The Dating Thread - episode 61

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Hostess Yep the 5 kids thing is a biggie but don't think I am looking for anything long term. Tbh the way I feel at the moment is that will never feel close enough to a man again to even hold his hand key alone meet his kids!!

Does anyone else feel like getting with someone is such a long way off? I chat to men all the time and even meet up with them but in terms of actually having a relationship whoa! Feels like that is for other people not me. I'd love it to be me but just don't think it will happen. I'm not desperate for it but think it would be nice.

Re the blog, it was all starting to make sense to me that I used to have v good looking men interested in me and still do, completely as to why. They only want one thing or maybe I was so mesmerised by their looks I gave it up too early .

Excellent news OWW - I'm very,very pleased for you.

Hostess I can't add anything further to the excellent advice you've already had, a single request for Pictures might be forgivable, exerting pressure absolutely isn't.

The what OWW said.

On good looking men - I'm another one who is wary of them, of the 3 men I've had relationships with who were outstandingly conventionally handsome, the Mad Cyclist had the body of a Greek god and a mind which was a cross between Basil Fawlty's and Begbie's, Lights Are On was 6' 3" of dark blond loveliness allied with the reasoning power of Forest Gump, and Il Wanko The Exh was handsome, funny and clever but ultimately as shallow as the Kardashian's gene pool. It's a giant 'meh' from me to stunning men, give me a funny nerd with an open smile every day of the week.

Scazy I've had totally omg wow bfs and very average men.

I also found Tits can be found spread evenly thought the population.

Other attributes last longer, one ex not gifted with looks and now fairly hefty still makes me laugh 30 years later which is far more consistent.

I need to go for someone who is average looking next time. Doubt it will happen via OD as I do look at the photo's and know that I won't fancy them. Oh I'm doomed.

OWW forgot to say that he sounds lovely, long may it last .

Placemarking, but happy to see the Woo is still alive and well.

A holistic approach. I like twinkly eyes, and good looking teeth (dentures even, I know what time it is?), affable with bags of appropriate confidence and good manners.

They can be short, tall, stocky, fat, thin, etc but the above is non negotiable. So Cupid take note [stern face]

Pom, I get what you're saying.

Jules shall I sing 'Pass the Dutchie pon the left hand side?'

Gym exertion has calmed WFF somewhat...

OH and Hey Twinny

Hello Twinny - no frickin' woo here (also I have had a monumental struggle not to sing Pass The Dutchie to Juliette )

OWW DS had a bit of a moment at the open day, but place now accepted and all will hopefully be well.

I don't want to bring the thread down but what's kept me going the last couple of years is remembering my Uni friend's lovely DS who chose not to go to Uni himself but really enjoyed everything life through at him. Tragically he was killed in a cycling accident but he was always my DS example of an alternative route in life. By coincidence my DS is going to be where I was at Uni with my friend and no matter how difficult the whole thing has been getting to this stage, I know I'm lucky to be able to help my DS towards his big dream.

WFF now you've done it. Yep, its going to be there all day

'Give me the music, let me jump and prance!'
that I actually know the words...[shame faced]

I don't know who to behave...

how even

Yep, me too WFF (the lead singer always reminds me of my first boyfriend, the knobber)

Juliette I had a message from a friend telling me how her daughter was starting to get things together to take to uni - a sewing kit and tea towels, meanwhile ds asked me to buy him some Pot Noodles in the shopping so he could prepare himself.

Hehehe! @Kin

Just read a profile which said 'I am half separated' bet it's the bottom half!

Pomegranate yeah I realise I have been burned senseless by gorgeous wanker ex. An advert for avoiding good looking men if ever there was... Your El Wanker exh sounds similar kin. A vicious combination of Latin porn star, narcissistic wannabe patriarch and demanding little boy...thank god I escaped, but by god I miss the sex...

I think ex is the only reason city boy's getting any further look in. I might be more scared if he were going for the whole full on thing. Although his mixed messages are not sexy. Next date had better be fun or that's it.

I think for some time (rest of life???) I am going to be on and off the sofa/ mucking about vaguely with randoms. It seems to be even harder toget a nice reliable fwb than a boyfriend on OD.

Boyfriends and indeed lurve seem to be in good supply on here ATM and all OD finds!! Gives one some hope for the future...

Lol - the half separated is definitely the bottom half- and his other half won't know about it

What do I find attractive. Humour, a ready smile, someone who can laugh at themselves. Good old fashioned common decency. Passion, which may not be a passion/s shared. An appreciation for the simple things in life, I like down to earth folk. A man that really listens. Looks are way down the list.

I agree about the love thing you just know, the L word just confirms it.

Hostess yep sounds similar apart from the sex, Il Wanko couldn't missionary shag his way out of a paper bag.

tea towels, pah. Lets see whose DC are left after the apocalypse .

I'm on the walk of shame to collect car from outside last nights comedy club. in park, apparently Jack is a popular dogs name round theses parts

I am already horrified at the thought of my ds''s (6 and 10) leaving home clutching their tea towels!! Sob....

kin and El Wanko was the one you married. Why do we do this to ourselves? At least with Mr Sicilian Drama queen i didn't get to that altho the bastard did get me pregnant and then completely abandon me. Grr. It's no wonder I'm totally commitment phobic. :)

Yes Hostess I did marry Il Wanko, fresh from having my heart broken by the Mad Cyclist I decided that what I needed was someone I got along really well with and wasn't madly, head over heels in love with - that worked out well then...

I know you're all right. I know it really but I just want him to lurve me. I showed a male friend his texts and told him of all the times he's been round to see me with feeble excuses etc on Friday night and he said that from a bloke's perspective, he thinks he does. But I don't know! I'm going to try to leave him on the back burner as advised and see what happens.

Meanwhile, of the three men I was talking to, one is standing out as the better of the options - the Lawyer. Each text makes me think he's warm and funny, decent to his kids (and his parents), just a general all round nice guy. We'll have to see how that matches up to reality though!

OWW I for one love to hear all the gushiness - it keeps me believing that it will happen one day!

One last thing - today someone told me I couldn't possibly be the age I am. It made me a lot!

I am sitting having a coffee while FoF takes DD8 and my Dneice8 on the climbing wall .. God I fancy the pants off of him