The Dating Thread - episode 60

[Djangounhinged]

If I may?

[Hamwidgeandcheps]

Shortly going on the dinner date during which I think I might be dumped. *pukes. That's all.

[OhWesternWind]

Good luck Ham hope it all works out. Hugs.

[Ginocchio]

OhWestern well, I've been on POF and OKC for a couple of months, with not so much as a "how'd you do" for my efforts.

I did actually go on a date (a date!) courtesy of an MN thread a few weeks ago, which was nice.

I'm determined this time to meet new people, as this is the first time I've done "dating", rather than getting together with a colleague / housemate...

[OhWesternWind]

I had no luck at all with okc either Gin but maybe your profile could do with a tweak if nothing's occurring - plenty of people on here happy to advise if you want. Do you have photos up as I know a lot of people don't contact people with no pictures?

How the MN-inspired date go? (And just out of nosiness, how did that come about???)

[Bant]

I have an hour or so later to review profiles. PM me your site and profile name or a link. DFU is happy to give another blokes point of view too I think?

And it's always useful to get another woman's point of view. Especially about kitchens, apparently...

[48howdidthathappen]

As long as a kitchen contains a kettle I'm happy.

Just saying

[Ginocchio]

OhWestern yes, have pics up. they're not the best, but I'm about to get some sexy new headshots done for my website, so it might make a difference when I put them on.

bant if that offer was directed to me, then thanks! I'll pm you a link shortly if that's ok?

[Ginocchio]

OhWestern and there's a thread in AIBU with the background to the MN date, started by TotallyEggFlipped. it should come up if you search because I'm too embarrassed to link to it

[Moanranger]

Thanks, lurking, DFU, wine, OWW & mercury for your response. Since posting have been thinking about it, and feel a little less concerned. I think the issue is respect for each other's style. He is not so late when he knows there is a deadline, but can be quite late if there isn't a specific time.
He takes ages to decide on some things ( like buying an expensive consumer item), but quicker when needs must.
I am also concerned about my style of decision-making which is rather quick.
Having said that, I probably need someone to sit on my chest and slow me down; he probably needs the opposite. See how it goes...

[48howdidthathappen]

Moan Mr R&R is always late. He has got a lot better. It doesn't bother me at all.

I have told him though if we ever have a plane to catch, he is on his own.

[Bant]

OK Vipers, you're needed on this. Ginocchio sent me the link to his POF profile and to be honest I quite fancy him. And I'm a straight bloke.

I really can't see many ways to improve the profile from my point of view but I really don't have much experience in looking at mens profiles.

Gin maybe OWW, Kin, Lorna and others can help out? I can't be of much use here, sorry. It seems honest, witty (a little corny in places maybe but so is mine cos I like corny). But maybe not alpha-male enough? I dunno. You can see mine on POF as I'm probably the only bloked that's viewed your profile recently. Nick stuff if you want (not my photos)

[lurkinglorna]

feel free to pm me a link ginocchio or any others

[Kirstywirsty]

gin you can pm me your profile name if you like

[lurkinglorna]

Hamwidge hope you're ok

[MsApprehension]

Ooh I'm always happy to give profile feedback, feel free to PM gin

[KinNora]

Gin feel free to pm if I can be of help, of course, anyone else too especially if you have a marvellous kitchen

Ham hope things aren't as bad as you expected

[grinchie]

Bant Ironman was a definite 3.5-4 on first meeting, on second he was a definite 4, on the third a 5. He was my first date post marriage split and I was so nervous that my bullsh*t antennae were all over the place, there was no way I was seeing clearly so he I wouldn?t have trusted my judgement to get him to a clear 4.
I think they could be split into sub levels, as with school levels ie 4a, b, c with 4a being the highest sub level of the 4s.

Hi justme I wouldn?t stay overnight, even in a Travelodge because there would be too much potential for me to be vulnerable.

Moan lateness and dithering would drive me mad, I suppose it depends what you want eventually? Myself, I couldn?t tolerate living with a ditherer ? could you?

Hi Gin, my tip no 1 would be not to use the same pics od and on your website if that makes you easily traceable by someone doing on online search? Pm me a link and I?ll take a look if you like?

Hello Geordie

Oh Ham, I?m sorry. I?m hoping it?s over now and the night is still young......

[Overtheraenbow]

Mr IT has just text and asked me for a second date !!
I met him on OKC and have a date with Mr Jazz from the site next week too, so either I am fabulous or the pickings round here's a bit scarce !! ( being ironic as think it must be the second in truth!!)

[Moanranger]

Grinchie we are a long way from any living together scenario, but not sure about the dithering, yet. It seems to vary. I have to get a better handle on it.
In contrast, my STBXH was always early & planned everything months in advance, so Iam kind of used to that - entirely lacking in spontaneity, however! So my current post-split rebellion is to book nothing, show up & hope for the best.

[grinchie]

Moan as I'm a bit devilish I would have to start turning up late too!
I would start with 15 minutes and see who was first, then 20 minutes so he was (hopefully) waiting for me for 5 minutes and so on

[48howdidthathappen]

Mr R&R is never ready when I arrive at his house. So we always ending up chatting in the bathroom while he takes a bath.

I love it

[lurkinglorna]

married guy who contacted me last week is back

backstory - chatted for a bit on pof, suggested a sooinsh meet which i was up for, i google stalked his profession and name and lo and behold his wife and son so i just cancelled the meet with a conservative excuse.

his photo pops up and down regularly, so i guess he hides his pic until he's trying to set up a meet. also he checked how long i have lived in x city, presumably afraid of shared acquaintances.

hmmmm....does anyone ever write back and say "fuck you dude"? what are pros and cons?