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Dating thread no 53

999 replies

Flipper924 · 06/05/2013 21:48

The Rules

1 Develop a thick skin;

  1. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  2. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  3. Trust your gut instinct;
  4. If it is not fun, stop

Off we go...

OP posts:
JulietteMontague · 15/05/2013 16:40

I also like men posting, value the contributions and perspective of the rest of the ostentation (yes! that's really a thing). The muster's (yes! so is that) view really balances out the gender thing.

Just had to use those words and pat Rose on the head.

MsCellophane · 15/05/2013 16:40

Sadly all the decent men who used to post have all buggered off

And all that's left is the arrogant one. And I don't give a shit anymore

New people came on the thread, some are lovely but the few that took over ruined the fun we used to have

No chatting about sex as they don't like it
Telling everyone where they are going wrong - and yes I will be patronising to someone that is so young and telling us all where we are going wrong, when she isn't even dating
So many now looking down on people like a bit of casual sex
The Rules being the way to go

It's no wonder everyone who was here before are leaving or have left - and let's not forget how one person was treated, by people she thought were friends and the peacock and his hens were behind that too.

You ignore new people, when the oldies welcomed new people (that's how you all ended up here) You ignore old people. It used to be a good place, sadly not anymore. The behaviour of some has ruined it

Now you can all ignore this, as I know you will and carry on on how to change Velvet (cos it must be her fault) and talk about Dr Who - how entertaining and witty you all are

Scrazy · 15/05/2013 16:41

I'm not dating, I admit. I am not a loved up one (well secretly but it's one sided). I like reading up to see how it's going as I know I will be dating again one day, or if not, needing to live vicariously through the thread.

KinNora · 15/05/2013 16:41

Yeah, those loved up bastards - splitters !

KinNora · 15/05/2013 16:45

MsC I suspect you've been reading some kind of alternate universe thread because I don't recognise the one you describe.

Scrazy · 15/05/2013 16:46

Yes, I don't like men being call twunts and knobs just because they decide not to follow through for one reason or another after a date or sex. It takes two, afterall.

Bant · 15/05/2013 16:52

Sorry Cellophane I didn't realise you disliked me so much. And nor do I particularly care.

I don't control how other people post, how welcoming they are, whether they talk about sex or not. I generally stick up for people who are being attacked by others, unless they were the ones who started the attack and then couldn't just move on when everyone else was trying to. I may come across as arrogant, or confident, but I'm asking people's advice all the time and value it.

And if anyone gets ignored, they should ask the question again. It's a web-forum, not tea at the vicars. Sometimes people get overlooked and they should say something again. Unless you're going to be insulting and patronising, in which case just shut up.

I don't think anyone was telling anyone else where they were going wrong. Offering constructive criticism, possibly, but I've learned not to do that because people can take offence.

Personally I liked hearing other men's opinions too but they have other things going on in their lives, I believe.

Also I wasn't aware I had hens.

mercury7 · 15/05/2013 16:52

Sorry MrsC, I didnt realise you were in charge of the thread Confused

..I'll erm, try and make sure I stick to your guidelines

KinNora · 15/05/2013 16:56

It's all very avian, today, isn't it ?

Bant, I'm clucking my agreement.

EternalRose · 15/05/2013 16:57

Juliette Thank you for the pat Grin x

I have been in two relationships spanning 10 years, and I had to date to get into those relationships....I was unaware that dating right this minute and being past 35 years of age was a pre-requisite for having an opinion. My bad.

I haven't told anyone what their faults are, and you know it...

And thank god for those that are all loved up on this thread, it keeps me sane and it's refreshing because it is so easy to become cynical about it all, and that I don't want.

Beach is lovely, I am on my new iphone. Amazing thing. Up until now, I have been using a £9.99 cheapie from Argos that ONLY texts, and calls. But this is something else...

WarmFuzzyFun · 15/05/2013 17:04

Hello.

Apologies if this lands (as per usual) in the midst of something.

Thank you for all your help and support, things are much better - I love you all Thanks

As you were.

Bant · 15/05/2013 17:04

hennyway... back to doctor who? (to change the subject before we all start hiding again)

KirstyWirsty · 15/05/2013 17:14

I plan never to be loved up again .. Quite happy dating ( yes guilty!) Rocky and having lots of lovely sex .. Seeing him again Sunday AND Monday night for sleepovers .. Hope my scabby chin is better by then ( any handy hints welcome )

I love this thread :)

KirstyWirsty · 15/05/2013 17:16

Glad things are on the up WFF

KinNora · 15/05/2013 17:25

Love you too, Twinny. I'm glad things are better.

Bant just about to google the Dr Who spoilers.

Kirsty I'm with you on not wanting to be loved up. Is your scabby chin a result of excessive snogging ! Sudocrem is good.

JoylessFucker · 15/05/2013 17:38

Hen? Hen? HEN? BLOODY HEN?
I'm a fucking rooster I'll have you know ...

Or weren't we talking about Chinese horoscopes? Grin

JoylessFucker · 15/05/2013 17:40

Rose I have to agree with you about the ithingy ... I'd fought against it for ages, but now I just love it and couldn't do without my Ithingys Blush

JoylessFucker · 15/05/2013 17:41

WFF hugs & so pleased Flowers

JoylessFucker · 15/05/2013 17:42

Kirsty pure lavender oil (has to be the pukka stuff though) has always worked miracles on me.

KirstyWirsty · 15/05/2013 17:50

Nora I wouldn't call it excessive snogging Grin but rocky favours the designer stubble look and I thought it would be softer .. I have been using sudocrem

I was all a bit crusty but now after giving it a good scrub I've got a couple of spots and peeling looking

EternalRose · 15/05/2013 17:51

Joyless This is it, I am starting to wonder how I coped before Grin...and the sat nav thing is brilliant! I am way behind most with the gadgets, but my iphone has given me a taster and now I am eying up a kindle Hmm

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KinNora · 15/05/2013 17:58

You're right to pick me up on that Kirsty there's no such thing as excessive snogging Grin

Rose do you know you can get a Kindle app ? ...just sayin'

JoylessFucker · 15/05/2013 18:03

Nora would it look bad if I admitted to having a Kindle and and the app on my iThingys? Blush

JoylessFucker · 15/05/2013 18:04

Wine woohoo on the (anticipated) first. How fabulous Wine

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