I'm getting a bit annoyed with the Translator. After a great afternoon at the zoo, and a bit more messaging on FB, I've asked her to dinner tomorrow night. But she won't commit. She's probably ok for one or two drinks, maybe dinner, she doesn't know yet.
Now to me, that sounds like she kind of likes the idea but isn't sure and is waiting for a better offer from someone else. If nothing else comes up, she can make dinner. If something else comes up, only drinks or nothing at all.
I know the 'Rules' say that a man should do the chasing. The woman shouldn't make herself too available or the man will go off her. Whether she's consciously or unconsciously following them or not, I don't know. And I know a lot of people on here don't believe in them (although I think they're not a terrible idea, it does explain some behaviour and men and women are wired differently, after all)
But - it's beginning to annoy me. If someone is going to mess me around in order to pique my interest, it's going to piss me off and I'm going to go off her.
Saying she'd really like to see me but she has a work thing she doesn't know about yet (which she doesn't as she starts a new job next week) would be okay. But implying I'm one social option and she'll let me know on the morning of the date whether we're having dinner or not - that feels like I'm supposed to be pathetically grateful that she'd deign to have dinner with me. Which, as I said, just makes me want to move on to someone else who doesn't play games.
All may be well, we'll see how she acts tomorrow/tonight - but some of the shine has gone cos I feel like I'm being pissed around.
humph.