My marraige is over...

[Lemmingswife]

I know it is for the best, but I am hurting really bad atm & keep thinking of my poor babies.

Oh, maybe not then!
I had not spotted your post before posting my last one, GF!
The SW told me that relate wouldn't touch us.

They wont LW. They started with us and quickly sorted X out as an abuser adn then went on to say that he had to do a course and then they woudl see him. The meeting where they told him this was peachy as he spent the whole time asking what courses I would have to do as I was the abuser!

Unbelievable, GF!!!!

you stay strong and you are being so brave. think how proud your kids will be. bn through this myself when ds was 3 years old. he is now 6 and is like a different boy. confident cheeky little bugga. he wouldnt be like this if i had stayed with my dh. keep your chin up there are 355 posts here. We cant all b wrong!! take care

Thank you, TB.

Tell your mother that the reason you are leaving h is because you are thinking of your children. Children don't want an abusive, angry father and a downbeaten, frightened mother.

I am totally amazed at the change in the way you speak - even since earlier this year, and you are completely unrecognisable as the woman who started the very first thread a year and a half ago!

In what way do I sound different, CQ?
I agree that I moved on a tad from the absolute denial I was in 18 months back!

There is no point trying to get my parents to listen & understand, because THEY know best...or at least they think they do!!

Should say "I have moved on..." You will have to excuse my tired dizziness atm!

Your doing really well. Thr tables have turned and now you are in control. Only a couple of weeks ago H was trying to control things by telling you the house was going up for sale. Now he is asking you "is there really no chance of a recinciliation" He knows that you have taken charge of you own life.. which is exactly how it should be. We should all fel sorry for him... it must be terrible for him to lose all his power

You weren't in denial a year ago, LW, but you sounded, then, as if you were frightened by the sound of your own voice.

Now you sound as if speaking out makes you stronger.

I remember one of your first posts that I responded to - you were having meetings with the SENCO and ds's teacher, and DS was begging you not to tell H what the teacher had said - but H was bullying it out of you, being v hard on ds, and you were in tears all the time.

BIG difference now! I know you still feel v tearful, now more than ever - but your strength is shining through. Strength doesn't stop you feeling sad or frightened, strength is going ahead DESPITE feeling so upset and frightened.

I guess I was, Blu. I do look back at my v early threads & cringe a bit at how weak I was.
I have moved on a lot in my own head.
Will mail you when I get a quiet moment, Blu.

DS2 has an ear infection.

Nightmare LW does he have them often?

This is the second one he has had. He was complaining his ear hurt this morning, but after a dose of calpol he seemed okay.
Woke up from his afternoon sleep & didn't know what to do with himself, as his ear was hurting him so bad.
I took him to gp after picking DS1 up from school & he now has antibiotics.
The calpol seems to improve things for a while, but he was bad again before bedtime.
Is now in bed with another dose of calpol inside him & hoping he settles.
Poor little man. I hate it when they are ill like this.

Beetroot, I am back if you are around. He has settled again now thankfully.

neurofen helps as well I found LW!

Hope the antibiotics work soon. Ear ache is terrible.

I have been giving nurofen too, GF! (Not all together I must add!)
He has woken once in a state, but seems to be sleeping peacefully now. Hope he gets through the rest of the night okay.

neurofen, even!

Oh poor little love - ear infections are horrible and scary. Well done for getting antibiotics so swiftly - they have always worked very quickly when DS has had ear trouble, so i'll keep my fingers crosse for you.

How are you LW and how is Ds?

DS woke up twice in the night & needed topping up with neurofen. He is dosed up now & seems a little brighter.
I am very tired & emotional today.

Morning LW. Sorry to hear about ds2, I hope he feels better soon.

Do you have anything nice planned for this weekend?

No nothing planned at all, CQ. H is going round to a friends later & I will probably walk into town, as I haven't sorted anything for fathers day tomorrow.
Sun is out, but neither of us feel sunny inside right now.

Now mum has been round & is trying to set up for H & Dad to go out for a drink this afternoon.
My Dad is apparantly cross with my mum for coming round, but mum says she wants to see her boys.
Don't think my Dad is speaking to me.

Oh well, on the bright side, if he's not talking to you, he can't say anything too hurtful

Seriously, hope you manage to get out in the sunshine. Sorry to hear your LO is not well. Hope he recovers quickly. It's hard for you too to be strong emotionally when you are running on little sleep, just keep taking it all one day at a time.

All the best.