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can't sleep won't sleep 4

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SummerDad · 15/04/2013 22:10

Here we are dear fellas Grin

OP posts:
cafecito · 07/05/2013 23:51

themidwife it must have taken a lot of strength to tell them. I really admire that. I don't think she has access to anything. I am seeing her soon, I only see her

MrsShrek3 · 07/05/2013 23:54

we've phoned DH at work, he has talked to him for a while but ds doesn't really want to listen.... it does seem to have calmed him a bit. I'm on my own with the (3) dc tonight. Not usually a problem but I think today has been "funny" for him because of the BH yesterday and no school. it's always messing with routine that gets him. otherwise socially you probably wouldn't know he had asd. until you change a routine and get bitten Grin I just hate him feeling so overloaded that he wants his brain to switch off and die Sad

MrsShrek3 · 07/05/2013 23:56

x post cafe.
I had a best friend at school with same issues. I never felt I could help much but years later she told me that just backing her and believing her was enough. so sad.

cafecito · 08/05/2013 00:08

maybe, it helps to listen and be there/ I can't really do anything. I don't know.

How old is DS? Is he ..12?13? aspergers? It must be so awful to hear him saying those things and feeling like that Sad did anything set him off today in particular? I am reasonably ignorant but know asd DC in Norway and am just astounded by the intelligence of asd and high functioning minds- just not possible to switch those off

BearsInMotion · 08/05/2013 05:57

:(

Really sorry to hear about all your sad experiences. Thanks

Here we're just up because Babybear decided 5:15 was a good time to get up for the day Hmm. She had a really busy day yesterday and wasn't asleep till gone 8, was up twice in the night and is now singing happily in her cot Confused. Does she not need sleep any more?!

MrsShrek3 · 08/05/2013 06:31

well we got to sleep eventually. I am hoping from the lack of posts.here that the rest if you did too...
(and cafe, I think it was the bank holiday changing the week that is at the root of it but then there's a whole pile of little stuff on top that the rest of us filter out but he can't)

themidwife · 08/05/2013 07:46

Ah Mrs that sounds tricky. I can understand how disruptive it must be for him to have random days off. Hope you're back to normal today. Thanks

themidwife · 08/05/2013 07:48

By the way re my past - I'm very accepting of it now. Just a bit raw about my parents' reaction because I told them about it only last year.

Minimammoth · 08/05/2013 08:28

Cafe, Jynier, midwife, this book has been around for a while and many people have found it helpful. Most counsellors or psychotherapists who have had a good training will be trained in working with people with these experiences. Although CBT is popular it is not going to reach the depths needed to help the scars left by early childhood abuse. ( the training for CBT is minimal IMO).
I sit and shake my head many days at the moment at the sheer selfishness coming forward for, mostly men, but not exclusively, who put their own gratification above the feelings, safety and acknowledgment of a small person even being a person in their own right. It's is sad that as a 'civilised' people these things are still so so prevelent. We have not evolved much have we. SadSad
I am not even going to apologise for rant.

Minimammoth · 08/05/2013 14:27

Oo dear have I frightened everybody off.

themidwife · 08/05/2013 16:56

No Mini just been busy at work today!
Thanks - I'll check it out later Smile

WouldBeHarrietVane · 08/05/2013 18:27

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Minimammoth · 08/05/2013 18:39

I have had a full day, it sound as if everyone has, I have Wine cos my head is about to burst. Breathe, breathe. Am twitchy, prob thyroid. Am off to do yoga for a bit.

Minimammoth · 08/05/2013 18:39

Shouldn't do with wine.

starsandunicorns · 08/05/2013 18:54

Flops onto thread due to a 35 drive home from has taken me 1hour 50 mins have cramp in left leg pixy m6 jnt 20 to 21 waiting for pizza to cook and now realise my cooker needs cleaning as smoke bellowing grr so mumsnettings and flapping kitchen towel to helo smoke out sigh

Minimammoth · 08/05/2013 19:03

Sympathy stars. I found a partly eaten naan on a foiled bag, in my 'slow oven' at the weekend. God knows how long it had been thereBlush

KittyAndTheFontanelles · 08/05/2013 20:01

Hi all Smile

I've felt so unwell all day. I've had minus energy and a debilitating head, neck and face ache all day. Poor littlekitty has watched a lot of sesame st and hasn't been thrown around half as much as she would have liked. Sad Sad I feel like I've let her down. She's been really good as usual.

Harriet we love that book too. Littlekitty's first animal noise was the elephant in that book. Smile I hate the ending though. It's like The Pit and the Pendulum ".....and then the French arrived and saved him" Like he was running out of time before a deadline and had to wrap it up Grin

themidwife · 08/05/2013 20:35

It sounds like it's been a tough day all round today - big hugs ThanksThanksThanks

KittyAndTheFontanelles · 08/05/2013 20:42

Hi themidwife, on the plus side I met my midwife and she seems lovely. I'm so glad I haven't got the same one as last time Grin hateful

mini how was your tipsy yoga?Wink

Stars are you relaxed yet? Have you had a glass of something? Grin

themidwife · 08/05/2013 21:25

Oooh Kitty a nice new midwife! I thought I was THE midwife! Grin

MrsShrek3 · 08/05/2013 22:55
Grin
starsandunicorns · 08/05/2013 23:20

Had lots of brews now have no milk and have no wine or beer in house till friday when paid legs really sore

I was told by dp that i would get a massage tonight yeah rite hes on the laptop moving tanks about !!
eyes up catsuit

cafecito · 08/05/2013 23:29

Shock kitty and her philandering Grin nice to have a nice one, mine was awesome (the community one in my GP surgery) sadly retired now, she was just fabulous. my hospital ones were universally dire, except one on a night shift who was decent (I think I vomited on her though, oops)

hehehe at stars plotting catsuit

I had the most stupid day today - I was late, and also, I was unprepared, and also, I walked past a little old lady accident and had to stop and then ended up travelling to A&E with her (it was not nice) and then after that enormous erosion of time, I had an appointment for eyebrow threading just before the place shut.. and...stupidly... I...
had false eyelashes put on, after she assured me it would be very very subtle and natural

let's just say I would NOT look out of place in sparkly pants walking on to the Ricki Lake show (ah how I loved that show)

I was horrified! She assured me they were the short and medium ones, and it looked 'very very natural'

..................

cafecito · 08/05/2013 23:30

in her defence, she applied them beautifully. But I have a big conference to go to tomorrow with THE most influential people and I could not quite see myself being taken seriously... so I dashed into boots, and got BABY OIL as it was the first thing I could see, and then picked them off , pulling out my own eyelashes in the process, on a train.. to a house for dinner..

cafecito · 08/05/2013 23:32

I am very cross with myself for spending money Shock on that. what was I thinking!? (I have a friend visitng this weekend and I thought if it was really subtle and just teeny ones at the edges it would be nice) - oh god I am so embarrassed Grin how utterly shallow I am. I had visions of one falling onto a patient

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