The Dating Thread - episode 61

[lurkinglorna]

BOOM!

I keep thinking about the guy in Charlie's angels, sniffing hair.

Not going out now. Mr R&R said he doesn't need a kip, just needs to see me

Must get my ass in gear.

Night folks

Grinchie I have declined when he's asked but would be a nice idea if all went well, a come dine with me style cook off was the thinking behind it.

I'm the same with work, those pressures don't phase me, but this? Coffee? On a Sunday? With a stranger? Somebody shoot me now! It's the thought of him being disappointed when he sees me, I know that's part of it but think that's why I came off POF. Gah, awful stuff. Did you meet your man via OD?

...I too thought voodoo How long have you been seeing him? Sorry not caught up on everybody's story, planning on it tonight with a glass of red

Thanks everyone for your comments on my profile - going to try and re-write it a bit. Still waiting for Lorna to get a bit Simon Cowell...

Out of interest, do you tend to find that it's usually men who initiate contact online, or do you ladies go out there chasing too?

just coming up for seven months. He's a sweetie and a surprise. :)

Snape, I know, it's beautiful , she had hair like Amy Pond's.

DFU no, I don't contact men first but then I am lazy and thoroughly half arsed.

This answers Just & Gin with apologies to everyone who has heard this before......

I left my stbxh, a couple of weeks later I went out on the lash with a group of friends, one of whom (female) told me at my age I should 'give up on meeting a man' that 'all the good ones were taken' and that I would 'have no hope with od'.

So, I went home at 10.30ish, pretty drunk and had a trawl through match. I looked into the early hours and found 1 (1!) I liked the look of within a 30 mile radius of me.
At about 3am (after more drinking) I set up a profile, no pic, no information and sent him a message saying 'fancy a drink?'.

He asked for a photo, so I rushed round to a friend to get some taken and I emailed them to him.
I followed this up with a longer email about me and asking him some questions.....and here we are.

As I say, I went against all the good advice on here (don't do what I did, please).
He's an officer (often a fraudulent claim on od), we went out a month after I'd left my husband (ill advised but really hasn't been a problem for us although mine were unusual circumstances) and I met him at his place (although he does live on barracks which means it isn't private IYSWIM).

So..... that's how not to do it.

Snape, sounds lovely, and romantic, how did you meet?

Effing bad mood about mr hot and cold. Situation considerably worse

grinchie, Non of what you did is against the advice. It's OK to contact people first if you don't want to have your profile out there and meeting at a barracks isn't so bad. Glad it all worked out for you, I do think a lot of it is down to good luck.

What's up Ham ? Are you ok ?

Hello all. I'm bored and thought I'd pop in for a visit. I wasn't sure if this was the same dating thread (it's been a while!) but I recognise a few names so guess I'm in the right place.

Snape - 7 months, wow, that's wonderful. And Kirsty, sounds like all is lovely for you too! Hi Bant - how's Hungary?

I had another go at OD with a 3 month subscription to match but that's come to an end now with no results. 2 first dates with guys who were nice enough but not for me and and one guy who I saw a couple of times but realised he was just in it for the sex (and wasn't good at taking no for an answer) so binned him. And now back on the sofa. And bored.

No money for another subscription but can't decide if I can face POF. Ho hum.

just (recap!) after an age of internet dating horrible people, disappearers, shag merchants, an embarrasing interlude of misunderstanding involving obstensible best friend and...I just gave him stars on okcupid, because he was very, very sweet. then he asked me out for a cup of tea after swapping messages for a couple of weeks. lovely couple of hours where I was just happy I'd had a couple of cups of tea with someone lovely. he texted me on the way home. we had a second date...

I'm 45. he's 32. I have 3 teenagers. he met them (& my ex in laws, who I regard as my parents) 4 months in.

I think my experience suggests you wade through knee-high frogs when you're internet dating.. persevere. there are plenty of tales of happily ever afters.

Well not really no. Had a huge relationship talk and a snog etc - first anything like that for me post separation. I was quite elated last night but I invited him over tonight and no contact about it - not even a thanks but no thanks but had contact about other random stuff. No definite plans to see eachother again. During the big talk he was going on how he didn't want to fuck things up this time.
Feel like 5 kinds of shit now tbh

Grinche wow, whirlwind start hey! Have you been together long? I do hope you've reconsidered that particular friendship?! She sounds awful.

I've no way of knowing if he's been honest about what he does, I guess I'll have a better idea when we meet?

Ohh I do wish there were wine involved in this coffee meet.

(Hello Yoga lovely to see you again )

Ham it's shit isn't it ? It's the momentary hope when you think things might be going well only to have them dashed, it's no consolation but I reckon almost everyone on here knows that feeling. Have a consoling

Aww Snape that is really nice to hear. In fact it also rings some bells of previous mn lurking of mine, I wonder if it's you I remember. You don't hear enough happily ever afters

To POF or not to POF... ?

Go for it Yoga.

Snape at 'shag merchants' I like the phrase but have a horrible feeling I'm seeing one. Still it's only to get me over the 'ex'.

Ugh, ok so help. What to say in my profile? I've done this before but feeling in need of some inspiration!

I don't know Yoga, mine doesn't say much and I'm hopeless at writing a good profile.

Hi again Yoga

try OKC instead of POF for a free site? It's been the only thing that worked for me in Hungary, and the match percentage thing does seem to vaguely work. I've got on much better with people 90% or more 'matched' to me than those 60-70%

Hungary is lovely, interesting people. It's disconcerting that the majority of the women are quite tall - I'm 5'10 and there is one 5'5 woman in my age range in Budapest, the rest are mostly 5'9 or taller. Maybe it's all the pickles they eat or something.

I seem to be in a LDR with an american teacher I became friends with 10 years ago. LDR with someone in the UK would be difficult enough but she's in San Francisco. Ho hum. Don't know if anything can come of it but there's the connection, the spark, the chemistry and the fact she makes me laugh (and she's gorgeous)

Part of me is tempted to still date vaguely in hungary but that way madness lies..

Hi Bant. LDR with someone in SF sounds tricky indeed! An old boyfriend of mine got in touch on Facebook a couple of months ago. He's single as well and I would love to see him again but he lives in the Channel Islands...and although he got in touch first and we messaged quite a bit he made no suggestion of anything beyond just chatting and catching up.

Going to give POF a go. I tried both POF and OKC before. POF was scary but manageable if I kept my profile hidden. Men on OKC were just bleh.

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