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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Off To Find The Summer Sun and Sobriety!

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Mouseface · 05/08/2013 22:38

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, take a seat and enjoy the ride. We're a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers, those who are trying to give up for life, those who are giving up for a few hours because that's all that they can manage (which is fine!) or quitting just for today......

We don't wear Judgey Pants (they're far too last year darhling Wink) but we have hugs a plenty and tough love when it's needed. Which isn't often!

So, what have you got to lose? If you're reading this, you're thinking that you are no longer happy with the way you drink, which tells me that this is the Bus for you. :)

If you'd like to see where we've been so far and what we've been up to, take a peek HERE

And if you want to knnow why we're here in the first place, take a look at THIS THREAD RIGHT HERE :)

See you soon x

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Anneisnotmyname · 09/08/2013 07:42

Last day of my holiday here and I've had alcohol every day. One glass of wine, then two, then one, then two again last night. Probably less than I'd normally have on a holiday or a week off work but I don't know why I had a drink at all??

I wasn't drinking to get drunk - far from it I didn't want to spoil things for the kids by being hungover-so really what was the point? I'm sick of this habit of daily drinking.

anyway I will not be drinking tonight. I won't get home till seven and there is no wine in so I will make a start on the laundry. Well that is the plan, I bet there will still be a voice in my head saying why not stop off at the supermarket on the way home....

Sorry not to name check and for the me me post. I've read everyone's post but im on my phone its hard to keep up.

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jango36 · 09/08/2013 08:38

Hi all I have managed three weeks with only two drinking days. One was more of a session with five cans! the other was yesterday was one bottle of larger 660mls at five percent. So not too bad actually.

Ive not been drunk since New yrs eve.
Ive made changes for the better. I need to keep it up and I will do.
Its thanks to this bus though really - just reading the posts spurs me on and makes me feel like Im not alone on this crazy journey.

This is the first year I have managed this. EVER in my adult life. I ve been reflecting so much considering all the stupid choices and situations I ve put self in ! I could curl up with shame and regret! butwhat can you do? Its done!

I WONT be drinking tonight! I dont want to! I want to do something positive instead :))

Love to al you babes - joey and silver nice to see you back. Im pretty new and dont post that much but I am ALWAYS lurking lol xxx

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lonnika · 09/08/2013 09:20

Hi very positive on this bus today :)

jango. Well done
chippit good luck with the counsellor
Annie. Don't buy the wine :)
Radio. Hi and keep gong
Venus. Great to hear to you and thanks

To whoever asked if I went to AA - the answer is no. I used this bus and changed my habits - and I really think my drinking 'had crept up on me' as per the tv ad.

I am on holiday tomorrow - going with in laws - taking my own non- alc drink. Spoken to hubby about the fact I will not be drinking on Holiday and he needs to support me when they start there 'just have one', ' it will do you good' etc ..

Hope we can all keep strong together :)

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greeneyed · 09/08/2013 10:22

Morning babes! I wish i could boing but I just can't I need carbs! What I would do for a fruit scone with butter and jam right now! On the plus side I've lost 9 pounds . ..

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aliasjoey · 09/08/2013 10:46

lonnika hope you have a great holiday and enjoy it all the more without hangovers

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Fairenuff · 09/08/2013 12:02

Radio we call that voice the Wine Witch.

Don't listen to her.

She is crafty, she creeps up on you when you're least expecting it, she is an expert at taking you by surprise. She knows your weaknesses, she is alert to your vulnerabilities. And she is relentless. Let her in and she will just keep coming back.

She doesn't care about you, although she pretends she does. She tells you that you deserve a treat and that 'just one' is all you need. She draws your attention to the booze aisle, to the sunny day, to the cold, dark depressing nights. There is always something she can use as leverage, as a weapon against you.

Don't listen to her.

She only thinks of herself. As long as she gets her fix she can keep going and she will get stronger and more insistent. She will go on and on and on at you until you cave in.

She will disrupt your sleep pattern, chip away at your self esteem, whisper in your ear about how weak and pathetic you are. She will offer you a magic cure, to make you feel better instantly. But the price is high.

Some have paid over the counter again and again and again. Some have paid with the loss of relationships, jobs, homes. And some have paid with their life.

Don't listen to her.

You need to be very firm with her, like you would with a naughty toddler. No means no. Don't even give her the tiniest bit of thought. Do that and she will go away. She ain't as a strong as she makes out to be. Like all bullies, she backs down if you stand up to her Smile

Hi all, I'm back from holidays. Had a great time, all is well. DH gone back to work today and dc have fallen onto their phones Grin

Got lots of catching up to do - back later.

Waves to all. Hi to newbies x

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lonnika · 09/08/2013 12:05

Hi Faire. That post is fab !!!!

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dementedma · 09/08/2013 12:09

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Fairenuff · 09/08/2013 12:20

Ma love the video, what talent! (Did you realise though that it shows the name of the person who uploaded it)

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dementedma · 09/08/2013 12:31

oops. ah well, thats me busted Grin
I'll see if I can change it

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Fairenuff · 09/08/2013 12:31

Lonnika congratulations on 100 days!! You are an inspiration to us all and should be very proud of yourself. Success stories are so motivational Smile

And to think that you got there one day at a time. It all started with Day 1 and now look at you - amazing.

Have a fab holiday x

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Fairenuff · 09/08/2013 12:32

Ma you better get used to it - when she's rich and famous everyone will know who you are Grin

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aliasjoey · 09/08/2013 12:46

faire that was a great post, I'd forgotten about...

"chip away at your self esteem, whisper in your ear about how weak and pathetic you are" and that reminded me!

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Fairenuff · 09/08/2013 13:02

There's safety in numbers joey Smile

And as Mouse says, you can check out any time you want but you can never leave.

Reminds me of that song from Oliver - You can go but be back soon...

< wanders off whistling >

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lonnika · 09/08/2013 13:45

Ma - she is brilliant !!!!!! Very talented and very beautiful - you must be one proud mum x

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dementedma · 09/08/2013 13:52

thanks lonnika
i cant figure out how to remove my name from the you tube clip so have asked mumsnet to delete my post for now and I'll try again later

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guggenheim · 09/08/2013 13:55

Lol!
Afternoon babes

Blimey this bus moves fast! I was just going to tell joey that there had been loads of stuff happening on the bus and then make some shit up

Great posts,very inspiring and a good reminder that a little drinky on a friday night is rarely just the one glass.

Lonnika you are an amazing babe, you joined the bus got all sober and just kept at it. And now here you are 100 + days sober and well and calm. But..on holiday with the in ln laws??? That is a true test of sobriety,I'd say! Anyway, well done.

I have something I want to do more than I want to drink...there is a bloody enormous mozzie bite on my leg and I'd give all the champagne in the world to scratch it more. Must resist,arrgh!
I'm like some kind of gorgeous celeb. for mozzies,honestly they can't resist the sight of my white blue skin with those delectable veins just under the surface. See, I can write porn for mosquitos, without even trying!

Ma I wasn't sure which girl was your daughter but they are both incredible singers and very talented girls.Smile

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guggenheim · 09/08/2013 13:58

Oh FFS! Sorry ma ONE girl is clearly singing and the other girl is signing and I'm an idiot.

See why I shouldn't drink?

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Pink01 · 09/08/2013 15:28

Hi babes

Still on holiday and have drank every day Hmm

My phone is playing up and won't load up the thread properly, it keeps throwing me out when I try and flip the thread, so I am sorry I have no idea how everyone is but sending love and strength and I hope you are all doing much better than me.

Feel I have let myself down badly and I don't understand WHY. I had no real urge to drink but now I have started.........

Will post once I am home which is either tomorrow or Sunday and will hopefully be ale to read thread properly and NC

Love to all

Pink X

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dementedma · 09/08/2013 16:24

lol at guggs
mine is the one singing - the dark haired one

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GladToBeBack · 09/08/2013 16:42

Beautiful girl, beautiful voice ma

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PurpleWolfe · 09/08/2013 16:49

She's fab Ma! xxx

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chippit · 09/08/2013 16:51

Good afternoon all

green well done on the weight loss. Currently sitting at my desk with a bowl of crisps, so will take a little inspiration from you and switch to oatcakes (I'm lying about this).

lonnika good luck with the holiday. try to remember what they are all about (it's been a while since I organised a holiday and didn't plan it around where / what I would drink...what I would wear when drinking...what time is too early to start said drinking). Just relax and have FUN!

faire brilliant post. thank you.

ma your DD made me cry. Most things make me cry at the moment, to be fair...but I sat at my desk watching her sing with tears running down my face. She is SO SO talented.

pink sending you a holiday hug wherever you are. Tomorrow is always a new day.

So, had my first counsellor appointment today and am pleased to say it went much better than expected. I didn't ramble and she really helped me 'align my thoughts' (I know that makes me sound like a wanker, but i can't think of a better way to put it). She made some observations that I hadn't thought of (despite thinking of myself as a smarty pants) and was generally just quite lovely and reassuring that she could help me work some of my crap out.

She also said that it would be wise to take a break from alcohol as it's brilliant at masking what's really making the boat rock. (Duh, yes, I know...that's why I love it so much). We'll see. Next session is in 2 weeks time and I have homework. Would consider going every week, but I'd need to sell a kidney.

It was good. I liked it. I have hopes that it will help.

I also have a pack of Beck's Blue in the fridge and some low fat popcorn in the cupboard.

Yeah, that's how I roll on day 6. [hmmm]. I barely recognise myself.

To be honest, without booze, i simply have NO idea who I am - suppose that's what I'm hoping to find out.

Happy Friday night to you all, ladies.

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babyjane1 · 09/08/2013 17:22

Hi babes, chippit you sound like a different person, I'm so glad your a chipper chippit!!! Sending love to all our lovely babes, take away and iron bru for me tonight, rock and roll eh xxxxx

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guggenheim · 09/08/2013 18:01

ma you must be a very proud mum x

pink there's no such thing as letting yourself down,here on the bus. We all have the same problem with booze and the same struggles.Look after yourself.

chippit You might be a bit overcome with emotion for more than one reason, talented though missMa is. Sobbing like a broken tap often comes with giving up the sauce. It does block out our feelings and it's such great 'fun' not when you first get them back.But they are your very own emotions to enjoy at your leisure,not just boozy highs and lows.

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