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Original poster

Toothache catches a quick 5 mins to let you all know....

165 replies

Toothache · 08/06/2006 14:18

....that H tried to strangle me and punched me repeatedly in the head on Tuesday night.... as I lay in bed.

He was arrested.... charged with Domestic Assault and has been bailed to his parents town 280 miles away. He'll be sentenced at the end of the month. Sad

We'd just had a lovely 2 week holiday too. He's never done anything like this before, but to be honest I could see him becoming more and more unstable and depressed for a while (as any MN'ers that 'know' me will know).

I'm at work using someone elses log in, my home email is STILL not working and I could really do with you guys of an evening.

Mum & Dad are helping me with the kids. I'm surpsrisingly calm and almost relieved. H has many problems and thankfully now because he finally snapped he will be forced to get the help he needs..... and his parents now will know all this too.

I don't hate him, I do still love him..... but he's gone and will not be moving back in anytime soon. After sentencing (probably a fine) he'll be in a flat of his own up here so he can carry on with his job and still see the kids as often as possible.

It was a real shock when it happened, but am I strange to feel relieved that it did?

Anyway, thats the situation.

Hope you are all doing wonderful. Smile I will try to get a minute to check if there are any Scottish meet-ups coming soon and will do my best to get there.

I MISS MN! Sad

OP posts:
Esmummy · 08/06/2006 14:50

Sorry you've answered the Q's about DS etc, i just replied in response to your first post.
Could you not dismantle your PC and bring it downstairs or is your internet connection set up upstairs ?

Original poster
Toothache · 08/06/2006 14:52

You guys are the best! I'm doing okay financially at the moment. I'm the mainearner anyway.... and Hs salary gets paid into my account.... so its up to him to ask me to transfer what he needs!

I'm in Central Scotland LGJ. Smile

OP posts:
SaintGeorge · 08/06/2006 14:52

Can get all the cables/plugs etc from Maplins for about £15. That would give you an extension at the opposite end of the room from your main socket, plus an extension on a reel for temporary use upstairs. Just wind up and put away when kids about.

We will get you online!

Original poster
Toothache · 08/06/2006 14:53

I've got to get off this log in now.

But I can still email you from my work email. I'll email Beety, SG and Esmummy..... and hopefully they can keep me up to speed with MN until I get this feckin cable connected.

Thanks so much everyone. Smile

OP posts:
LotosEater · 08/06/2006 14:53

eyeas get that extension reel for a fast and dirty solution and we'll have a Bar again in your honour Smile

take care

xxx

oliveoil · 08/06/2006 14:54

re emailing at work - be careful what you put if they can monitor and keep records etc

chin up love

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Esmummy · 08/06/2006 14:56

Get on as often as you can Toothy and we'll all keep thinking of ways to get you up and running at home x

bubblerock · 08/06/2006 15:00

Toothache, so sorry this is happening to you Sad I haven't read the whole thread but this struck a chord as DH's stepsister was strangled by her husband a few years ago, she didn't survive though and left 4 children behind Sad So I am glad you are still here and I hope he gets the help he needs. Keep posting xx

Esmummy · 08/06/2006 15:00

Aha Sherlock "oliveoil" Holmes Grin
Not exactly hard to work out, would just prefer not to shout it from the rooftops and go back there again.

Esmummy · 08/06/2006 15:01

Blimey Bubblerock, that is chilling :(

anorak · 08/06/2006 15:01

OMG toothache, have only read your opening post, how horrible and frightening for you.

You must get your internet going at home so you can come back.

Will read the rest when back from school run, lots of love xx

Aimsmum · 08/06/2006 15:02

Hi Totthy, I've not been around much lately, but sorry to hear how things have been.

I'm only on for a minute, but you know i'm localish, if you need anything or just a chat or whatever.

Aimsmum (at) ntlworld.com

Take careSmile

gscrym · 08/06/2006 15:08

If you fancy a coffee sometime, I can meet you in Falkirk. Sadly, I won't be at the next meet up but get in touch if you need anything, I'm on block just now. gma5018142 at aol dot com

SenoraPostrophe · 08/06/2006 15:33

toothache, you are an amazing woman.

hope you realise that.

dinosaure · 08/06/2006 15:37

Toothache, I'm really sorry to hear this, but I have to say that I'm not all that shocked Sad based on what you'd posted before about your H.

Sending you my very best wishes, hope you get your home email sorted out soon so we can chat more.

I often think of you and your kids.

Esmummy · 08/06/2006 15:38

Toothy have just replied to your email.
Dino I thought the same but shocked was the only way I could describe it, even thought i wasn't overly shocked IYSWIM

sweetkitty · 08/06/2006 15:53

hi toothy just seen this Sad

I hope things do still work out for you and DH. I've not been around much (in a newborn and toddler haze) e-mail me if you want to anytime.

take care x

NomDePlume · 08/06/2006 15:56

Oh God Toothy Sad. I'm so sorry to read this, you and H have had a really rotten time of it for so long now. I hope you and H can find a way to move on from this, even if that means being apart. Best of luck, hon.

NDP x
(WSM)

blueteddy · 08/06/2006 16:07

Oh, Toothache, how horrible & frightening for you.Sad
Really sorry that you had to go through this.
I hope you soon have your internet sorted, as you sound like you could do with some MN support right now.
Take care.x

sunchowder · 08/06/2006 16:16

I am so sorry to see this toothy. You sound so strong, I hope it continues for you and you get though this and hope the internet gets sorted for you. I can't imagine how scarey it must have been. Healing thoughts coming your way.

Tortington · 08/06/2006 16:25

this is very rubbish - but may actually be the catalyst to a long and happy relationship in the end.

i hope you heal physically and mentally very soon.

i hope things get better
all the best

beansontoast · 08/06/2006 16:35

oh my god toothache...speechless...hope to god things do get better for you....having come to such a head
love beans xxx

Miaou · 08/06/2006 16:50

Sad just seen this from lgj's other thread... toothy you are sorely missed and it will be our mumsnet mission to get you back online soon so we can offer you all our support!

I am so Sad that this has happened but I wonder if it might actually be a good thing in the long run. I hope it all works out for all of you.

peachyClair · 08/06/2006 17:06

Oh toothy- sympathies. violence was against himself not me, but I watched Dh go through something similar and it was heartbreaking in every way. I truly hope he gets the help he needs- 2 ish years on, DH is a new man.

tissy · 08/06/2006 17:16

Hi toothache. Hope you're Ok

You can get an extension cable that winds up into a case. Loads and loads of cable on it used to have one here, I'll have a look

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