I know I'll prob get a flaming...

[HurryUpWithTheWine]

Today I ended it with a guy I've been seeing for a while. Yes I was the OW and I know how awful my behaviour was. If you were his gf would you want to know? I'm torn and can't decide what's for the best. I know I'm a bitch and whatever else you want to throw at me...

What Cravey said.

I can imagine wanting to know if my DH was cheating on me, but I cant imagine a scenario that would include the OW telling me!?! I just cant see how that would be in any way a good thing. You are only going to hurt her even more and make yourself look desperate and conniving. Walk away from this situation NOW.

You have behaved badly, OP, but the vitriol on this type of thread is depressing. It reminds me of the bloody Jermey Kyle show - people screeching and yelling insults. Grow up, FFS! If you dont have any constructive advice for the OP - move on!

I was shocked too and fully expected one. Perhaps she had some respect for herself? Unlike me before you say it.

I never said you hadn't respect for yourself.you sound as if you have lots of that. Just none for others it would seem.

pants on fire

I've followed this thread thinking you were a bit of a bitch, OP, and have now upgraded that to 'complete bitch'. There was absolutely no need for you to tell that poor woman anything. Not your place. But I suppose you're feeling oh so virtuous now and that your slate is somewhat wiped clean. Hope I never encounter you in real life because I'd be very tempted to land one on you myself!

if my DP had an OW I wouldn't mind her telling me a bit, at least then I'd have the full facts to make my own decision rather then him making it for me! Guess that makes me odd!

Yeah like she would tell you she was booking in for an STI test and not smack you

attention attention attention

I certainly do not believe she asked you and your friend to help pack his things!!!

What a crock.

I am a betrayed wife and I would have SO appreciated a call.

I thought I was going mad. The RELIEF of finding out I wasn't was huge.

But, OW, you knew he was not available. You knew there was an innocent woman and children.

Why?

I've read this thread from start to finish, and op (I can't be arsed to write your name or capitalise you) if you are for real, then you are the most self centred self absorbed "woman" i've ever come across, and if you think you've "wiped the slate clean" may God help you. If you were my friend i'd want nothing to do with you.
But i think you're a troll or a deluded frustrated writer and i feel sorry for you. Either way, you're a joke.

I almost believed this scenario until the neat conclusion - where the wronged wife phones the locksmith, arranges an STD test and throws out the cheating husband all in one fell swoop, whilst allowing the mistress to keep her ill-gotten gains from their liaison. No doubt wronged wife and mistress will end up best friends forever and go off on a girly weekend to Tuscany in the next instalment.

Bollocks. This is taking the piss.

yes I'm starting to wonder, and if there is a pattern to this rubbish??
Seems much too well package to be true, and I was hoping for the best
Hurryup=AshamedGay?

interesting connection, over

Yes, yes! I was thinking the same thing earlier!

mentiroso, mentiroso, pantalones en el fuego

Just as I was about to say "I told you so, that telling wife would be the best thing to do!"

I now have to live with the nagging question "why would anyone want to spend hours and hours telling a very bad joke?"

Serves me right for hoiking up my judgypantalones.

The problem is that your heroine is really unsympathetic.

Oh gosh. What an awful woman you are.

Here. Have my first ever

Hope you are very proud of yourself for cheating with someone who you knew was unavailable and had a child.

You should be ashamed of yourself. Karma - remember that!

Crock.

I think in a sequel the wife and mistress could become best fiends. Mistress is asked to be witness at the wedding when wife finds a new man. But sadly they can't conceive a child so mistress donates egg and the baby is named after her. Then mistres becomes a nun having restored the balance of the world through the gift of life. She renounces all desires of the flesh and grows a fabulous moustache.

If you have any decency you'll give the gf the proceeds from selling her partner's gifts to you.

I'm not going to flame you as it's none of my damn business!. But why put his innocent girlfriend through hurt by telling her. What the eye doesn't see the heart doesn't grieve over.
I have no right to judge anyway as I cheated on an ex boyfriend I was in a 3 month relationship with no sex, err don't ask. So I went out and got in elsewhere, do I feel guilty?.... No, I don't if he had shown me affection then I wouldn't have gone looking elsewhere. Simple as that. xx

Frissonpink. I am also a great believer in Karma and I have proof of it although if I tell the story o here I will be identified and I don't want to be.

However... Lets not forget the guy who she had the affair with is every bit as guilty as her and at least she has been honest. Also I must say this but I see no anger for the guy in your post. O.P obviously didn't have an affair with herself did she. xx

What a waste of my time reading this bullshit