The Dating Thread - episode 61

[lurkinglorna]

BOOM!

Gin happy to be of service if required.

Well lets just say I have changed my mind about long distance relationship.

It was very, very good

I am all for saying what you want from someone. I don't see it as needy at all. More about what you will or wont accept.

48 that intense huh?

Title ((hugs)) come sit on the sofa with me and the others, wish I looked like Hilda, she is perfect

Fox I suspect sadly, the fact that he hasn't brought it up probably means that he wants something casual. Most men aren't backward in saying what they want if it is more commitment. They are reticent when they have what they want and don't want to upset the apple cart. Be prepared to walk away. He may surprise you though, never say never eh?

I am getting for quotes for my decorating/renovating work CBA to do it myself too much work

Had a on POF message where in response to my 'thanks but no thanks mate' type message he said 'you won't even give US a chance' (his capitals).

And the creepy thing is I have seen him at my workplace carpark a couple of times.... fortunately I work in the community so won't bump into him often.

That is creepy WFF!

48 you knew it would be good

WFF that is very creepy indeed.... Hope you don't run into him in the community again....

I am getting good chat with the footballer and the lovely guy (we'll call him the recycler) and I think I'm right that one is looking for "fun" and the other is looking for long term.... I'm feeling at the moment that I just need to get back in the saddle, as it were, so although I said I'm not going down the FWB route, I might.... Trying to get my boundaries in place first though.

Thanks Jo - I've PM'd you!

Have updated profile in light of Simon Cowell Lorna's comments. Let's see what happens!

Hi, I hope you don't mind me popping in. Thought I would warn you all to avoid nick1964nick on pof! Until this morning he was my boyfriend of 2 yrs. But he'd been cheating on me by messaging women on lots of dating sites. I see this afternoon he's joined pof! Avoid like the plague!

Warning people off isn't enough, Tortoise. See, what you have here is a bunch of (wonderful, lovely) Vipers with POF accounts and time on their hands to set up dates with him and then never show. Or mess with his head, or something

Oh now that is evil, but I like it!
His profile says does not drink! That's total bull for a start. And I took that photo of him in his suit

I would post my ex POF if it wouldn't out me - I'd be avoiding him too!

hi all, just a quick question for you lovely wise people.
I've been asked on a date, he seems nice funny good looking but I've promised myself i won't get involved with anyone for another 6months at least, a vow of celibacy if you will.
would it be wrong to go on a date when I've no intention of it coming to anything? i think he would be fun but i don't want to lead him on

why the vow, Castro? I think you have to make that clear to someone fairly upfront. It would weed out the chancers, anyway

the vow is because i split up with ex 6months ago, im over him but not the relationship if that makes sense.
just thought it would be better to be 100% myself before bringing anyone else into the situation.

and i did tell him but he still asked for my number. maybe he thought it was a joke

I'd go on the date
God dating for parents - the site - is quite depressing

Sooo, thanks all for your support earlier. I'm feeling a bit better tonight, having been out with a friend for lunch. Mr RL is still around and still simmering away - he popped round earlier, which also cheered me up a bit.

I'm getting back out there tonight - thinking of joining PoF and I'll be logging into match again in the next few days. I'm still smarting but I'll get over it. I think that I'm also quite pleased with myself because I've shown some backbone and stood up for what I know is right for me. Excuse the cliche, but it's shown me how far I've come since getting shot of the ex.

So, all in all, a valuable lesson learned

Castro go on the date, rules are made for breaking.

Hi yoga and Title I expect the Caitlin Moran article is behind The Times paywall.
It made me cry.

Title saying no when it's appropriate is empowering.
Don't think about what you've missed out on, the about the shite you don't now have to deal with, good for you.
Join POF but have your bullsh*t radar turned up to 11.
Good luck.

ok thanks. guess if im honest about it he can decide if he still wants to go out. no harm in having fun and i could do with the practice

Hamwedge - I've never heard anyone say anything good about that site. Especially as it shares the profiles with hotsluts.com, motorbikelove.co.uk and trainspottinglovers.org

Castro - whatever you need to do, do. But it's good to be honest with people, which you're doing, which is cool.

Title - I found that the knockbacks, disappearers, strange people generally were depressing at first but increased my confidence over time as I realised that actually I was relatively decent compared to them, and so therefore somewhat of a catch. It made me more selective, more confident, and confidence breeds success.

I'm not exactly beating people off with a stick at the moment, but I am pausing whenever I walk past a stick shop to look for bargains. Confidence is king.

Pfft, well I've just checked and he's been online today so there's my answer. Same old shite.

D thanks for your PM I'll try and comment tomorrow

AIBU to have popped round and seduced the angry european tonight? i really needed some cock and nakedness

Personally I fancied a curry tonight, Lorna, but needs must. YANBU

Arf @ Bant & Lorna

I've hit the ground running on POF... Some sane contacts, and no cock shots yet. Bonus huh?

LOL Bant @ stick shops.

I had a fun night out with a friend which was good. I'm also quickly remembering why I didn't last long on POF before. "Hi" is not an enticing opening gambit. "Sexxiiiiiiiiiiii" even less so. As for the guy I'd spoken to on there before, I remember now why we never ended up meeting - after half a dozen exchanges where he thinks he's being clever and funny (ie flippant) he hasn't managed to tell me a single thing about himself...even his name.

Also on POF - marriage proposal from a very cute man...who lives 35 miles away and doesn't drive....CBA. And a chef who offered to make me my ideal 3 course meal. I told him lots of things I liked and didn't like and he manage to come up with 2 out of 3 courses containing all the things i said I didn't like. Don't know if he's any good as a chef but doesn't say much for his listening skills.

Ho hum - I have my friends and a job and a great new pair of jeans so that will keep me going for a while. :)

Night all.