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Is valentines day making anyone miserable :(

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 12:39

I know i know i shouldn't even be going there but this week is making me really depressed. I can't get the thought of my x and his new love having a fantastic first valentines day. He was so great on valentines day and it is making me sick thinking of them having a wonderful night and then making love. Why do these horrible thoughts come to you. I am so jealous i hate her (and him)

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iota · 10/02/2004 13:58

mmmm see what you mean - my wild days were pre dh and children.

oliveoil · 10/02/2004 13:58

Good saying #232 (with thanks to Frasier):

the only way to get over someone is to get under someone

Well it worked for me heh heh heh heh heh. Ahem.

Helsbels · 10/02/2004 14:00

yes Iota, I agree, in moderation, trouble is I could never do anything in moderation!! A bit of attention and flirting is great if you're strong enough and cynical enough to deal with the fact that it won't turn into anything else. I also had several years of that sort of lifestyle that I truly enjoyed but I had no kids or responsibilites and no-on else to think of other than my selfish self... god it was wonderful!!! FF you'll definately know when it is right - it is unmistakable.

Galaxy · 10/02/2004 14:00

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:01

Sorry nutty feeling bad too
I know what you mean george same with me it was a lovely time growing up, i might cook my parents dinner, you can still have a loving time can't you. Then after i'll go out in a boob tube and a mini for a one night stand so i don't miss out on the sex either.

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iota · 10/02/2004 14:04

my ds's both made valentine cards for me when they were at nursery - it was lovely. I hope I get one from ds2 this year

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:05

Thankyou all you never fail to make me feel positive again, life is wonderful

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:06

Now do i send any cards

I hope i get them off my kiddies too

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iota · 10/02/2004 14:06

FF you don't have to have sex necessarily - just lead 'em on and have lots of attention..... (unsuitable men that is not ds's - I know I'm jumping about here)

Galaxy · 10/02/2004 14:07

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:08

Its dangerous leading men on, well when i do it, you get odd phone calls

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iota · 10/02/2004 14:09

In my wild days I gave out my business card - how stupid is that...!!!

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:10

Thats quite impressive iota, mine would be a bit shit, single mother of two on income support, call me

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Helsbels · 10/02/2004 14:11

Don't give them your real number!!! Iota is right though, isn't she, there's nothing like someone flattering you a bit especially if you fell a bit down. I ran into an ex in October and he told me how great I looked and how he wished we were still together etc. I was on a high for days - I actually felt sexier and more attractive just because someone who treated me badly years before was nice to me!! He looked good too

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:12

I've already made two little boxes for my boys. They are empty and i am going to fill them with kisses for whenever they need one and i'm not about
I will send one to the barber, no i won't its pointless i wouldn't put my name on it!

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iota · 10/02/2004 14:13

I don't have any now - am SAHM mum of 2 - but am thinking that I need some with my name and phone no on as I have no idea what my mobile phone no is - not that I'm handing it out to other men - more for playdates for ds1

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:14

It is great when you have had a knock to get a complement, wonderful, i just get quite a lot of toads

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GeorginaA · 10/02/2004 14:14

FF - what a lovely idea re: filling a box with kisses for your sons! Can I swipe the idea please?

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:16

Georgina of course i have not copywrote kisses yet

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GeorginaA · 10/02/2004 14:17

That's your mistake then, FF - you could have made a fortune

"A dozen kisses... only £50 ... get them while they're hot..."

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:19

I'll walk the streets with a sandwich board

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Festivefly · 10/02/2004 14:23

I just want to say thanks again to everyone, i really feel better, nothing puts things into perspective better than mumssnet. I am going to walk down the street with a smile on my face and everyone will want to know me
Take care all xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Rhubarb · 11/02/2004 10:22

Hey look FF, just think how lucky you are! Here are a few reasons why:
You don't have to search for tacky gifts to give him on Sat.
You don't have to pretend to be grateful when he produces a pair of leopard print crotchless knickers for your gift.
You don't have to argue about where to go for a meal, and then get ripped off in the process.
You don't have the embarrassment of getting a card to 'Snugglebums' from 'WeeWillieWinkie'.
You don't have to put up with chocolates in the shape of willies or nipples, or edible undies, etc.
You don't have to pretend to enjoy sex or the flavoured condoms he's got for you (i.e. him).

In fact, you can go where you want, when you want. You don't have to apologise if some bloke chats you up, you don't have to explain where you've been and who with. You can get legless without him telling you how embarrassed he was. You can have long hot baths without him bursting in to have a wee AND leaving without flushing! And you have ultimate control of your remote control!

So on Valentine's Day all us couples are actually extremely jealous of your single status, so make the most of it!

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Festivefly · 11/02/2004 10:31

Hey hey, you are right cheers

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SHIREENSMOM · 11/02/2004 19:42

ff who needs men just get drunk and f**k him (i hate men today sorry) i hate valentines day he never rembers and quite frankly i dont care any more but i do get very upset my ex (well ive only had 2 boyfs this one and the one before that i went out with for 6 months but we didnt sleep together) i didnt love him but he really loved me and i miss that i dumped him an was soo horrible to him i tryed to find him but i cant i saw him last year and he told me that he still loves me and he mad my heart melt blesss him !!! maybee i should start a find nikkis love thread, sorry to butt in i just wanted to tell someone that