Waves is determined to keep winning now that Acrobat has arrived.

[wavesandsmiles]

So, Acrobat did actually arrive (only just) on the last thread. And he is here and lovely!

Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1801734-Waves-is-winning-Here-comes-the-Acrobat

I ended up padding out my bathroom sink with towels to make a nest for DS whilst I had my bath/ shower so he was close at hand.

Hope today brings you joy and peace x

And yet again he proves me right! He is a bastard! A fucking evil selfish twat of a bastard! He left that open deliberately: that's no accident that he was having those conversations on your laptop at this time. He's a horrible evil man who knows exactly how to twist the knife and when.

Waves you need to bury the crap that's in your head from him deep out at sea, tie a great big rock to it and throw it over one of your nearby cliffs, it never needs revisiting. Then you need RL friends around to help with your dcs. I'm also sure lodgers won't mind communal areas being a bit messy and if they do ?they can clean /tidy them.

I hope you got some sleep and that Caspian gave you some rest.

And as for being a cunt snake ?he has no idea how scary a whole collection of those can be.

It is silly, I was hoping he might send me flowers or even a card after what he was part of etc. He has given me a gift I will definitely appreciate longer term now though, a machete through the facade and lies.

I forced myself to sleep around 2.30 after c finished feeding and the little poppet slept til nearly 6 so I did too. He is now sleepy snuffling next to me and I am full of love. My milk has come in and I'm sure that it will get a bit easier and less painful.

Will post properly later when not one handed on my phone (can't stop cuddling caspian)

Every time you think he is showing signs of being a decent human being, you find out (again) that he is still, in fact, a cock.

Waves you really need to try to accept that he is now a small side-line in your life. He is Caspian's biological father, and nothing more. He will not turn into what you hoped he would be. You need to stop hoping for that because you keep getting the rug pulled from you every time you put some trust in him.

You will be having a hormonal blip now. It always coincides with milk coming in too so that Caspian will feed more, you will feel uncomfortable etc. Let yourself cry if you need to. Please accept whatever help you can. Don't be a martyr to the lodgers. They know you have a new baby, they will understand if standards slip for a week or so.

You need rest, food and support. Please take all that is offered. Maybe your older children can go to play at a friend's house for a few hours? You have done a magnificent job already. Just take a bit of time for yourself now.

Grasp that love and hang onto it waves. Bury all that negativity from twunt and just ride that 'wave' of love with C and your other DC too. You are the strongest, big hearted person here, and you will get through this.

Even the brightest most generous DCs squabble at the best of times and they'll try hard not to mind Caspian taking up so much time, you have love enough for all - unlike the poon hound who sounds frankly desperate. He was punching above his weight when he snared you waves. Of course the laptop was left open on purpose in an "Expect nothing from me!" warning.

A new day - stay resting as long as you can.

Waves try to wrap yourself and DCs in a bubble of love. That idiot man is just a fly buzzing against the window.

Just found this thread. Congratulations on the birth of Caspian. You are, actually, superwoman!
Twunt only says things to hurt you as he can't cope with the fact that you are one million times better a person than him.
Enjoy Caspian, rest and take things easy for a few days. You are an inspiration!

I'm so sorry but not surprised. We know he's utterly without morals, a heart & justifies behaviour anyone else male or female would be seriously ashamed of.

If you are reading this Mr "Beers & Fanny" - YOU ARE THE CUNT & repeat & repeat.

I wish you were on the mainland Waves, you know if local we'd be there in a heart beat to give practical help. People may think we're just Internet vipers but we can be real life ones too!

Is it helpful that I am loving the name cunt snake?

It's becoming part of my new NN, me thinks.

Caspian is so twee, he'll grow up to be the man men like your twunt fear. The good kind.

Testing.

I just knew he was being a fucking prick. I knew he was going to cause you an unbelievable amount of grief,

PLEASE for your own sake and that of your lovely children do not give him another thought.

Get the baby registered in your name only if you feel that would help.

See a solicitor about divorce asap. DO NOT let him get in first.

Ask your lovely friend to help as much as she is able. Tell her as much as you need too about the ex if it means you get the emotional support as well as physical.

Talk to us as much as you need, especially if you feel the need to contact the twat or read any more of his messages.

You do know he left it open so you could see it, don't you?

This man is beyond words. You need to give him no time at all and get him out of your life.

There will be people on here who can organise anything at all so use the help and support we are all offering.

Waves, don't focus any of your precious energy thinking about your woefully inadequate Ex. He is utterly pathetic and actually ridiculous. Time spent giving him head space is time wasted.

Keep your focus on Caspian, other dcs and yourself.

You will kick yourself if you allow this loser to ruin this special time with your new baby.

How sad that you hoped he might send a card of flowers...he keeps showing you just who he is....someone unworthy of your time, a shallow and unintelligent, weak cruel, utter waste of space.

DO NOT LET HIM DRAG YOU DOWN AGAIN. You and your dcs deserve better.

Wishing you a better day and a lovely bath

Calling fellow cunt snakes!!

Twat is obviously reading this thread. Is it time to go elsewhere? Don't any one mention it by name!

Oh my god, what an absolute cunt he is.

Waves you poor darling. At least now maybe you will see through all the lies and stop having any hope or giving him any time.

He deserves NOTHING from you.

What an utter, utter bastard he is.

You are amazing. Stay strong. Look after yourself and your DCs. Ask the lodgers for help, and accept it.

We're with you, holding your hand, stroking Caspian's head, wishing you well all the way.

Darling Waves - I am so sorry that the revelation has come so quickly and so harshly. But I can answer one question for you - the reason he keeps telling you he loves you is that he's hoping to get back into your life, with your money and your owned home. He thought he had a good ticket for life there - and much of his vitriol now is because you've taken that off him.

So I'll say it again - he loves what you have, not who you are

He isn't fit for you to wipe your feet on - they'd end up dirtier afterwards.

You did what you thought was right for you, the baby and him (the bastard) at the time - and at the time it was ok. Please just write that off, and don't allow these later revelations to colour that event.

But from now on, you give him NOTHING. NOTHING AT ALL. Because he deserves less than that (if that were possible).

So glad your snuffler has taken well to feeding and much much sympathy on the cracked nipples and after pains - have you some Lansinoh in the house? If not, do get some - even if it means asking lovely friends or even TB to get it for you (ah, she's going to hospital though, so she can't)

Remember we are all here for you whenever you need to rant or moan; we will do whatever we can to support you.

Love to you and your baby Caspian, and the other two DC xxx

MissS I think that is a good idea, but think waves needs to make the call. Will follow what she feels is right, but I agree with your thinking.

Specialagentcuntsnake

as hard as this is waves it is GOOD thing that you have had an insight into how he really is and how he talks about you and your kids to others - this isnt a real man. He is totally brainless.

He has overshadowed most of your pregnancy DONT let this pig of a man take away the beauty of the last few days and also the forthcoming weeks, months and years. You are worth so much more.

Take it easy on yourself. You will surely have some tough days as a mother of a young brood but you can do this.

xxx

Darling woman, we need to send you . How do we do that? show us how we find a way...

HOping you have a calm and lovely day and that you are indeed enveloped in love all day.

(btw I've researched taking Kalms while breastfeeding and not come up with much - but Rescue Remedy is excellent for times like this ime. who cares if it may be woo, it works!)

don't forget to show us how we can send you xxx

I kind of like the idea that after a difficult pregnancy your parting gift to twunt was a view of a back to back natural labour: a massive display of your feminine power.

Put this toad to sea.

So I'm a cunt snake? Well I kinda like it actually. For all. I so wish you were on mainland. I'd be there in a heartbeat along with all the other cuntsnakes.

Any man worth his salt would never treat you this way, he isn't a man, he's proved what a user he is. Don't let him near your heart again

Thinking of you waves.

I know it must be so hard to accept that he isn't going to turn around and be full of love even though he saw you bring his child into the world.

But you can be full of love for your child, and him for you.

Don't waste energy on Twuntface.

I also quite like being a cunt snake. Thanks twunt

Waves, you had such a beautiful birth with Caspian, it really moved me and many others on this thread. Don't let his crass words and behaviour ruin what was a special, special time. I don't think you should regret having him there because now there is no way you will ever have any doubt as to whether you could have tried more/ been more reasonable. You couldn't have done anything more!

And please don't wonder whether this happened because you were difficult at the start of your pregnancy. All pregnant women are difficult - I certainly was. Our hormones are everywhere, our body is going through massive changes, we're tired, sick...we're allowed to be a bit moody/snappy whatever. This does not give your husband an excuse to sleep around, research late abortions, leave you, be a fucking insensitive bastard to you... He was so out of order and after you offering a million olive groves he has rejected every one.

I'd be inclined to just view him as a sperm donor to your beautiful little boy. That's that. Please don't contact him anymore, don't give him the satisfaction he seems to gain by hurting you and playing with your mind.

We might all be cunt snakes but we're all here if you need us lovely x

Have not posted on your threads before, but I had to now.

Oh my goodness, waves, you are AMAZING! You are such a strong woman, you are a fabulous mother and I have nothing but admiration for you.

It's easy to say twunt is, well, a twunt, but I don't have the history with him. But he really is a vile specimen who does so much to try and hurt you. I cannot understand why he would do so much to the mother of his child. Urgh. If he ever has the misfortune to meet anyone on here, well woe betide him. Keep all the evidence you can of his twuntery, and use it when he decides he wants access or when he's trying to get off paying maintenance.

But the best you can do, is to be a fantastic mum, to protect C from his hideous excuse for a father, and to not let the bugger get to you. Let him carry on being an utter twunt and ignore it. Build your nest and don't let him near it.

Caspian is beautiful, absolutely gorgeous. Many congratulations on the birth of your son.