My marraige is over...

[Lemmingswife]

I know it is for the best, but I am hurting really bad atm & keep thinking of my poor babies.

Sorry, just joined and feel like I am eavesdropping - just wanted to say how brave I think you are. I think maybe reading this will spur me on to do something about my own situation. Take Care and Good Luck.xxx

I am used to my parents! They are a chuffin nightmare, but I must say that this one has shocked even me!
Aaronsmummy, I hope you are ok.

Good morning all... another day begins on the road to a new life for you LW. Stay strong, focus on getting through the day and ignore your parents, they would rather their daughter stayed in a very un-happy marriage rather than see you divorced and bring shame on the family
Can your sister not have a word with them for you?

LW

Lots to do today, so may not be on here, or in true MN style lots to do and maybe on here quite a lot.

Either way I will be thinking of you.

Stay Strong

The only person on this thread who needs to be hit is your dad. You need "a good shaking"? You should have been hit for coming home late? Your father is not a nice man.

If I were you, I would tell my to be supportive if they aever want to see their grandchildren again. If your father does not appologise and your mother continues to stand by him, I think you should retract. Stay away from them. And that goes for you and your kids.

I didn't expect great support from them, but didn't expect my Dad to be quite so nasty.
Don't want them around, but wish someone would just take the boys for a few hours.
Finding today VERY hard. Don't know why.

Good on you LW. I've followed your threads. You will feel upset for ages - it's like a bereavement - but you'll come out of it stronger and wiser. I can't believe your parents - they should be your biggest support and want whatever's best for you and your boys. I've been there with that sinking feeling in the stomach, pulled through and glad I did it. Good luck and stay strong.

Lw, your dad is being terrible. There's no excuse. Don't think for a moment that there is any sense in what he says. I am and for you.

You come here for support.

LW, have been following this thread. I just wanted to say how well you are doing. Have you talked to HV yet,would she know of any help you could get with the children.
I think you are right to keep your distance for your parents for now.
Good luck and keep strong,your doing a brilliant job.

She has been round - I am shaking really bad atm.
Have all this & have now just got an email from my mum stating that she is shocked because she has been spying on my regular MN name & found I have put things about her on here & how much she irratates me.
Can't even reply atm.
Yes HV has been round & was v supportive. She is thinking of putting me on AD's though.

change your screennames. change your e-mail. don't give it out here. just respond to CATs of screennames whom you know on here.

Tell your mum you are putting your children first and she can bugger off. Or is she reading this now, in which case I guess I just told her.

Hi LW, ads could be a good thing to try to help see you over what will undoubtedly be a hard period in your life. PLease remember that you will get through all of this though, with or without your parents support. As for your mum spying on you, did you know I had my ex spying on me? (in fact he probably still does but I completely no longer care), you can either change your name etc (even a subtle change would stop your name coming up in searchs) or stand proud and let her think what she will, she might even learn some home truths. Thinking of you. x

How DARE she search my name & spy on everything I have read!
I hope she doesn't know this name - I could do without additional shit right now!

written not read! Not functioning well atm!

You could change your name to "FoolsDaughter". And they can ponder whether fool was possesive or plural.

I am now so churned up that I feel like I am going to throw up.

She hasn't seen this thread. She has found my regular MN name. She reckons someone passed it onto her!!!

Might give a friend a ring in a minute.

Do you thinkMN would delete your posts. All of them, in light of the the extra stress it is causing you? I mean if it's going to make you even more miserable at such a hard time, maybe they would delete everything you've ever posted. Can't hurt to ask.

Would your h know your name to pass on?? If she's already read your old posts tbh there seems little point in deleting them. I agree about going to see a friend if you can.

I may ask them if they would delete my posts. Mind you, she has probably had a good read by now!
I am going to be very dead when she shows my Dad! Think it is best I leave the country tbh!

what have you said that may upset her LM?