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Waves is determined to keep winning now that Acrobat has arrived.

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wavesandsmiles · 28/07/2013 12:21

So, Acrobat did actually arrive (only just) on the last thread. And he is here and lovely!

Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1801734-Waves-is-winning-Here-comes-the-Acrobat

OP posts:
vole3 · 30/07/2013 11:55

Re sore nips, make sure C has a good mouthful to ensure the nipple ends up right at the back against the soft, not hard, part of his palate.

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wavesandsmiles · 30/07/2013 12:59

He texted me just now asking if I need anything dropping in whilst he is passing my house at lunchtime. I cannot believe him! Arrogant cock. He knows i know the dreadful things he had been saying about me, about him sleeping around, and his plans for tonight, and now this?!!!! Unbelievable.

Of course I'm ignoring. Plus I am out. Had to take caspian for his check and mine at hospital then on to the doctor. We have popped in somewhere very quiet for lunch as it saves me preparing anything. I had to stop in a car park to breastfeed caspian and ds1 and dd were super understanding and patient, was half an hour of them doing nothing as it is super windy and rainy here. At least it means he is sleeping now.

Home time soon thankfully. It's not easy doing this!

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pinkbraces · 30/07/2013 13:15

Keep on going Waves, dont ever forget what a truly amazing woman you are, you have three wonderful DC, and they in turn have you.

Try and ignore that unbelievable, disgusting excuse for a man - I believe in Karma, he will get his.

Concentrate on your gorgeous family - You are such a strong person, but you to need some time - you dont always have to be running around like the duracell bunny :)

AgathaF · 30/07/2013 13:18

Arrogant cock sums him up beautifully.

You are doing well in spite of all the difficulties you are facing. Your children will thrive and so will you in time.

You need to try to go back to no contact with him. You are too vulnerable at the moment to have him contacting you at will and blowing hot and cold.

MissStrawberry · 30/07/2013 13:24

Ignore the twat. No need to reply and definitely no need to open the door if he turns up. No access to baby until you are 100% happy.

Get the children to pack a bag each of things to do in the car should you need to stop and feed Acrobat again. There will be plenty of times when you will need to hang around and this fun bag will help.

I put a card in the post to you yesterday but don't know when it will arrive as never sent post to there before. Will be wrapping a small parcel later but won't be able to post until tomorrow. DD is shattered, the rain is coming down and just had a huge smack in the face via the post so need to hunker down and stay in this afternoon. Will be thinking of you though and here if you need to talk.

Mixxy · 30/07/2013 13:27

"He texted me just now asking if I need anything dropping in whilst he is passing my house at lunchtime."

Tell him you could kill for a beer and some fanny.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 30/07/2013 13:39

Hmm When people tell him to go forth and multiply he should come with a health warning.

Songbird · 30/07/2013 14:09

^^Mixxy

Yes!

LucyTheValiant · 30/07/2013 14:11

Oh Waves. You are marvellous, and your children are marvellous, and you don't need him. You're right to ignore him. He's the most disgusting little man I've ever heard of.

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Thumbwitch · 30/07/2013 14:21

Can't believe he had the outright gall to text you that. What a knob he truly is.

Glad you've managed to get out, and that the children were good while you had to feed C - I second the suggestion that you have an activities bag packed for them as well, just in case it happens again - or you could just have some travel games in the car. Connect 4 is usually a favourite!

You're doing fabulously well - and you will continue to do so, better and better without that toxic loser in your life.

Lovethesea · 30/07/2013 14:34

Thinking of you and all your lovely children. You are a wonderful beautiful tattooed creative hippy, with a warm and open heart, with great earning and independence potential, with a home not just a house, with a future and much joy to embrace.

He lives in a black and white world, you live in a world of colour.

themidwife · 30/07/2013 15:10

I can read his mind! He behaves like a cunt & is exposed & then offers to do something for you so that when you reject he can say how ungrateful & horrible you are & justify his behaviour to himself & his beer & fanny brigade. Ignore him. You are doing brilliantly.Angry

springytotty · 30/07/2013 17:03

And what he's offering you is... to pick something up at the shop because he's passing. A paper. some sugar. Generous huh. What a good guy Hmm

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wavesandsmiles · 30/07/2013 17:07

Thanks for all the reassurance. Has been a busy and difficult day but I've only had a couple of little cries.

After our lunch we took my new lodger for a little drive to show her about the place. (She is day off today)

When we got back I fed caspian then she held him and entertained DD so I could get a bath, and now she is popping down the shop for me as she has some bits to get and I suddenly fancied a banana!

Caspian is now an expert in poos as well as feeding. He is sound asleep on the changing mat next to me on the sofa. Might be keen for a feed again, wriggling about and starting to mew a bit Smile My milk is definitely in. Ouchness and need for bigger tops territory!

Must admit that I had to drag myself upstairs to the bath and realise I have seriously overdone it today, so hopefully tomorrow we will just stay in. We left at 9.50am and weren't back home til 3. Bath has sorted out my aches and maybe some extra sleep will be granted me tonight as I'm feeling tearful. Latest thing to make me Sad is that I have no new baby boy balloons! And I remembered the birth of DS1 when my exh and I were totally broke, but even so he made an amazing sign to welcome us home and congratulate me.... I swear, even with the alcohol fuelled violence, he was a much much nicer person than twunt.

Stop rolling down my face please tears. I know it's day 3 when hormones go all over the place, but I feel so sad about such ridiculous little things. I genuinely can't get my head round the fact that twunt watched me go through a lengthy back to back natural labour and birth and had not bothered with the smallest gesture. It is so cruel.

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themidwife · 30/07/2013 17:14

He is cruel. He always has been & always will be. You will rise like a Phoenix. Thanks

springytotty · 30/07/2013 17:15

I didn't get out of my nightie venture out for 6 weeks after my first. And when I did, I went to Brent Cross and came over all exhausted and vulnerable after half an hour and sat on a planter and wanted to be beamed up by Scottie.

3 days after you've had a back-to-back labour, you take you lodger out for the day. Waves . Darling. Please stop doing that to yourself. You must look after your body to look after your mind. That's how it goes, sweetie.

he is a sick person, waves . A sick, sick person. He is fucking with your mind. That's a huge thing to come to terms with - how could you have been sold down the swanny by someone so sick? - but you have to put one foot in front of the other, plant some pain boxes in the garden, and keep going. Just don't go gadding about, will you xxxx

tightfortime · 30/07/2013 17:25

Lol Minxxy Smile

waves, let the tears roll girl, it's hormones and toredness and stress and Twunt.

Let them roll, then ask the next visitor to bring a baloon for little munchkin.

One snuffly step at a time xx

tightfortime · 30/07/2013 17:26

Soz for typos, being naughty on MN at work

AgathaF · 30/07/2013 17:38

Please spend a day doing as little as possible tomorrow. You really do take far too much on.

You know, if he had bought you a present or balloons, it would only have fucked with your mind even more. Much better that he didn't and you know where you stand. Although, if he is reading the thread still, I wouldn't put it past him to turn up with some half-hearted gesture tomorrow or at a later date.

Anyway, he is not the important one here, you and your lovely DC are, so spend your free time congratulating yourself on your fabulous little family.

BerylStreep · 30/07/2013 17:48

Accidentally left FB open on your lap top my arse. He has done this on purpose. He just cannot bear to see you happy. Look how he has made the birth of A/C all about him.

The only person who can let him into your head is you. I wish I could give you a magic pill to help you detach and forget.

MissStrawberry · 30/07/2013 17:55

Order - stop expecting or wanting anything from twat. He is only going to hurt you more and the only balloons you want are from people who care about you. He doesn't so his gestures mean nothing as they aren't backed up by love.

You have done well today but done too much.

Tomorrow is a duvet day. Relax. You gave birth days ago you crazy womanGrin. You need to rest!!!

Pollydon · 30/07/2013 18:18

Cuntsnakes !!- he'd better fucking believe it Grin.
Sending you healing vibes Waves

Ezio · 30/07/2013 18:19

You know, i really want a t shirt that says "Cunt snake" now

AgathaF · 30/07/2013 18:23

I must be the only one who doesn't find it funny to be called a cunt snake. I do think it shows his lack of respect for women though, and about sums up what I would have expected of someone so lacking in any useful qualities.
It's the sort of random, nonsensical name-calling an eight year old who had just learnt a new swear word would come out with.

Pollydon · 30/07/2013 18:26

Exactly Agatha, that is what is amusing me, not the actual phrase, but the lack of intellect behind it.