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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off On A Journey Far & Wide, Full Of Support, With No Reasons To Hide.

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Mouseface Sun 23-Jun-13 23:19:59

Hey, I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes on this Bus. smile

We're heading to sobriety, in various different ways, in our own different ways, some of us are there, some not quite yet.

We're a group of non judgemental, mothers, wives, partners, sisters, daughters, girlfriends, and of course all of the male equivalents that run alongside those 'tags', but most of all, we are, or we have been, just like YOU. smile Real people with real concerns about how much we are drinking all of the time.

Our relationships with alcohol are varied, and you'll find most of us are wanting to do something about it..... desperate to stop the cycle of drinking, stopping, drinking, stopping, drinking more, stopping for shorter periods of time and then the reverse, doing ever so well and then 'something' happens and you're back to square one, a place that sometimes gets a little crowded, one little square filled with lots of people who all want out.

Sound familiar?

You're never alone here. Ever.

Come and take a seat, post or lurk. We won't bite but we WILL look after you, SUPPORT you, if you want us to. smile

And for those want to know how we've ended up where we are today, about three years on from THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE

To our last thread JUST HERE

It will be lovely to meet you so why not take a seat and have a gossip about all things booze related but also, DCs, husbands, wives, in-laws, out-laws, and everything in between.

There's always a seat for YOU xxx

OfficialSweetieMonitor Mon 24-Jun-13 14:02:17

marking place

Should I change my name back to joey now that everyone knows I am the Official Sweetie Monitor?

<reckon ma would organise a coup if I did grin )

obrigada Mon 24-Jun-13 15:03:02

Marking my place as wellsmile 12 days alcohol free today!

PurpleWolfe Mon 24-Jun-13 18:50:31

Come back Joey! smile xx

Ladame Mon 24-Jun-13 19:11:54

I like sweetie personally grin

Checking in after a weekend of cooking classes with my friend. Teaching peeps French cuisine. Exhausted and juggling rellies at the same time.
Isinde I feel for you, different stuff but hard work, I send you happy French fairy dust in the last leg xxx
Mouse well done you.

Will catch up with all other babes in days to come.

Too much WW, looking forward to some downtime with my Kindle and baths and early nights.

Hello Purps big ((hug)).

Edinbugger Mon 24-Jun-13 19:16:25

Oooh shiney new thread. Feels like a nice fresh start. (Spot the person who has never stayed sober and posting long enough to move from an old thread to a new one).

OfficialSweetieMonitor Mon 24-Jun-13 19:50:05

purple ! lovely to see you. I am still Joey inside, but dare not turn my back, as could well be ousted by scheming OpalFruitStealers &#8482;

PurpleWolfe Mon 24-Jun-13 20:19:01

Hey OfficialSweetieMonitor, you can have a hundred names but you'll always be my Joey! wink

Sorry not to have been around. I'm not good at posting when I'm doing crap - even though I know I should. Something about having to keep admitting I'm failing, continually. Was that really me that got to seven weeks?!

I've had a brief look back over the post (I've not been lurking) and thank you so much for everyone who has given me a 'shout out'. Ma, Baby, Ladame, Jango, Isinde, Mouse and everyone else. So sorry if I've missed anyone - there's been a lot of posts since I was on last! Thank you to those who've PM'd me. It's meant heaps!

Sending positive vibes to all, old and new. xxxxx

lonnika Mon 24-Jun-13 20:33:49

Hi purple - struggling here but just hanging on in there - just - haywire hormones and life in general not great ATM. Well done Obrigada 12 days is great smile
Love to all xxx L

dementedma Mon 24-Jun-13 20:57:20

Oh you are all gonna be in SO much trouble with mouse for not filling up the old thread. I'm telling........

PurpleWolfe Mon 24-Jun-13 21:00:43

You bloody squeal pants, Ma! You are on here too!! smile xxx

jango36 Mon 24-Jun-13 21:28:33

Hi babes! marking my place on this shiney new thread smile)
Day...... TEN here for me!!
The best bits for me are: no stale breath in am, no sweating, no missing time!, no odd pains in my liver region!, no headaches, no raging thirst, ability to think clearly, feel sharper, far more orgainised, feel calmer, able to control emotions.
This is just a small list I could go on..
Hi purps great to see you again!
obrigada your doing so well!
waves to mouse ma joey and lonnika and all the other babes x
Gonna read in bed in a bit... One of fav things to dosmile) get me living on the edge..
Speak soon babes x

OfficialSweetieMonitor Mon 24-Jun-13 22:10:57

Was pretty stupid and had a drink 2 nights in a row... bit cross with myself because I woke feeling better than have done for months (hopefully the new medication is finally working! Fingers crossed) and feel like I sabotaged it with alcohol. I don't want to think "oh my health has improved, so I can go back to drinking now"

I've worked SO HARD in the last year to bring it under control - it would be ridiculous to waste all that effort!

babyjane1 Mon 24-Jun-13 22:32:58

purple your back (doing a ridiculous mum dance with glee) you've been sorely missed, honest I'm dead chuffed your back. jango you sound great, your doing so well !!! How's the legs today ma, mouse hope you and nemo are having a pain free (or a bit less) day today. I was at my assessment today by my physiatrist today, she declared me as sane as she was and congratulated me on my upbeat, positive temperament and suggested I would make a good counsellor which made me feel good x x x

Fairenuff Mon 24-Jun-13 22:39:28

Just popping in to grab a seat. Off to bed now though, will catch up tomorrow.

Sweetie keep your new name, I like it. Reminds me of Captain Darling in Blackadder grin

Don't worry about the 2 nights in a row. That's done, it's behind you now. Just look forwards and hopefully you will still feel those benefits that are just emerging after all this time. Stick with it, give it time to work.

Night all x

venusandmars Mon 24-Jun-13 22:41:32

Hopping on board - now that the other thread is full << culprits, you know who you are - ahemm!! >>

I'm doing OK, just feeling quiet atm, but lurking constantly.

<lurches into sidecar clutching fags and stepping on everyone's feet. squidges Ma over with fat backside and gets desperately-needs-cutting red curly hair all over the back seat. belches loudly and plumps tummy of any unsuspecting Babe unfortunate enough to be nearest and falls asleep on it>

IT. IS. DONE!

After working from 7am til 3am yesterday and 7 til 13.00 today then looking after DTs til 8pm (they were so so good and went to bed like little angels) then finally working from 8 til now..I have finished!!!

I emailed the last document an hour ago and have fallen into a bottle of wine since. Really stupid as I am beyond tired. blush DP away so I will need to be up at silly o-clock with the DTs but so so relieved this project is finished (at least until the client wants re-writes)

Sorry to be useless on the bus. Sweetie you will always be Joey to me but I do like the Ab Fab connotations of Sweetie-darling.
Venus so lovely to see you on here. I get that you are feeling quiet my love. Thank you for posting, this bus needs you and your wonderful prescence.
Faire hello lovely!
Baby I second your emotion! If I had an ounce of energy left I would be dancing too.
PUUURRRPUUUHL welcome back my lovely Babe! So so pleased to hear from you. You were missed and we luffs you!

Jango king-hell! double figures! Well done on day 10 my friend
Obrigada a dozen! Well done lovey and great to see you.
Hello to Edin and Ma and Mouse and ladame and everybody I havent name checked because I am too tired to remember my own name let alone anyone elses.

Ladame you would be proud of me. I went and bought a small chunk of non-vegan-pretend but actually genuine-evil-animal-product-but delicious CHEESE today and I have just eaten the lot!
<hauls bulk out of office to sleep sleep sleep>

tomorrow is another day.
Please Jeff may Nemo and my DTs catch the second star on the right and sleep straight through til morning...
xxx

Pink01 Tue 25-Jun-13 06:33:11

Morning!

Lovely to wake with a clear head. Thanks for all the encouragement.

Babyjane I don't know how to link on my iPad sorry but it is called 'to ask you all the positives of not drinking alcohol' it has not been posted on since yesterday so it is a good few threads down but worth digging out and having a read. So many good answers!

It was started on the 23rd if that helps to find it,

Have a good day all

Pink x

mrsdrew Tue 25-Jun-13 07:33:31

Hellooooo. Having a day when I think it is a big problem (after doing very shame-making things when plastered on Friday). Been wondering if its a problem for about 8 yrs. Sometimes it seems fine, sometimes it really, really doesn't. Will take a seat and lurk..

OfficialSweetieMonitor Tue 25-Jun-13 08:20:03

Welcome mrsdrew and well done for being brave and making the first post! There should be some people along in a bit with lots of great advice. Do you have any support in real life?

I'm not much good with the advice today... DD is off school again (sore throat this time) I am going to lose my job at this rate sad

dementedma Tue 25-Jun-13 08:21:12

<kicks snoring heap that is indie >
Welcome mrsdrew. Whatever you did, someone on here will be able to top it!
Venus good to see you. We miss your wisdom and relative sanity.
Off to Ds' leavers mass today, as he has a reading to do. Last of the 3 Dcs to finish primary school - another stage over.

Edinbugger Tue 25-Jun-13 08:24:47

Isinde - Yayy! And relax. Hope you get a bit of a rest today.

mrsdrew - welcome. I think the wisdom is if you're worried about it then it's a problem. But it's a problem that everyone on here knows loads about so you're not alone. smile

Woke up this morning and lay there for about five minutes relishing my clear head. It's an issue for me this morning cos I am going out tonight and will drink. I'd love to think I won't but I will. On the other hand I'm thinking - so what, I've only drunk on one other occasion since June 1st, (which is astonishing) so where's the harm in a couple of glasses? On the other I'm thinking I'd love not to have to think about whether I'm going to drink or not. I feel so great at the moment I don't want to ruin it but that means committing to never drinking and that thought is too scary. Ho hum. Whitter whitter.

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