversation yet - who knows how the next couple of dates go?

I think it's good to be mindful of rules, but follow your instinct and if it goes wrong, just remind yourself to stick to the rules next time p as everything you experience helps you to get to know your wants and needs a bit better for next time.

There may be trouble ahead
But while there's footballers, hamstrings and new men to know
I'll say good luck to Django

No song for you Lorna but ha! at the European. I think DrPash just has a different venue in mind.

Have you broken him yet 48?

My very lovely Alpha has had his op, now it's a long wait for the results ho hum but he's feeling pretty positive. Just wish I could see him soon but he's out of action for a few days. It'll all sort out though. I have such a good feeling about this whole thing. Can't ever remember feeling like this about someone. I am like a blushing teenager and need to get a grip!

Argh shite Internet today. Decided to give hot and cold man a chance. Our history is complicated and I don't think I will get much resolution after 2 months. I have decided to let things settle a while and see how it goes and if things are still stressful at Xmas time he's binned.

hmm i think i need to mention it at some point i don't want to lead him on. i already know he's not the one,if you can really know that in 10 minutes. i wonder if there's a point to going on a date when I've already decided that? talking myself out of it

A hamstring makes a change

If you don't need the conversation Lorna maybe he your man.

I don't like to admit this OWW He broke me
I'm sure all will be well with Alpha and that you get to break him soon.