Waves is determined to keep winning now that Acrobat has arrived.

[wavesandsmiles]

So, Acrobat did actually arrive (only just) on the last thread. And he is here and lovely!

Links to previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1670597-So-DH-said

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1745551-DH-said-DH-left-waves-is-still-being-sick-but-into-the-third-timester

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1801734-Waves-is-winning-Here-comes-the-Acrobat

Hi everyone

Hope you are okay Waves and just having a lovely time with your children.

Complete cross posted! Going to read now .

Your little boy will do just fine when he is so well equipped to express his feelings and emotions. Much better than keeping it all bottled up. Very astute too to see how much work a Mummy alone has to do.

You haven't let him down. Only one person has done that and we all know who that is.

Bummer about lodgers going but it just makes it easier for when you pack up and leave for your new life and new job in a new country.

I really hope you manage to meet up with some posters. Just gutted I am not able too assumes invited if could do

Of course you'd have been invited missS.

Mainland looking more likely anyway after meeting at recruitment place. Only 2 possibly 3 openings, one of which has oversight of 8 jurisdictions so tons of travelling (impossible as a single mum), one is dull as dishwater in a v repetitive position and the other is v senior but for an incredibly risky start up. Meh.

What sweeties your 2 older DC are. DS seems to have a really wise head on young shoulders.

Can nice half of the couple lodger pay the rent on her own? It would be good if you can keep her. The alternative is to let her have lodger 2's room once he moves out, and look for a new couple for the self-contained bit. (TBH lodger 2 wasn't sounding like a good fit with family life).

Shame about the new lodger - she might be able to get it sorted out.

How risky is risky? Could it be exciting enough to keep you interested and paying enough to make it worth it? It could end up doing really well.

beryl my older DCs are total sweeties for sure and DS1 has a very wise head! More loveliness just now, I gave C a bath and he was crying after as I got him dressed, Ds1 was saying, you don't need to cry Caspian because you have the most wonderful mummy. She will take such good care of you forever, she's looked after me for 9 years and she is the best so don't cry little one.

I think female half of couple lodger will stay, it is bills included so there was a small extra for it being 2 people, I should find out within a week. And seriously hope that new lodger gets the license issue sorted as she is so super.

I need to try to sort out dinner now, managed this post as C was finishing a feed and he is now sound asleep on me. Hopefully he will stay asleep if I put him down for a bit

Oh and the potential job is risky on many levels, start up risk, infrastructure, client base, BUT it does sound exciting. Would be a challenge to be part of a completely new venture and help to build something from scratch.

Will be good if at least I can get interviews

I want to hug your eldest and feed him cup cakes. Lovely lovely boy.

Not much could be harder than what you have been through the last few months.

Waves, for heavens sake, if you go for the risky option, make sure that you will share in some of the benefits if it takes off. You don't want to put a lot in when its so risky to find that whilst some people profit a lot from it, you don't....

Yes. In my head I was thinking the same as mistlethrush but couldn't think how to phrase it. has no brain full stop

I'm just a bit about the amazing 8 jurisdiction job. If I was still married it would be my dreams come true, career wise, in many ways. (If I was fortunate enough to get it). Anyway, instead I am focussing for now on the upcoming holiday. Feeling very about visiting the mainland and getting to meet some of you in RL. And about giving my DCs an adventure and happy memories. DS1 and DD really do deserve a lovely time away after what has been an exceptionally hard year for them. And that people have been so kind in offering places to stay.....

C is making squeaky noises to himself, and I am hoping to settle him soonish so I can get an early block of sleep.

The HV returns tomorrow. Half tempted to nod and smile when she mentions routines etc, and half tempted to discuss placenta smoothies... I expect I will just take the nod and smile option.

Oh, I also had a lovely package of clothes from one of my dearest friends who emigrated to the USA a LONG time ago. Unless I manage to get all the way out there I won't see her again, but we do keep in touch. And I was so touched she sent a parcel so far. And I had a lovely surprise delivery of flowers and a card in a box. I never knew that flowers could be sent in a box

Would the dream job pay enough for a nanny?

Aww at squeaky noises .

HV - you can cancel the appointment. You don't have to let her in.

Surprise presents from a friend and flowers from ???? See! You have lots of people who care about you.

I was tidying yesterday and kept getting distracted thinking about a scrumptious baby named Caspian .

I think your children are great. Because you are great.

Smile and nod at useless HV sounds fine to me - anyway, you have a routine. It's 'doing what works for you'. Details are not important.

Fingers crossed you get the job opportunities you deserve and that they're far away from all the useless people in your life.

Morning.

Puppy and big dog are hilarious together. Pup is my hairy baby.

Waves. If you want to pm me exactly what you do I can see if dh knows of any vacancies etc around.

Although dream job isn't doable at moment it is something to keep in mind, start up I would avoid simply because it needs your full attention and your plate is full!

If I can help at all just shout

You are a fabulous mum and dad to your children.

Do you have any stable, lovely male friends who could sort of mentor ds?

Waves - I did think the other day how annoying it was that ds3's piano teacher left at the end of the last term - and how hard it is forthe school to fill the vacancy...Don't suppose you teach do you? Cos there might be a job going in south surrey!

Not posting daily as rl gets in the way but keeping up with events.

Have fingers Xed lovely Scottish lodger sorts herself out and stays on and female half of couple that split will remain.

MissStrawberry's idea of a nanny would be wonderful if a dream job materialises at the right time.

DS and DD do you credit. He is goung to be the opposite of a twunt to your future DIL!

Squeaks from Caspian he will very possibly be musical like his mama.

PS Hope WingDefence got to see her brother and his family.

you don't need to cry Caspian because you have the most wonderful mummy. She will take such good care of you forever, she's looked after me for 9 years and she is the best so don't cry little one.

Well, now that got me a little bit squeaky tbh

Sorry to hear about the lodgers. Lodgers can be a bit like the wet bottom of a cardboard box, liable to go at any time . Can't help saying Hoo Rah about Lodger 2 as he didn't fit, did he? Now there's space for someone much more suited to your get up - it says something if you feel you need a break from the pressure of lodgers that you have to leave your own home. Hope the super lodger gets her shit sorted and you gradually collect lodgers more suited to you , not the other way around eh.

Re your scrummy puppy Jax - anyone see that prog about dogs last night? dead irritating camera work (as per usual these days - we just want to see things, camera people, not your fancy work, ok

Hi waves, yes I would recommend smiling and nodding at your hv, that's what I did with mine despite their sometimes outrageous views. Just keep her on side and she'll leave you alone to get on with things your way.

Your dc sounds adorable and your little boy is already at 9 so observant and intuitive, what a star.

I really really agree that a fresh start on the mainland would be just what you and your little family need right now and of course there's be an army of mnetters to welcome you with open arms :)

Smiling and nodding worked

Seeing the HV on Friday week just so C can have his last dose of oral vitamin K, then not again til the 8 week review. He is thriving - now weighs 7lb 9 at 2 weeks and 4 days old.

He is having a nap so I am quickly on the laptop, updating here, and still trying to finish writing my literary epic of a birth story. I am SO jealous of people who have super quick sneeze births - I started getting proper niggly 18 days before he arrived, and had 3 days of latent labour with proper ouch contractions, and then a minimum of 9 hours established labour (depending how it is defined) Hence the epic (well, 9 pages typed up so far!)

If anyone wants to meet up whilst we are on the mainland, do PM me. Our plan is to travel straight to Bristol on 26 August, and we will then return to Gatwick in the evening on 27th, as my sister does want to meet up, so we are going to do something on Wednesday 28th, after which I am heading down to Brighton for 2 nights, leaving late afternoon on 30th. Will then be Crawley area (hopefully visiting Horsham since it is so highly recommended) on 31st.

Job-wise, I have LOTS to think about. Will PM you Jax - but C just woke up so off to give him cuddles!

Glad the nodding and smiling worked :)

I am in Wales so bit far for a meet up, would've loved to have met the famous little 'acrobat' otherwise (and the rest of your little brood of course). I can't understand your sister not wanting to meet up - who, in their right mind, would not want to see their brand new gorgeous little nephew? Oh well, sure you will have a fab time anyway and be inundated with lots of offers.

Hope you have a lovely break, waves, you really do deserve it. And wow to your 9 typed pages birth story. You're a great mum!

Hmm meet up a bit far from West of Scotland so will have to miss it this time, However when Waves does her Caspian tour of the UK mainland we will be waiting to meet her

Oops and him and the other DC's who sound adorble

Ooh, I could poss do Horsham on 31st. Brighton is a bit too far but apparently Horsham is 90 mins (M25 dependent, so prob 3 hrs!!)

Oh my. I haven't been able to sit down at all really today. C has decided that mummy cuddles are essential for survival so I've been either feeding or cuddling him most of today. Managed a super fast dash to the shop for essentials but other than that its been pretty intense. On my phone with a sleepy C on my shoulder! I am so relieved I did so much batch cooking before he arrived.

Hoping to meet up with my cousin and her DCs tomorrow morning, maybe just here or maybe at the park.

Twunt is still texting. He first offered to take DS1 and DD on an outing Friday afternoon, and is now asking when he and his boys can see C again. I can't reply. Every day I learn more about his reputation and I feel a bit sick for falling for his lies. Some people really do have only one script it seems.

I hope that I get a nice sleep tonight as I really want to tackle a kitchen and bathroom cleaning mission tomorrow, as well as starting to put together my own album of photos of caspian and finish the birth story. And I want to get a job. I hate the uncertainty of not knowing, and not being able to plan financially very far. I hate, really hate, the possibility that I will have to apply for some form of benefits if I don't secure a job by the end of the year.

I think actually I need to stop thinking and worrying so much. Better to focus on the positives like my gorgeous DCs, our holiday, then DDs birthday just a fortnight after that.