The Dating Thread - episode 61

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We met yesterday it was lovely a hug as soon as we met and he held my hand , which I k now sounds school yard stuff I'm not been dating long although I'm in my 30$

Western - it was insulting and I called him a prick and I feel embarrassed as I was saying don't contact me ever again with lots of !!!! When actually he hadn't contacted me for about two weeks anyway! But what I meant was don't think about trying to contact me again in a few months to fuck me about.

I was thinking of sending him something along these lines:

I get that those texts the other night sounded crazy and you are probably finding it really funny! I think in my drunken state what I was trying to get across was that there is really no need for you to keep coming back into my life just to treat me like crap! And it made me feel annoyed! And actually I feel hurt that once again you came back, chased me till I showed some interest then you backed off again!! I honestly feel that you get in touch each time just to fuck with my head! And I can't understand why anyone would do something like that! Well I'm not expecting a response from u, I just wanted you to know that your behaviour is completely uncalled for and horrible!

What do you think?

hostess you sing 'my old man's a dustman' if you want to but I'm not going to, that would be silly

I wouldn't mind calling anyone 'sir', I would find it very entertaining & I will do pretty much anything for a giggle.

rubbish I think don't text him again, at all. Don't give him the satisfaction.
I would delete his number and move quickly along.

agree with grinchie rubbish . God though how do I know how these chasers and disappearers mess with your head. It's really best to cut em dead.

Grinchie how about 'my old man said follow the van' in full soprano? that sensible enough for you? :D

Grinchie - I think your right! I really shouldn't bother! I don't know why I just really feel like I want to though!

RF333 DO NOT TEXT HIM

Hostess I saw Alpha Papa on Saturday - it was excellent, I laughed my arse off.

Misapp I'm just going to delete his number now

Ok I've deleted it now!

I just feel abit pissed off that he has treated me so badly! Or maybe I'm pissed off that yet again I let him treat me badly! Anyway that's it I can't text him.

I feel like me letting him come and go over the past few years really isn't helping me to feel optimistic about future relationships!

rubbish You feel like you want to because you are a decent and kind person who wants to feel that you have given a sufficent explanation.
On the other hand, he is a knob jockey ergo he doesn't desrve your explanation, your kindness or any further courtesy.
Also, we have just mathematically proven that you are far too good for him (see above).
Therefore, remove any thoughts of him and his wellbeing and think of your own happiness instead.
= Redirect your energy into finding someone who is as thoughful and considerate as you and great in bed.

hostess I'm not sure about 'my old man said follow the van'.
Ironman & I are about to go out to walk a (borrowed) dog so I'll give it a go while we're doing that and let you know what the general consesus is

Kitty that sounds really nice, all the signs are good I think. The "teenage" stuff is the best

Hostess still waiting for lovely filthy rampant shagging with Alpha although things are moving very well in that direction. It has been a long time now so definitely ! I was very surprised by how things went this weekend as he's been definite that he didn't want to take things further until he gets his all clear. But I am not complaining, oh no not me.

Yep Family just move on, no point in keeping things going by sending more messages. Ignore, ignore, ignore if he pops up again in a few weeks. Hope it's deleted now

rubbish - don't give him the satisfaction of headspace. Delete and move along to something better.

Derby wants to come to my place. Given the chemistry the other day, I think she's expecting sex. I haven't actually had Coffee since Aruba, several weeks ago, and Mermaid and I had a long skype video chat where we said we're both going to keep seeing other people as it's kind of silly to put our lives on hold when we haven't even had Coffee ourselves yet. And we're not going to see each other for a month.

So. Derby is funny, interesting, although strangely I get the strong impression she wants to be dominated by a man. I get that some people are like that but she gives off a vibe which I'm not truly comfortable with. I may be misreading things.

Didn't get to date as a teenager so it all a bit kid like at times.

Grinchie - thank you for your message i think your right and I defiantly want someone that is kind and great in bed. Do they exist?

Western - yes it has now been deleted

OWW you just know the rampant shagging will be worth it.

Cityboy always surprises me- recent text exchange about abuse of the terrorism act LOL. Well, at least we can talk and he accepted NO Pictures (urgh)

OWW worth the wait I mean!

Bant do you mean sexually or personally dominated or both? I guess you have to give it a go- it may be shyness or being intimidated by you as a glamorous West European :D and she may get over it when more comfortable.

I know what you mean re. that vibe though I've had it from blokes too and I did tend to be right about it...

Kind and great in bed do exist, in fact, they often coexist.

Western - what's been happening with your new guy? When does he get his results? And have you now slept together? Or it will be your first time this weekend?

move date in sight..........yippee!!!!!!

MsApprehension love the haiku poems!

yeah I was wondering about what my policy on the slightly "spontaneous" invites should be? i like to be open to stuff, but "i have a free invite to a champagne reception tomorrow, will you come?" is a bit .

then again, i can never be arsed to exchange LOADS of messages before a meet, they might be a let down in person.

i think maybe the ideal happy medium is a "few" messages arranged then quite a formal meet up...

Bant I have missed why Derby is so named but have just remembered I used to work with a Hungarian woman who now lives in Derby....

It funny my ex popped on a search on pof and his parting line to me was I'm not in right frame of mind to date lol

Maybe the signs he wasn't interested in me were there I made all the moves , the lack of physical relationship ain't hind sight great lol