My marraige is over...

[Lemmingswife]

I know it is for the best, but I am hurting really bad atm & keep thinking of my poor babies.

It was a thread about reasons your mother irritated you.

if that is the only thing, then I wouldn't worry too much. It is the reason she irriates you, and you have other things to worry about.

They have already been very nasty about your situation adn not at all supportive.

You need to sort yourself out, think about what and how you are going to cope.

your parents may well come round in the future, or they may not, but you will grow stronger and you will be fine.

I would be very very angry with this 'friend' who told your mum your name. Are you sure it was the real name?? Has she actually told you what your name is?

I have mailed her email onto you beetroot.

I'd still ask for them to be deleted if you think she might go back, print them, and waive them in your face later. I would deffo make that request right now.

Lemmingswife - have been following this but havent posted up to now as didnt have anything ocnstructive to add.
About 18 months ago my Mum did what yours has done, on MN and another website. She said she was looking for 'evidence' as to me being mentally unstable (she's a nutter, btw). MN very helpfully deleted things for me and I recently started posting on MN again under a new name, wont use my old one again in case she is still looking. I havent talked to her since, I can do without that kind of poison in my and my family's life.

Thanks.
I will contact MN & ask for my posts to be deleted.
Today has been very hard & this has tipped me over the edge!

Hang in there hon. I expect there will be some very difficult days before things get easier. You are doing so well.

Not feeling very strong today.
Have contacred MN & asked for all posts under my regular MN name to be deleted.

PLease don't think i'm being blunt here but do your parents actually help you in anyway? What would you lose if you limited contact with them? I know they're your parents and I know you love them because of that but think about it, please. It needn't be long term but you need space to think without their 'helpful' comments.

Also, why would you be dead? (your words) if your Dad read your posts? Surely you're entitled to say what you want! Are you scared of your dad? or is it just because you don't want to hurt them?

Btw i'm really not having a go, it's not meant that way. I'm just interested in your relationship as it seems to have so much influence over YOUR life. You're doing great girl.

They don't help that much & still try & lecture me like I am a 10 year old.
Yes I am still scared of my Dad & know mum will show him & he will be straight round with all guns blazing.
I do need a break from my parents. I am too scared to answer the phone atm.
My posts using other name have all been deleted now.

HV thinks we should put house on the market

I have reached a strange state where I am so stressed, but it is impossible to cry.
My stomach is turning inside out, I am very shaky & feel like I am going to be sick, but I can't cry.

oh gawd hon. Can you get away???

You are welcome here you know that.

LW WHat a day! I wanted to say hang on in there and take care will email you.

Thanks, beetroot. I will try to avoid landing on you if I can, but that is a very sweet offer.

I agree with Esbee. I think you could use a breather from your parents. It isn't their marriage. Do they know that? Please do what is best for you, not them. Perhaps you should just assume that they won't agree with you and they won't understand. But, step back, take a deep breath, and take care of you and your boys (I think, if I remember correctly, you have 2 boys?)

If your dad comes flying over, don't answer the door. Send him a pleasant note explaining you need some space. And leave him to stew in the reality that you are taking control of YOUR life.

I'll second that getaway!! I'm a great believer in getting some space when you need it. As i've said you're welcome here too! I suspect Beety might have a slightly less chaotic house to, then again she has 4 kids so many not!

Wrt the house, I think your h and yourself need to work out what's happening to the equity before you sell it.

How are you, lw? I'm glad that you've been able to get mn to delete your other posts.

Hi, dino.
Am now drinking wine & feeling slightly calmer thanks.
Have spoken to two friends on the phone, which helped calm me a bit.
H still not home. He has been out since lunchtime.
Very pleased posts got deleted so quickly.
How are you?

I'm very well, and I'm really glad to hear you are feeling a bit calmer.

That was a very jittery post wasn't it??!!

Wine works wonders! I am giving up on giving up atm!!

Good slogan that, "Wine works wonders!". Or "WWW" for short.

I'll email you tomorrow,

Take care,

xx

Trying to scrub things out of my mind as much as possible for a bit.