Evening all, sorry to gate crash in with a woe is me story, but I feel a bit side swiped this evening.
Lots of stuff from the last year dredging up, it was about now that I started to suspect something was amiss with STBXH, so lots of memories flooding back, have also just found out that despite not paying our mortgage because he can't afford it, he is actually on holiday with the OW this week, sunning himself overseas. It is also my daughters 13th birthday tomorrow but she is at her Dad's (who is not STBXH) until late afternoon, so won't get to wake up with her here and do all the Birthday stuff first thing.
But all compounded by a phone call I had with my friend, one of my oldest bestest friends yesterday. Get this, she met this guy online in about September last year. She has been divorced 5 years, 2 kids early teens, ex husband was a cheating shit, she has dated over those 5 years and is a lovely person, head screwed on, doesn't take any shit, says it how it is and has a great sense of humour. So she meets this guy, starts dating and he is fabulous. To cut a long story short, they talk about getting married, they book a holiday together for this summer, they look at buying a house. He goes away with work for 3 weeks and starts getting a bit flaky with excuses for coming back, he has to stay over the weekends to get the job done etc.
she starts to get a bit suspicious and does some investigating and discovers he is married, a fully paid up married man with a wife and 2 kids at home who have no idea that he has been leading this double life, he spent five solid weeks living with my friend and her kids and told his wife he was working away.
Where do people like this get off? It just shows how you can never truly know someone, she is astute, bright and was completely and utterly fooled.
It just makes me a bit tearful because after my cheating bastard ex, I have huge trust issues and I just think, Wow! if it can happen to her it can happen to anyone.