Dating thread 56 all welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
3. Trust your gut instinct;
4. If it is not fun, stop

Oh yes the men that say they are gentlemen, if they say it on POF, it must be true

Sorry Nora but

Oh my, look at all the deletions

I agree, those kind of profiles have a slightly misogynistic (oh-oh) and sinister air to them, like the ones who want someone to 'treat like a princess'.

Disclaimer - I never licked his beard.

I hate those profiles, they don't just have an edge, they have a grand canyon festooned with red flags. Anyone who feels the need to say they're not after a ONS clearly is and I hate the misogynistic talk of women with class who will make him wait.

From the other end, what do people make of people who say "sex is important to me" in their profile? It puts me off. I sort of take that as a given so wonder why people need to spell it out and quite how kinky they must be. But then I don't do any e-smut.

nods Yes. This.

Right. Can't really give you a running commentary on the speed dating but ill try for highlights

ALittle when I saw exLM was back on OD I noticed he'd then changed his profile to include 'sex is important to me'

Incredibly badly organised, it's at an open air bar where there are some people sitting alone, some couples, some in groups. No one seems to know who's here for the dating thing and who's just random. Ages 18-39, so most of the blokes will be younger than me. And possibly some of the women.
Hasn't started yet. Not too many people here.

I went to a badly organised one once, people just kept drifting in and I left before the proper start as I knew none of them would be for me.

How is that going to work with Hungarish?

It's arranged through an expat group, there will be Hungarishes here but english is the lingua Franca

It's even better than tractor pulling. What's the craic now Bant?

A couple just arrived together, holding hands, asked if the speed dating was happening and sat down at separate tables. Oh this is strange

Bant so many of my coupled up friends want to do speed dating with me, people do it as a sport.

Jules nice work!

Kin yes you do deserve more, silence is tempting but cowardly.

I'm trying to live by the maxim of do unto others as I'd like done to me when it comes to OD at the moment. It's really, really difficult.

Aaaaannnddd... It's cancelled. Not enough people. Ridiculous.

The couple look irritated and are sitting together again, grumpily.

Nora I'm sorry about Showbiz and his shabby behaviour. No excuse for it. Probably expending too much energy on beard growth to have any left over for manners.

Nora Showbiz behaviour is odd, has he just gone quiet or is this an owes you a text thing?

It's the whole Madonna/whore thing, nice clean innocent laydee put up there on her sparkly princess's pedestal. Dangerous thinking. I find this mindset really disturbing and anecdotally a common factor in several abusive relationships I know of.

I would love to speed date with someone who'd say something like that.

There is the slight people-watching joy that there were very few people here, I was sat in a corner watching the goings-on and waiting for it to start, and when it got called off there were only 5 or 6 people who'd turned up. One attractive woman, one scary Hungarian woman, the couple, me , and another British bloke.
So the Brit goes over to the attractive woman and asks to sit with her. She accepts graciously. They sit and chat and after their 4 minutes is up he remains. The conversation tails off. She looks uncomfortable. So does he. But there is no one to ring the bell and tell them to move on.

Oh dear.

Actually she is quite cute, I probably should've gone over.