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Dating thread 56 all welcome

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Kirstywirsty · 15/06/2013 21:12

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

  1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  3. Trust your gut instinct;
  4. If it is not fun, stop
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johnnydeppshat · 17/06/2013 19:38

wine, there is no difference for me between 'lots of clevage' and a lot cut top. its one and the same.

OhWesternWind · 17/06/2013 19:38

Hello again Watch

Winefiend · 17/06/2013 19:44

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48howdidthathappen · 17/06/2013 19:46

I don't think Bant meant anything bad Confused Honestly no wonder so many men I know would be afraid to approach/help a lost child. Very sad.

MsCellophane · 17/06/2013 19:49

I have never looked at a pic of a man and thought he's up for it - as like most men, he probably is

And most women are on a dating site to meet a partner - one nighter or marriage, we want to have sex with the person we meet eventually, so technically anyone on a dating site is up for it. What we aren't on there for is to be abused no matter what the pic is showing. There is no such thing as a type of woman - some women are free with intercourse and some not so much - one isn't good and the other isn't bad

I personally like a torso pic as I like my men to be muscular, lack of shirt is not saying to me 'I like to fuck and run'

johnnydeppshat · 17/06/2013 19:55

Most people on dating sites are there to meet a partner, so yes, one would hope that would include sex, as its a natural part of that.

I stand by what i said earlier, wear what you like, be you and be happy in yourself. If someones going place judgements on you for showing a cm or two much boob, it really does say more about them than it does you.

mercury7 · 17/06/2013 19:57

I dont mind a torso pic if he's got a good physique...really I just think people are less polite on dating sites than in RL because of anonymity/lack of consequences, thats got to apply to women too (none of us of course :o Blush )

MsCellophane · 17/06/2013 20:02

I will continue to challenge these sexist attitudes - from men and women

I don't want my girls to grow up thinking this is the norm and I certainly will fight to death to have my son think that way.

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OhWesternWind · 17/06/2013 20:06

I have never looked at a pic of a man and thought he's up for it - as like most men, he probably is

And that's not sexist????? Just imagine that statement the other way round and it's exactly the attitude so many people are (rightly) complaining about.

johnnydeppshat · 17/06/2013 20:06

like

johnnydeppshat · 17/06/2013 20:08

ack no, if people were saying all women were up for it, it would be grand.

instead its been said women with lots of cleavage OR pouting and posing and winking, will only attract men looking for sex.

and that assumptions would be made about the woman regarding that.

MsCellophane · 17/06/2013 20:09

If you then read on, I said the end goal for all on dating sites is relationship that includes sex - so, yes he prob is up for it. I would say very few men on dating sites aren't looking for sex

That's not being sexist - end goal for all on dating sites is sex, some that night, some in a year or after marriage - adult relationships include sex

KinNora · 17/06/2013 20:15

Again ? Bloody hell.

akaWisey · 17/06/2013 20:16

well I messaged back it's only 78.5 miles if he were to change the venue he mentioned.

he then messaged a somewhat cryptic response about it looking better so soon. Hmm and I commented on that but no more.

so i think i'll wait and see if he makes a 'meet half way' suggestion. 79 miles is a bloody long way though, I agree.

OhWesternWind · 17/06/2013 20:18

It's like a Proclaimers song Wisey Grin

It's tedious, isn't it, Nora? What news from the world of Showbiz?

akaWisey · 17/06/2013 20:18

There's a part of me that likes the idea of dating someone who lives in a completely different area. Having had a recent, disastrous and very short lived dating thing with someone who lives in my town - at least there's no risk of embarrassing moments in the local co-op!!!!

KinNora · 17/06/2013 20:19

Oh, and as a woman with an impressive embonpoint, I would like to add that I'm thoroughly unoffended/unrepressed by anything Bant's said.

JulietteMontague · 17/06/2013 20:19

MsC I will continue to challenge these sexist attitudes
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I have never looked at a pic of a man and thought he's up for it - as like most men, he probably is

Irony, much? I am disengaging now, again it's pointless.

brokenhearted55 · 17/06/2013 20:20

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KinNora · 17/06/2013 20:22

Ahhhh, OWW sad news from Showbiz Land, I suspect it may be over. Not heard from him since Saturday, he normally texts smut several times a day. It's a bit of a shame but I'm not weeping into my Cup-a-soup.

Did you email Alpha ?

KinNora · 17/06/2013 20:23

Hello Juliette love Smile

OhWesternWind · 17/06/2013 20:24

I'm disengaging too ... Hope we can get the normal lovely supportive thread back on track.

From what I've heard, Broken, you're not missing much.

brokenhearted55 · 17/06/2013 20:26

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JulietteMontague · 17/06/2013 20:26

Wisey he is keen and if he wants to travel to see the Wonder of Wisey that is entirely at his pleasure Grin