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Last train to Loserville Part 2

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LoserNoMore · 07/04/2013 21:55

After the overwhelming support I've received on my thread I had to start another. Well I didn't have to but I have found all the advice so helpful that even if I only receive one more piece it will help.

I'll try and post the link to the full sorry story. Never linked on my phone before so it may not work.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1722750-This-doesnt-look-good-does-it?pg=40&order=

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Doha · 21/04/2013 12:45

Do you have OW mobile number somewhere?
I would be tempted to ask her to get him to stop texting/emailing forgiveness and begging to come back. She is welcome to your rejects.
If he goes to her she will always be left knowing she was second choice
and wondering if he would cheat on her the way he did you.
Ok bad idea Blush

swallowedAfly · 21/04/2013 12:52

i loved my roller boots - i went everywhere in them - i was either skating or barefoot all through the summer holidays Smile

my skipping rope hasn't seen much use i'm afraid.

tell ex that unless he wants you to have to go to the trouble of changing your phone numbers he will never call late again lnm. selfish idiot phoning when his children are sleeping because he's feeling sorry for himself.

lazarusb · 21/04/2013 12:54

Does he really think he has got a hope in hell with you?! Did he not know you at all! You have come across on these last 2 threads as a woman who knows her own self-worth with a great deal of self-worth and self-esteem. Now if I know that, why doesn't he?

I think you ignoring him is the best way to go. Any response and he's knows he's got to you. Doha I suspect OW already knows that she will always be second choice. But I do like your style Grin

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LoserNoMore · 21/04/2013 13:04

I would love to do that doha Grin But I won't. I just pity her.

Lazarus, I told him exactly that in the email. He obviously doesn't know me at all. He's clutching at straws.

SAF, I loved my roller boots too. What I didn't like was if my friend didn't have a pair and I had to give her one. One footed roller skating wasn't as fun!

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lowercase · 21/04/2013 13:37

Sharing your roller boots one each!

Aw! LNM, you are a sweet heart!

swallowedAfly · 21/04/2013 13:39

we should all get together for some french skipping

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 21/04/2013 13:40

doha I like that message... I would be tempted, very tempted to text her and say that.

LNM oh yes, the sharing of roller skates/boots. hmmf.

cjel · 21/04/2013 14:42

LNM after the phone calls I think you are being very unreasonable and have lost the plot. Why won't you cook a lovely roast and welcome him back with open arms? I've waiting nearly 2 years to have a call like that!! My life has been on hold since I kicked him out and I know I would only be complete once he has done the 3am phone call. Isn't it what every woman wants?

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LoserNoMore · 21/04/2013 15:12

I know cjel, how selfish of me.

I just remembered my aunt having these metal roller skate contraptions that you attached to your shoes!

I have had such a lazy day. We've been watching the Gymnastics on tv most of the day. I've put the curry in the slow cooker and that's it. About to through my phone as I can't get passed level 147 on Candy Crush. Does anyone else play this annoyingly addictive game?

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LoserNoMore · 21/04/2013 15:12

Throw*

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thistlelicker · 21/04/2013 15:45

Almost time for a new thread! I've enjoyed watching your strength and courage flourish thru ure hard times op!!! Your doing really well!! X

CabbageLeaves · 21/04/2013 15:47

I remember the metal strap on skates. Sherbet dips and some caramel crunch you bought from the sweet shop by the quarter...

What I don't get is how I drank full fat milk, was fed watered down Carnation as a baby (ma did not b/feed) ate stacks of sweets, chucked spoonfuls of sugar over my Weetabix (with the cream from the top of the full fat milk) and ate cakes and biscuits without guilt or fear .....yet have to veto DDs intake of all the above for fear they will be damaged forever???

LNM. I do think its probably about time you reconsidered? You might lose him otherwise. Get over the sordid sex with another woman, her having his baby and the distress and pain he has caused. Your behaviour is far far worse. You selfishly have been upset when really you should just shut up about it all and consider yourself a lucky woman that he's prepared to have you back. Grin

Loulybelle · 21/04/2013 16:16

LNM, DO NOT talk to me about bloody candy crush stuck on level 98.

lazarusb · 21/04/2013 16:38

I left my ex (for dh - don't flame me!) after years of abuse. A week after leaving I went to confess I'd been seeing dh for a few weeks before I made the final, long overdue break. He said he was willing to take me back if I could tell him I hadn't slept with dh. I pointed out that the abuse meant I didn't want to come back.

He neglected to tell me that he'd slept with my best friend less than 48 hours after I'd gone. He must have been that heartbroken. It's amazing the way they can rewrite events and feel that they are the injured party.

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LoserNoMore · 21/04/2013 16:48

I think some people try to convince themselves it's not that bad a thing they've done.

I had mentioned in the past if we had ever discussed infidelity whilst watching tv or knowing people who had cheated that its the one thing I could never forgive or accept. He knows the score, just can't face up to it. He destroyed everything by jumping into bed with another woman, if he can't see that then he's dafter than I thought.

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LoserNoMore · 21/04/2013 16:57

Thanks thistlelicker, god a new thread.

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Jux · 21/04/2013 16:57

Metal roller skate contraptions!!!!! We had those! Well, there was a boy down the road who would let us have a go on his. No such thing as roller boots in my day. No bloody wonder it wasn't a particularly popular sport on the mean streets -of suburbia--.

Little Esme, you're in hospital Sad I only just saw. So sorry. Hope you're improving, and in particular feeling less cold (I'm always cold in hospital, it's horrible). Thanks

LNM, you are, as always, quite marvellous.

Loulybelle · 21/04/2013 16:58

My ex had an EA for 8 months, wouldnt so had sex with her if he had the change, everytime i called him up on it, he'd say, "My exes never let me have female friends" he left the day i went into hospital after an overdose, took him about 4 months to replace me, then after that went tits up, tried getting back together with me loads of times, yeah because hes got such a talent dick and amazing personality i had to take him back, deluded prick.

Loulybelle · 21/04/2013 16:58

would have*

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 21/04/2013 17:03

yes a new thread is needed!

I had those metal contraptions to begin with, and THEN roller boots came from USA were invented. Grin

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LoserNoMore · 21/04/2013 17:09

Wow loulybelle, you're well rid.

Jux, mean streets of suburbia, that made me laugh! I always wanted a go on the metal ones but my aunt was having none of it. (And thank you)

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Loulybelle · 21/04/2013 17:12

LNM, its been 4 years, and its been great.

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LoserNoMore · 21/04/2013 17:13

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B00C74LWDG/ref=mp_s_a_1?qid=1366560611&sr=8-9&pi=SL75

Link probably won't work but check these out!

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Doha · 21/04/2013 17:25

Go On LNM you know you want to...Smile

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LoserNoMore · 21/04/2013 17:28

Yeah, crash helmet, elbow and knee pads too!

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