Dating thread 56 all welcome

[Kirstywirsty]

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
3. Trust your gut instinct;
4. If it is not fun, stop

Yes OWW you must email Alpha :)

I have small breasts. Although have been told they are perfectly formed so they are all right :) Does mean that I can't sadly have cleavage photos however hard I try.

I also took what Bant said in the spirit in which I thought it was meant.

Right must mark more sodding exam papers. Am bored already and haven't even done 10% of them yet....

Oh no Nora, hope he will make a resurgence soon. I have a bit of a soft spot for ole Showbiz.

I did text Alpha. He's texted me three or four times today in between his onerous duties being important in Paris . Looking forward to seeing him but we've not got anything definite arranged.

What spirit was it meant did you think Miranda?

Because I took it, expressly or impliedly as a dig at me.

I'm interested there may be other inferences which might have passed me by.

Duh, emailed not texted.

I have a date with a man from RL. maybe this weekend, most likely next, depending on my work. I do have to admit to being very excited, hes 3 years older, own house, good job, clever and funny and a terrible flirt. hes fit as he did the 3 peaks challenge, but is also nice, and grounded and likes talking about current affairs and things. and hes 6ft 2.
;)

Small but perfectly formed is good Miranda - is that a quote from Mr Nice?

I also took it as a dig against Velvet and I will not stand by why someone does that

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6'2??? that's my kind of man

I'm talking to a writer, 50 - quite plain but I'm giving it a go. Intelligence is a turn on

big and bouncy and lots of fun is also good last i heard :)

6ft 2.
and has been lovely. nice mixture of flirting and conversation, keeps calling me tinkerbell. which is quite nice. i might even consider shagging him on the first date!

intelligence is lovely, i can be very attracted to a clever man

What this comes down to is there appears to be an attitude (not just here, in society as a whole) that if you have some cleavage (this now seems to be being expressed as LOADS of cleavage, but wasn't earlier), and pout, and wear underwear, you can expect men to proposition you, send you filth, and cock shots and whatever.

And that really it's all you deserve.

That is wrong. I'm sorry but it is.

I don't do any of that stuff. I can't manage to pout and I've never learned to wink. But actually even if I did, that gives no man (or woman) the right to think less of me, or harass me.

And sending cock shots etc especially as a first message actually IS a form of harassment. It's online flashing essentially. Why should any woman have to put up with that however she presents herself?

I fully expect to be told I am reading too much into this, seeing things that aren't there. but I feel really strongly about this issue. With my history it is hard not to.

Did I miss something about the Proclaimers?!

Tortilla somewhere waaaaay up the thread you said you were having an evening of sending messages... How's it going so far? My profile is hidden so I have to message first, I'd say about 80% message back, but probably 50% of those conversations fizzle to nothing within a couple of exchanges...

I've never had a cock pic on OD either! Although, as I said before, I'm finding most men only want to chat anyway, despite the word DATING appearing when you log in to POF . So I suppose it hasn't really occurred to them. Which is good!

Now chatting with a couple of nice guys - have had to cast my net a bit wider to the next biggish city (60 miles) away but one guy says he is really keen to meet up... Not holding my breath!

its almost like saying ' naice girls dont have big boobs'

i agree with everything you say. and people making excuses for this kind of attitude are just as bad as those spouting them.

I damn well hope my daughter grows up in a world where she isnt judged by the size of her boobs.

Are you a fan Django? You have a good success rate if 80% are messaging back - what sort of thing do you say in your first message? Fizzle rate sounds much like mine.

Fuck me, there's some paranoid and defensive people on this thread Don't know why the same old faces have to keep popping up to criticise and derail the thread. This is supposed to be a lighthearted support thread, is it not? Have fun here, or don't post. It's not rocket science

I had a cock shot presented to me ON MY DATE'S PHONE when I came back from the loo once. 'What do you think of that?' was the romantic, seductive words that came from his lips, as I recall

i didnt realise the thread was being derailed, we are taking about judgments and dating... which is directly dating related........

Hi Django - I've literally just sat down to start my messaging. I'll let you know how it goes. I can't imagine having an 80 percent reply rate - that's impressive!

I do find it's mostly single dads that message me which makes me think me having a child puts some men without children off - not that I'm suggesting they would all message me otherwise obviously.

Bloody hell Stumped! What did you say to that then? And I can't help wondering - was it his ??

Stumped yuck!

winefiend that made me laugh. What a shame it didnt work out - it would have made a lovely story to tell people about how you first got together

winefiend That is awesome! If he doesn't think that's funny, bollocks to him

OWW I can't honestly remember. I nade my excuses and left, I can remember that much! Dreadful man. We'd got on so well by text and email up until that point too.... I think it probably was his. It was huge

Can someone give me directions to Utopia? Actually as Im imperfect I wouldn't fit in.

I wonder if a big, fat, wet fish (tuna? porpoise?) could be deployed? Had my first weekend away (in the Cotswolds) with Mr Sarf London Geezer (SLG) and it was... fantastic. Up until a couple of weeks ago I could take it or leave it which I was more than happy with and today I feel tearful and vulnerable. I'm in some kind of 'fight or flight' mode. Fucking ridiculous. Thank you v. much STB-exH