My marraige is over...

[Lemmingswife]

I know it is for the best, but I am hurting really bad atm & keep thinking of my poor babies.

I don't iron as much as I should! I try to get away with DS's polo shirts for school, as they are hidden under his sweatshirts & I don't iron H's boxer shorts or his work polo shirts.
I iron less in the winter when I can use the tumble dryer, but when things are hung out to dry they tend to crease & lead to lots more ironing.
I blimmin hate ironing too!

H will have to iron his own boxers and polo shirts from now wont he

He will indeed! He will also have to do all his own washing too!

Microwaved jackets with beans and cheese sounds like a perfectly acceptable meal to me, you need to worry when you serve them turkey twizzlers for two straight weeks.

When you say you don't iron as much as you 'should', let me guess who has made you feel you 'should' iron boxers, FFS. Please tell me you don't iron:

• socks
• tea towels
• crumpled fivers (I added the last one just for effect).

Hi LW - i really think you need more advice re - the whole legal thing - it is REALLY hard if you have never done it before!!! We have a good friend James who has just got divorced from his wife and we were chatting with him recently (he has two young kids and was at my DS2's b'day party) Anyway - i was saying that i have a friend who is about to go through what you have just been through etc - would you like to have a chat with him at some point?? - he is SUCH a nice friendly bloke- and he seems to know all the details. His wife seems to have got a VERY nice deal, and he is on a lot less than i think your H is on. I know for SURE that there is NO WAY on this earth that you would be expected to go into rented, when you have ALWAYS lived in your own home. I cant BELEIVE that your H even suggested that, and talked about "on your income" - it is HIS bloody income that will be paying YOUR mortgage !!!!! THAT IS A FACT (sorry - am wound up about this!!! )

p.s - am doing a table top baby sale at the walmer baptist church (kelvedon road) on Saturday - hope to get rid of a lot of my stuff.

p.p.s - i think you H is saying you will HAVE to go into rented to put you off!!! IMHO

Exuse me, do people iron their boxer shorts? Anyone who has time to iron boxer shorts... well... needs more intersting things to do.

I'm not getting divorced and I don't iron squat for DH. And, if he behave like yours, I would do anything for him... ever. In fact, come to think of it, DH does my laundry. Maybe that's why we are still married. You don't need a ironing lady, you need a laundry bloke (of course you have to have very low standards of laundry quality).

Agree with tribpot, there is no "should" about ironing. If dp told me to iron his boxers (or anything else for that matter), I would just laugh.

I used to iron his boxers, but I don't do that anymore. I try to get away with not ironing his work polo shirts either, but I do have to iron his jeans, tops, shirts etc.
He will sometimes say "I haven't seen my such & such top for ages" & it will be because it is buried in my ironing pile!
I don't iron tea towels or socks btw, but have a Mum who irons tea towels, bibs, muslin squares etc!

Tess, I am going to go & seek more legal advice.
I would be happy to speak to your friend James about his experiences.
Hope you do well at the sale. Put together a few outfits if you can, as I found they seem to sell better this way.
I might nip along & see you!

scroll down for my recent post's LW

sorry - you have answered - yes am going to put outfits together - thanks. be nice to see you there - spread the word!!!

Will do, Tess! Are you going to try & sell your pram there?
Had my blimmin mother pop round to bring us.....OVENGLOVES!!!!!!!!!!

You don't HAVE TO iron his jeans, tops and shirts. He is perfectly capable of doing it himself, and he's going to have to learn pretty soon anyway.

Well yes, you are very right there, CQ!

So, now what things of yours do you iron? It's begining to sound like he needs an ironing lady.

Oh I iron all my things, boys things & his things. Sometimes he will do a bit of ironing, but it is mostly me.
Still, he will be dealing with all his own washing & ironing soon!

Fortunately this will resolve itself soon LW but you need not to think of it as 'your' ironing pile but rather 'the' ironing pile. If my dh said "I haven't seen such-and-such a top" I would say "yes, it is in the ironing pile". End of convo. If he wants it, he now knows where it is. If he wants it ironed, he can bloody well do it himself. I can definitely see your H's perfectionist standards slipping once he has to fend for himself - although I suppose he will just take his laundry to his mum's - or yours?

Honestly, I would never in a million years iron boxer shorts. Life itself is too short!

I would be tempted to make him start doing all his own laundry from now on. That way you are still around to point out when he's doing it wrong . Why put off the inevitable??

I guess I should do, Freckle! Why do I still feel a sense of panic about whether his jeans/top is washed, ironed & ready for him?
I shouldn't should I?

Will be hard at first, but at the same time I think it will be easier when he has moved out.

Having him here but at the same time not really having him here is driving me so insane.

You shouldn't, no. Perhaps you should stop doing anything for him. If you continue to be a "wife" to him, he may think that you will change your mind or that he still has a chance to keep the status quo.

Sorry for lack of commas. Very tired, best try & sleep!