My marraige is over...

[Lemmingswife]

I know it is for the best, but I am hurting really bad atm & keep thinking of my poor babies.

hya honey. hope you are ok. sorry not been around much lately..

Good point, Freckle.
I really need him to leave don't I?

No worries, beetroot. I am okay tonight, but wasn't good yesterday.
Hope you are okay.

Sweetie, nothing wrong with microwaved jacket pots and cheese and beans, absolutely nothing. And as for ironing, well suffice to say that with much huffing and puffing I have ironed four itesm this evening (all mine) and that's the first time the ironing board's been out for three weeks....

HOpe you get smoe sleep,

xx

The anxiety about whether his jeans are iroined is EXACTLY why he has to go!

I can see that it could be pointlessly provocative to simply stop doing his ironing...there's nothing to prove, is there, you have made your decision, you don't need to grandstand it, BUT it would be good if you could free yourself from the sense of anxiety. Do what you do - but if he asks after something, say 'it's in the airing cupbaord, I think'. He will be too clever to kick off.

Honestly, MN! - how many posts on any one topic can ironong take up

Good point, Blu! Lots of posts about my ironing, or lack of ironing as is the case here!
I may iron tomorrow & then again I may not!!
Do need him out of the house, as this is all too weird & starting to really do my head in!
I guess I am kind of safe from a kick off atm, as he is on very best behaviour due to the circs, but I still feel that bizarre anxiety.
They enjoyed their microwaved potatoes anyway, dino!
Will try to be a good yummy mummy type soon!!

Now I really AM going to bed!!!

Good to hear FOTM!
I am off out in a minute & blimmin glad too!
H has been out with his friends from 9am until now. I went round to see a friend with the boys & come back to a lounge full of roudy beer drinking men!
Glad I am going back out with another friend!

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You what, tyedye???
Are you ok?
I am home now & still have drunken men upstairs in my house!

Don't want to go to bed, due to annoying drunk men upstairs!

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Sorry, tyedye - I had already gone to bed when you posted.
What's happened? Are you okay?

tyedye, what's happened?

I have just phoned my solicitor & spoke to her secretary, as she is out on a course this pm.
I explained that I would like a follow up meeting & also that I still have not received the letter she was going to send out, so am in the dark about fees etc.
She is going to try to chase her up and get back to me later.

Good on you, lw. Hope she gets back to you promptly.

H is now talking about not moving out until 8th July, as this is when his friend goes away. He now wants to get back to work before leaving the house.
This prolonging things is horrendous.

Oh no! That's ages away. What did you say?

I said that I thought he was going tomorrow & that it was hard having him around, but at the same time knowing he was soon leaving & really want it over & done with.
He came out with something about wanting to get used to being back at work first (he said the opposite a few days back) & that it would be far better to wait until his friend had gone away, so that he could get used to being there.
He said he would try to stay out of my way as much as possible until then.
He has gone to play snooker now.
To be this is just dragging it out & prolonging the pain of it all.

Should say "to me" not "to be!"

I am out again tonight.

You are right, it is just dragging it out. I'm also getting worried that despite everything, he hasn't really accepted it and is still thinking that if he is nice to you, you'll change your mind...

That is a worry, dino. He seems to be excepting it, but he is good at playing games isn't he?
When he was going on about the fact he had been told I was seen leaving the solicitors, I responded by saying "So what if I did? You were the one threatening me with the fact our marriage was over a few days before anyway"
To this he said "Well you should know by now that I am all talk"
That phrase speaks volumes & I am getting concerned that I may end up with a fight on my hands.