My x will be his version of happy at the moment. he is luvved up with the new gf. she will of course be brilliant. he will be telling her how relieved he is to be with her and away from me and all the awful stress and nagging and constant demands and about all the wonderful things he will be able to do once he has sorted out his house/life/money which of course he could not do because of me dragging him down all these years.
and how he gave me children and i am not grateful and nothing he ever did was enough.
right now he will be in the rewriting history and promising the moon phase and it will all be such great fun. and he has got someone to help him with the kids so he can live up to his self image of being a great dad.
By now he has probably convinced himself he was the one who left me. because I made him miserable (a common complaint when we were together- i was making his life a misery- and yet even during all the things he did I never accused him of that- my life, my responsibility to make it happy or otherwise).
he will be so pleased to finally be free and with someone he deserves.
(this all make me quite 
but I need to let go as there is nothing I can do about it other than think FW )
it is funny reading the Lundy book though because I had my lightbulb moment before i kicked him out when i suddenly realised this is not about what he does or why he does it- this is about how he thinks and who he thinks I am (and by extension all women)
although in the Lundy diagram- big circle for Men, smaller for women, tiny for kids. I think his is big circle entitled ME tiny circle with everyone else written in it. he does not particularly respect other men either.
and that being the case his happiness won't last. new gf will make the 'mistake' of organising a holiday or Christmas will roll around and the real FW will crawl out from under his cloak.
lemon on another thread suggested that people behave differently with different partners. I do think some people bring out the worst in you (and I certainly don't like the way I have become, mostly ) and maybe he will be happy with someone else but surely that cannot be true. because if that is true then it means it was my fault and somehow it is because I am me that he abused me. I prefer to believe he just is abusive and will eventually do it to everybody because it has worked in the past and the only thing that will make a difference is how long any individual gf will put up with it which is probably down to their personalty and previous life experience.
his very abusive dad eventually after strings of women ended up on his own. and I think he may have realised that he had brought it on himself.
and I have realised you should not put up with this kind of thing (although of course i put up with it because I initially thought I caused at least half of it- i did not leave because of his abuse because I failed to realise that that is what it was. i wonder if my PND counsellor knew- if she did I wish she had spelled it out to me)
sorry long post. lots of mulling.