Hello, I'm Mouse :)
Welcome to the Bus, take a seat and enjoy the ride. We're a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, those who are trying to give up for life, those who are giving up for a few hours because that's all that they can manage (which is fine!) or quitting just for today......
We don't wear Judgey Pants (they're far too last year darhling 
) but we have hugs a plenty and tough love when it's needed. Which isn't often!
So, what have you got to lose? If you're reading this, you're thinking that you are no longer happy with the way you drink, which tells me that this is the Bus for you. :)
If you'd like to see where we've been so far and what we've been up to, take a peek HERE
And if you want to knnow why we're here in the first place, take a look at THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE :)
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Mouseface · 05/08/2013 22:38
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ThisIs - I'm so very sorry that you have hit rock bottom, I really am. So, what are you going to do today, we know what you shouldn't do...... although I so know how you feel, you want to drink to reach equilibrium. I get that. That was the only way that I could get through the next day, start drinking again..... as shit as that was, it was the only way I could cope with talking, being, existing even.
The self loathing will fade, the shame fades too...... You wonder why you? Why can't you just feckin STOP! Why can't you be like others, be strong? Why can't you take this addiction/habit/illness or whatever you choose to call it out of your head, your life?
Can I ask you if you have a trigger that you know about? Is there something that you know makes you want to drink, I mean past or present or even both?
You have to start and unravel the mess you are in. You HAVE to try to be positive because if you can't get your self worth back, if you can't like yourself or love yourself then you won't want to stop, and this will be a continual cycle that you run through again and again, each time getting deeper and deeper into despair. I DON'T WANT THAT FOR YOU!
Or any Babe
So how can we help you This? What can we do to help you find the tools you need to start unpicking the wound up ball of absolute torture that you are currently trapped inside?
I like IsinDe's idea, making a list of 5 things you really want more than anything in your life, they don't have to be in order, they can be as many or few as you like or you can just try and think of a reason to STOP hurting yourself like this...... 
I don't give those out freely, they come from Nemo. :)
I'm sorry if I've X posted with loads of people, just off to get Nemo and then I'll be back to catch up again.
YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS! You really, really are. xxx
afternoon all
thisis sorry you are struggling at the mo. Hang in there. although you still feel rubbish today is a new start. you CAN do this.
jango you have done well so far this week resisting. don't beat yourself up. start over tomorrow.
loveing the phrase: "alcohol fosters inertia" sooooo true. I have achieved so much in this last 2 weeks since cutting down.
This morning I went for my second run of the week - I am so chuffed 
not far again, but the fact that I actually did it is amazing for me. see what I can do when I don't drink LOL
I will also sign up for healthy eating - need to loose a considerable amount of weight. Not doing great today as I've just had 3 biscuits with my cuppa ...but I am taking it one step at a time!
Day 7 for me today. So in the last 14 days I have only drunk 3/4 of a bottle of wine (last Weds)
and I feel different...I was just sitting here trying to think how to describe how I feel when I realised that I feel HAPPY. and that is an emotion I haven't experienced for some time.
This bus is amazing and you are all such wonderful strong folks. so glad I hopped aboard.
To all those struggling the key thing that is currently helping me have more AF days is having no wine in the house.
EXACTLY
Breaking the habit of buying the alcohol in the first place is the very first step you need to take This
Alcohol is a MASSIVE DEPRESSANT! So, obviously, the more you consume, the lower you go..... just like the bottle of wine itself, all you're left with is an empty bottle, a void, the further down the bottle you go, the further down into the darkness of self loathing and you go too, both have nothing to give when you get there and like Greeny said, the best thing about hitting the bottom is the bounce it gives you to get right back up there.
But if you really do want to stop, you've got to stop buying the drink in the first place. If you have a DP/H etc.... who is going to drink when you're trying not to, then that's going to be hard to watch. I know I found it torture and do now when DH eats something that I can't, bacon sarnie is a prime example!!
You have to stop. You can't keep on putting yourself through this sweetheart, you just can't.
Have you thought about external help? RL help? Someone to talk to, someone who can guide you in the right direction and help you to stop drinking how you are? Your GP? AA? Do you have a Community Alcohol Support Team in your area do you know?
Please, life is a precious gift, even yours, no matter what you are going through. xxx
Jango - what happened to make you want to drink? Is everything okay lovely? I'm sorry you're suffering xxx
This take some practical steps to help yourself achieve what you want. You only have to get through one day. Break it down into hours, half hours, minutes if need be.
Make that decision not to drink today. That is all. Come back tomorrow and we'll talk about it some more. Don't try to tackle the whole addiction at once. You don't need to.
Think of it as carving a beautiful statue out of marble. You have to do it one chip at a time. Keep doing it and eventually something magnificent will emerge 
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Jango posted this on the new thread so I've C&P'd it to here :)
"Hi all
my self pitying is lifting slightly.
I will still drink
Thanks mouse and all for those much needed words of wisdom I know it comes from the heart with you all cos you have all been there or maybe are still there.
Im aiming for damage limitation today, off to pick up dd2 in a min, Have bought pretty low strength alcohol 2.8% larger but have got six! will try not to have them all. But if I am honest I know I will.
Im stopping again tomorrow, I am! I have to! this is shit! and its not getting me anywhere!
Mouse what triggered it you ask. Well I cant blame anyone/thing for this addiction really I know but I think its the sheer, bloody loneliness I feel. Am surrounded by people really I work nearly full time, I have got some lovely friends. Im close to my mom. Its the fact that I cant talk to nsdp, I have told him its over, he says fine but its never that simple is it?
We share a daughter, I guess I feel I have failed again in a relationship that I never thought would end. I loved this man deeply. But no longer and of course I am scared of being alone but not as scared as the thought of being with him for the next twenty/thirty years."
Jango - you are blaming yourself for a lot of things that are out of your control imo.... you need to take the pressure off yourself! You can't make your ex be less of an arse which is the impression I'm getting from you...... You being scared of him does not sit with me, not at all and that is clearly a reason for you drinking the way that you do, to block him out... his treatment of you or the way he talks to you.... something in that is not right.
The fact that you share a DD puts pressure on you to stay together but in my book, that is not always the best way forward, especially in a relationship that has or is breaking down. Two unhappy parents, living together, sharing the same space verse two separated parents, living apart but sharing the responsibility of bringing her up, are more likely to be happy..... I get the impression that he'd rather not let you go.......
I'd rather be alone than go back to what I was once trapped in, I honestly would. But when you're trapped, you can't always get out, or see the greener grass that is on the other side.
When you say he said 'fine' about it being over, is that how you left it?
Have you talked to your Mom about your drinking or any close friends?
I guess for now sweetheart you will drink those beers because you've bought them and actually if you are honest, you want to and then later on try to get some sleep. Don't promise to stop drinking tomorrow today, wake up tomorrow, come on here and talk to us.
Then, and only is you are certain post the words "TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING" and you'll find a whole heap of support. I for one will clap if you feel strong enough to post that tomorrow.
But for now, let's get through tonight shall we? Give yourself a break sweetheart, there's always more to initial posts than meets the eye..... one step at a time, maybe only drink 4 or 5 of those 6 beers? Maybe make that you goal for tonight?
Keep posting xxx
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