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The Dating Thread - episode 61

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lurkinglorna · 09/08/2013 21:44

BOOM!

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OhWesternWind · 15/08/2013 21:00

Ask him if you can make it 1411 instead as you might be running a bit late ...

Pom have to admit that five children would give me pause. It could make things very complicated although it could be great fun too - all depends on ages and personalities really.

Overtheraenbow · 15/08/2013 21:05

Thanks all : that's what I thought ( first meet so no previous record to base it on!) will probably just make a joke of it and hope he's not dyslexic!! Probably a bit paranoid as ex was a real stickler anal about time keeping !!

Overtheraenbow · 15/08/2013 21:06

Oh and well done all A levellers today!! You all must be proud parents today!!

48howdidthathappen · 15/08/2013 21:09

Oh yes me too. A great big well done to all the threads kids Smile

Bant · 15/08/2013 21:23

5 kids all with the same mother or spread across 5 of them?

Pomegranatenoir · 15/08/2013 21:44

Same mother. She cheated on him and they split over year ago.

The 5 kid thing has shocked me. But I don't want to be mean!!

KinNora · 15/08/2013 21:58

Perhaps they had quads and then a singleton ? Or they couldn't afford a telly.

Yogagirl17 · 15/08/2013 21:59

Hi, just place marking. Been busy all day but heading back into the murky fray that is POF.

Pomegranatenoir · 15/08/2013 22:24

Ha ha! All different ages. I asked if he was having me at it when he first said it!! It's appears he was telling the truth!!

grinchie · 15/08/2013 22:50

Hey Yoga shame you aren't local to me, during my brief look round POF yesterday I found a few possibles.
You could move Grin

grinchie · 15/08/2013 22:53

PS congratulations to all DCs on their A level results today, I hope you all get a better nights sleep tonight Smile

TheTitleSaysItAllReally · 15/08/2013 22:55

All going well here... Firming up arrangements with Widower. Lawyer (he isn't actually but in related field and cba to name change!) is still keen, and we've pencilled in a date for the end of the month. Tesco is still keen too.

Ok, so Saturday's date is going to be an afternoon affair. What does one wear for such things? I can't think that my usual date stuff will be appropriate at a quiet country pub...

TheTitleSaysItAllReally · 15/08/2013 22:55

And congratulations to all successful students!

rollermydisco · 15/08/2013 23:14

Hello all

Hope you don't mind but de-lurking to ask a question, I've been keeping up with this thread since after Christmas but only took the plunge and joined OD 4 weeks ago, met a couple of guys since joining who I didn't hit it off with, but then have just met one with mutual box ticking.

So question is - is it odd if a guy who you had a successful first date with, and where both people agreed to another date at the time and there have been texts every day since (date was Sunday just gone), hasn't called? He said on the date he's not a big phone person, but it just strikes me as a bit of a red flag?

Or am I being paranoid?

For various reasons the soonest we can both meet up again is next weekend so I'm happy to see how it goes and if after a few more dates he still doesn't feel the urge to talk then I will not pursue the relationship further, but just wondered what the done thing was/if anyone else has come across a non-phoner type bloke?

Thanks and sorry to wade in with such a dull question :)

bigstrongmama · 15/08/2013 23:27

roller I know a few men who really can't chat on the phone (would appear moronic), but are lovely in person, so I wouldn't worry too much about that. If he isn't great in person, that's different. At least he is being up front about the phone thing.

Great to hear the good A level / uni news for the thread dcs :) can't help but wonder if it is the woo?

Yogagirl17 · 15/08/2013 23:31

grinchie afraid I'm stuck where I am! No, not really stuck - I wouldn't move the kids away from their dad but I don't really want to move anyway. Tho just found out OW & her DCs have just moved to about 1/2 mile away. Ugh, don't see why the bitch has to invade my space that's a bit close for comfort. No doubt so that when i sell the house XH & OW can get a place together and then her DCs won't need to move schools. Angry

Been chatting with Socks n Sandals - seems quite nice but I'm feeling quite jaded.

roller not sure about the phone thing. Some people really don't talk much on the phone at all. Did he phone you much before the date? Did you specifically ask him to phone you? I would say if he's in regular contact it's not a big red flag. If it's something you really want you might just have to say so - or you could phone him.

rollermydisco · 15/08/2013 23:47

He was really chatty in person and we didn't talk at all on the phone before the date as it was a bit last minute - texts are regular. I'm massively over thinking it I know, I'll calm down a bit. Thank you for your replies

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lurkinglorna · 15/08/2013 23:52

rollermydisco

sounds fine to me Smile the only online dates where i've even spoken on the phone before were "long distance" so wanted to chat before committing time/money to the journey.

everyone seems to text nowadays! i think i actually prefer it - i gave my number to one pof guy who just "called out of the blue" twice, and all seemed a bit....interfering to me Hmm

like i don't mind if someone schedules a phone call in, but with texts, you can reply to them as and when rather than having to have an "on the spot" conversation with someone who is basically a stranger.

ps good luck with 2nd date Smile

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lurkinglorna · 15/08/2013 23:54

sorry roller meant to say as well re-reading your post - if speaking on the phone is important to you, maybe think about mentioning it, or scheduling calls in as i do think a lot of chaps might just "assume" texting is ok? Smile

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MirandaWest · 16/08/2013 00:21

I hate talking on the phone whoever it's with. Texting, messaging and emails are what I prefer although I do real talking too (and talk a lot Grin).

rollermydisco · 16/08/2013 00:24

Cheers Lorna. You're right, I never actually said I'd appreciate a phone call, didn't even cross my mind as I thought it was just normal. But yes he's not a mind reader so I probably should say.

If he texts tomorrow I'll mention it'd be nice to chat briefly and gauge his reaction. Will update with the next installment to this thriller :)

Flipper934 · 16/08/2013 07:33

Well done to all of the thread's kids on their results, and well done to all you proud parents, too!

Pom, five is a lot, but like OWW says, could also be great fun. The range of ages might make me think - all under 10 could be a bit full on, but I know a single guy with four ranging from 19 to 7, and that wouldn't put me off at all.

Disco, I'm with Miranda. I saw MA last Friday, and am planning to again tonight. There's been texting and messaging all week, which is fine by me. I can talk to old friends on the telephone, but it always feels stilted with someone I don't know really well.

mcmooncup · 16/08/2013 07:55

I lurk on here occasionally as do a bit on OD.

This made me LAUGH a lot. Just goes to show it really does matter what type of messages you send when OD !

AWarmFuzzyFuture · 16/08/2013 08:01

Hey Thread, Goooood MORNING! Smile

Pomegranatenoir · 16/08/2013 08:17

Morning all,

I feel your pain on the tiredness flip 4 times my kids had me up during the night. I feel like a zombie. I just want to spend the day in bed!!

Pof has gone bit crazy and the lovely but disappearing pilot reappeared last night. I wasn't going to message him but I did. Also spent night messaging 5 kids man. He has asked me for a drink. Mmmnnnn, what to do??

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