Would you be happy with your son / daughter dating a single parent ?

[Bigbadticklemonster]

Just the title really would you care if your adult kids dated single parents ?

Why shocking?

'I would be worried a single father might not be very n ice'

are you actually four?

As for Holly words fail me.

Can't wait for your kids' marriages to break down....come back onto this thread when two in three of them do then be so bloody ridiculously stupid.

Ah yes, fair point, I was taken aback at that first comment about dads. I wasn't shocked though, I just thought the poster was a bit thick. Can't comment on the others without checking back, though.

It's ok. this is the 'stupid replies about single parents' thread.

shocking replies.

I suspect The Guardian or The Telegraph may well be interested in these posts from 'the meeting place for supposedly intelligent women'

Going to link to this thread in Lone Parents. Have reported Holly's post as it's inflammatory and wrong.

It's certainly not my experience, but if it's Holly's experience then it's not wrong. As I said, I don't agree with it being the norm (or even within my experience) but Holly is entitled to put their experiences forward.

Since DH had never been married and had no children and I was the single parent it would be somewhat hypocritical. I did not have 'baggage'. My DS was not damaged in anyway and DH and his entire extended family treated him exactly the same as our subsequent children.
I find Holly's post depressing- it just appears to lump all single parents as one.

Depends on their age, tbh.

Yup. Depends entirely on age. That's it. Lone parent? How the fuck old are you. Tell me cos of you;'re a certain age and a lone/single parent. you're DANGEROUS AND TO BE AVOIDED.

What age might that actually be expat?

exotic I said it was me that used 'baggage' and explained what I meant. Please look back 10 mins or so cos although I don't normally care if people are offended by my speaking my mind (within reason), this has been taken wrongly, probably my fault by not explaining in the first place, but it didn't occur to me that people would assume I meant the kids by it.

BBQ, you're projecting a bit, I think. Ok, extreme example, but would you want your single, no kids 17 year old going with, say, Ulrika Johnson? Or, to be fair, with another 17 year old with 2 kids already? I wouldn't.

And I may be wrong, but I think expat meant also the age of her child.

As a parent, I don't think it's up to me to approve or not of my children's partners. I am there to support them and wouldn't dream of dictating who they chose to spend their time with. I might venture an opinion if asked directly, but I wouldn't want to risk alienating them by telling them they shouldn't be with someone. I hope they are sensible enough to make good decisions for themselves. Try to put your recent nasty experience behind you - there are plenty of other decent folk around

I did read your post and explanation Onemoresleep, you are not the only one to mention baggage.

Onesleep thanks for pointing out that I am projecting.

You areright.

I am glad to have been reminded of my shortcomings.

Compared to you I am really just a bit of a nothing.

I bow to your superior opinion [bows]

MWThere's something really quite distasteful about referring to a single parent and their children as baggage.

When I met my ex, I was a 28 year old single parent. With my own home, a good job, and financial independence. He was 34, living at home, earning the same salary for 10 years or so, no ambition, and no assets.

Thanks to me he set up his own business which doubled his earnings, bought a brand new BMW, and part owns our large home. But of course as a single parent I'm sure I added nothing to his life (!).

I want my children to be happy, and financially secure. I couldn't care less if their future partners had no children, one child or 10, so long as they worked and had their own money, and weren't expecting my sons to bankroll their lives.

Ah, ok, exotic.

Pmsl, BBQ. You had me, but yes, you are certainly laughable, possibly not idiotic. Just troubled.

Oh onesleep I know you so well. Glad I made you laugh. And that you are so nice also. .

Depends on the intentions of the parent. If the relationship was purely in order to replace an absent parent (as I have known) then no. If it is genuine love and respect, then yes.

Soooo much prejudice against single parents.

Here is Onesleep post from another single-oarent bashing thread.

"After four months you want him to be the person to 'bring up your child'. If, as you say, you work with vulnerable children, would you use that reasoning at work? Would you condone it?
Frankly you're acting like a silly, irresponsible teenager. You must put the fact you have a child before your personal inadequacies."

Charming.

I suppose though (adding, in defeat, as you have convinced me finally) that if my lovely son met any of you potential ILS I would mahoosively warn him off. I would want him absolutely only to know that as the child of a single parent he is fucked and to never countenance anything other than a FB relatiionshiups with a woman with such prejudiced parents.

Put your hands up if you have a caravan and gas cylinder thing. Oh and a big flat screen TV and like sitting aroun d gossiping and feeling all know-all.

Nope, not against single parents. Against someone thinking of having a child they would then just hand over to someone else, not an adoption. If you want to quote me, fine, but don't misrepresent. Unless you are stupid after all. My posts earlier show I'm not against my children an single parents in principle. I'm not engaging with you any more, as you are plainly looking for an argument. I suggest you log off and go out on the pull with your best friend Ulrika. Ta ta.