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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off To Find The Summer Sun and Sobriety!

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Mouseface · 05/08/2013 22:38

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, take a seat and enjoy the ride. We're a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, those who are trying to give up for life, those who are giving up for a few hours because that's all that they can manage (which is fine!) or quitting just for today......

We don't wear Judgey Pants (they're far too last year darhling Wink) but we have hugs a plenty and tough love when it's needed. Which isn't often!

So, what have you got to lose? If you're reading this, you're thinking that you are no longer happy with the way you drink, which tells me that this is the Bus for you. :)

If you'd like to see where we've been so far and what we've been up to, take a peek HERE

And if you want to knnow why we're here in the first place, take a look at THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE :)

See you soon x

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Pawprint · 07/08/2013 05:10

Hi Glad thanks for asking after me - I'm ok just annoyed that I've gone back to drinking every night :(

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Anneisnotmyname · 07/08/2013 07:36

Had two glasses of wine last night, one on Monday. I'mannannoyed after three days of not drinking how quickly it creeps up. And how we're not even half way into the week and I've probably already had half my recommended units and will go way over by the time the week is over. I don't think for the last year I've had less than about 20 units a week and that is me being controlled...last year it was about 35 :(

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chippit · 07/08/2013 08:32

ANNIE - It's still better than where you were last year. Better is better. X

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Anneisnotmyname · 07/08/2013 09:46

Thanks chippit, on the one hand I know it is an improvement but on the other I know it's not good enough. And that it shouldn't be an effort not tp drink or to drink sensibly. I think I'm lucky that I don't have any physical craving for alcohol - yet! - but psychologically is another matter. Last year I had a tooth out and whilst I was sat there all I was thinking is I deserve a glass of wine tonight. Of all the things to think!

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PurpleWolfe · 07/08/2013 10:43

Annie I did really fab for about 7 weeks. Got loads done round the house - which had been really getting to me. Then, the final accolade, I cleaned my oven so well it looked like new. Unfortunately, I had a can of cider at the back of a cupboard and, as a 'reward', I allowed myself to drink it. Then, I thought that one bottle of wine from the dreaded corner shop wouldn't hurt - after all, I'd proved to myself that I could stop. Big mistake, as you will have guessed. I, too, don't seem to have so much of a physical craving - but much more of a psychological one. I 'deserve' it! Pah.

Silver, how are you this morning? Hope you are feeling a bit more positive today. Sending a hug and some strength.

Paw I find it sometimes help to do better today than yesterday and usually leads to me giving up. It doesn't seem quite so huge somehow. For instance, I tell myself that as long as I don't actually buy and wine - that's an improvement. Or, today I will eat properly and sort the food side of my nutritional needs out better than yesterday. Small steps sometimes lead to bigger steps. Good luck. Smile

Mouse Hoping for a calm, peaceful day for you today. xx

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greeneyed · 07/08/2013 13:03

purple thank you for your advice about my mum. Yes my sister wants to tackle her, i don't know if she will though.

I will try talking about my own drinking and the reasons I am cutting down, the scary liver questionnaire etc and see if anything sinks in! Hope everyone is well today. X

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PurpleWolfe · 07/08/2013 14:28

All you can do Green is try. You are a wonderful daughter for making the effort. I'm sure you know there is the chance of being met with denial, anger and ridicule. Sorry, but that's how I've sometimes been in the past should anyone dare to question my drinking habits. It won't be about how she feels about you, it's how she feels about her guilt and worry. Good luck with it all. How are you today? x

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guggenheim · 07/08/2013 16:30

Hi babes

Just checking in and sending lots of love to all xxx

Ignoring the tiny ww on my shoulder whispering about rewards. I'm not going to drink but the whispers are still there sometimes.
Smile

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greeneyed · 07/08/2013 16:42

Purple thank you, that's just it - I don't feel like I will be a good daughter if I don't say anything but I do expect it would be met with ridicule and accusations of patronising her etc - I expect she will say I am your mother you shouldn't be telling me what to do - anyway I'll try a softly softly approach and chip away.

Worse case scenario she will tell me I'm attacking her and have no right to interfere. Mostly though I think she will a)lie about how much she is drinking and b) quote some Daily Mail article she has read about it being good for you :)

I am good today thanks - knackered and sweaty after session with Personal Trainer but feeling much more positive. Had a couple of glasses of wine last night with a guest we had staying so can see it creeping up again but nothing now until my friends birthday on Saturday to which I'm taking a bottle of 5% wine. The fact I have this training to do is focussing my mind because I don't think I could do it with a hangover!

I'm looking for some sort of cycling challenge to do over the next few months to keep me focussed.

How are you today, still glowing after your holiday?

Guggs I'm not sure she will ever go away but we will just get more practiced at ignoring her x

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GladToBeBack · 07/08/2013 16:54

Thanks purple - hideously hung over this morning, went to work, now home and behaving like the classic addict - by topping up....

Life could be so simple, but I make it so complicated

Hoping all babes are having a peaceful day xx

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Pawprint · 07/08/2013 16:55

Thanks Purple - that's a really good approach. I have been rather neglecting healthy eating lately, so I can at least address that.

Sorry to hear about your mum - that must be very worrying. Don't know what to suggest, I'm afraid :(

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GladToBeBack · 07/08/2013 16:57

And a mahoosive cold sore to boot.

mmhhh

Nothing to do with me being on a binge

At all - no siree - I'm obviously just tired and run down .........

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PurpleWolfe · 07/08/2013 17:20

Silver I know exactly what you mean about the 'topping up' shit! I'm such a person of two halves. I've spent the day drinking and trying to book next years holiday - along with surf lessons for me and the DC! As for those fucking awful cold sores......my huge sympathy. You have Zovirax, right? xxx

Green You have a good amount of focus right now - despite the small hiccups. Keep at it Lovely.

Paw Good luck on the nutrition front. Smile

(Wrote something derogative about "The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" but deleted it as it was a bit too judgemental!) Grin xxxx

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greeneyed · 07/08/2013 17:41

Thank you purps. You'll get there, when you are ready. In the meantime, small steps till you take the leap back on the bus. X

silver you are very self aware, what's stopping you knocking it on the head again? Fuck it voice, just don't want to, can't find the energy? Sometimes I find I just want to sink to the bottom for the hell of it.

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guggenheim · 07/08/2013 17:55

green you are right,thanks.

I like the sound of the PT,I'd like to try some pt sessions when I'm working again (just do supply). Are you happy with it? Worth the money? I suspect that it is worth every single penny
Sod it, I used to be skinny.

FWIW I would have to say something to dm but I would only do it the once because if she doesn't want to listen then you can't make her. I would just talk about how stopping has made you much happier and calmer etc. Then wait to see if she wants to take things further.

silver please talk about it, I'm sure it will help you and the bus too. x

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GladToBeBack · 07/08/2013 18:09

Cooked curry for tea , for me and DD

I made sure I made it (out of a jar I hasten to add - Lidl - amazing place) before I knew I'd be too pissed to cook

I'm now half eating it while posting

I'm not interested in food because I have alcohol

This is what being in the vice like grip of alcohol, is like

It's shit

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GladToBeBack · 07/08/2013 18:21

Fuck - I am ok - don't want to worry anyone

I just want to make it clear to all of you, that having had a long period of sobriety (ish) , I find the contrast is astonishing - and it is so easy to fall back into old habits very quickly

If you reach your goal of no booze, never ever think that one little drink will be ok

It will kick off craving in your brain, that you have no control over

However that said, this does not apply to all of us - there are BBs who can control their drinking

I did for a while.

But for me when the control measures are removed.

Back at bollocking SQUARE ONE

I just want alcohol banned from everywhere for ever to make my life a bit simpler Grin

We , as a race of people, don't need it to survive do we?

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PurpleWolfe · 07/08/2013 18:23

Silver You and I seem to be in the same sorry pit right now. Achieving three meals a day for DC is as far as I can aim just at the moment (and they do their own breakfast!!). Deep, fucking deep sigh. xx

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PurpleWolfe · 07/08/2013 18:29

Silver You are having such a crap time! I was hoping that I could find someone could hypnotise me into hating wine. No friggin' luck so far. Sad You are not alone. There are thousands of us out there. Some who recognise the problem, some who recognise the problem and make attempt to defeat them and the rare few who recognise and defeat the problem. We just struggle through, trying to make the best of things. The reason we are here is because we haven't thrown the towel in, we keep battling to make our lives better - and better for those we love. Keep on trying, when you can. That's all we can do. Huggles. xxxxx

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Ladame · 07/08/2013 18:35

Silver and Purps Mine is not in my brain, it's coiled in my tummy and when wine is mentioned, especially after a few nights off, it wakes up, slowly uncoils itself, and opens one large green eye. It is the hardest f*ing thing to resist. It's almost physical. It's like an evil dragon.

I've done three nights, and I'm in the kitchen having a drink with Mr Ladame. I don't have the willpower to go more than three days. I hate that about myself. But, just think, both of you, it could have been every night, but we know that we can resist for longer periods of time when we are feeling stronger. Don't be down on yourselves, I truly believe that for every babe on the bus, there are hundreds of us in the same boat.

Sending both of you, my love from across the sea xx

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GladToBeBack · 07/08/2013 18:42

Google baclofen/French brain surgeon ... See my Brain is so fried I can't even remember his name .....

And that is just two weeks of drinking like a twat

It (baclofen) turned my life around as far as drinking is concerned

I was, and am, lucky enough to have Jonathan chick as my shrink ( I suspect I am a case study for him!!)

But I am lying to him.....

Where d I go from here

I don't know, but I do know that anonymous strangers on an Internet forum got me to this point in my life

And it is so much better than the way I was a year ago

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greeneyed · 07/08/2013 18:44

Thank you for the advice guggs it is all really helpful. Yes the PT is worth the money as having zero self discipline it helps to be held accountable and I'm such a people pleaser it's good to get a pat on the back for being a good girl. But it is bloody expensive and I can't afford to do more than 12 weeks. Not sure what will happen then. I will need to commit to something I can't get out of to keep me going I think.

silver I'm sorry the WW has got you, you too purps .

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GladToBeBack · 07/08/2013 18:54

The end of my addiction by

Dr Olivier Ameisen

READ IT

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PurpleWolfe · 07/08/2013 19:00

Thanks Ladame and Green. The DC are downstairs just now. Clean, healthily fed, happy, playing games and ready for bed in a bit. How the fuck I manage to get simple but essential things done each day is a mystery to me. I 'cope' whilst drinking but do so much better without the shackles of alcohol. It's a friggin' no brainer - and still I drink. Sad xx

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guggenheim · 07/08/2013 19:55

Hello gorgeous babes,

Yup I can identify with all of the above, especially with the physical reaction ladame and when silver says that this thread got me to this point.

'Cunning,powerful,baffling'- and waits to bite you on the arse when you least expect it. Every so often I get a bit smug because this is the longest i've ever done af,disregarding being pg & bf. But I KNOW that there will come a day when I pick up a glass or if /when something horrible happens I will probably drink.

Not drinking today,thankfully and I'm going to keep it that way as long as I'm able. One day at a time and all that.

Look after yourselves babes

green you will be a Goddess in 12 weeks Smile even more so,I mean.

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