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Dating Thread 50 .....

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TigsytheTiger · 07/04/2013 12:28

celebrating half a century of dating chit chat, all welcome ...

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ike1 · 07/04/2013 12:30

AAAAAAArgh feel sick! Hows that for a first post!

Winefiend · 07/04/2013 12:31

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SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 07/04/2013 12:33

I just wrote a long comment on last thread without realising it was full. Good job I can copy and paste!

Afternoon all!

I've checked POF and Ok and I have messages just from very young lads. Like 18 year olds. I know its only a few years younger but they seem like babies to me Grin

I haven't text army guy and he hasn't text me. I might text him later tonight and see if I get a reply or not.

I do feel like deleting profiles but then Ill be alone forever as I don't go anywhere to meet people and when I do go out I have a 3 year old with me. Not exactly attractive Grin

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TigsytheTiger · 07/04/2013 12:37

[girn] Ike, oh please don't puke over him as an opener ....oh, and remember to remove the tea bags before you leave too

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TigsytheTiger · 07/04/2013 12:37

ooops that's not a girn or a gurn but a Grin

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KinNora · 07/04/2013 12:38

I dunno about the pile cream Ike it's supposed to work by constricting blood vessels ( I think) - as much of an appalling beauty products tart as I am, I've never tried it.

Juliette I can look at your GSM profile for you if you like ( if I can remember my password - I've had no luck whatsoever on there )

ohmyrainydays · 07/04/2013 12:40

Ike I've broken all the rules too and got far too emotionally attached before we met.

1st date Thursday and I've seen him every night since. I've fallen hook line and sinker! I turn into a blathering idiot around him and can't remember what words are for. I'm normally reasonably intelligent. It's really embarrassing but he doesn't seem to mind.

I feel like I've known him for ever and he is so incredibly sweet and lovely.
The best thing though Is despite us pretty much constantly texting he Knows not to disturb me when dr who is on. I'm really hoping it works because I am going be be gutted if it doesn't.

Scrazy · 07/04/2013 12:40

I wrote and long thread on the last one too!

Juliette it was about GSM appearing to be too highbrow for me so I've never been on there. A couple of my outdoorsy friends have done OK, one has split recently with a guy from there come to think of it.

Mercury, the botox helps Grin. Tbh and not bragging I do look fairly good for my age in that I don't have many wrinkles and can look a few years younger in the right light, with makeup on. A man I went to school with said I look about 16 years younger than I do, now he was trying to flatter and that is ridiculous. Sometimes I think I do look old. I only know that I've told DD that when she comes back in the summer, go out with her peers and never drag me to the clubs again. I really felt out of place and couldn't wait to come home.

KinNora · 07/04/2013 12:40

Oh, and -

  1. Develop a thick skin;
  2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
  3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
  4. Trust your gut instinct;
  5. If it is not fun, stop
lubeybooby · 07/04/2013 12:42

Hello thread 50 :o

Just catching up on the other one...

KinNora · 07/04/2013 12:42

Rainy - I do hope this means I'm going to have to buy hat 4

ohmyrainydays · 07/04/2013 12:50

I hope so Kin. I keep thinking the bubbles about to burst but I'm enjoying it.

KinNora · 07/04/2013 12:51

You should enjoy it, it's a wonderful feeling.

Scrazy · 07/04/2013 12:52

Rainy, sounds like your fb status will change afterall. Very pleased for you.

mercury7 · 07/04/2013 12:54

Scrazy, I know botox makes quite a difference (Wink) but then again if most women over 40/45 ish have it perhaps it just raises the bar?

lubeybooby · 07/04/2013 12:56

Ok.. continued from thread 49

Stella - I'm confused as well, is it possible he did actually send a text you didn't get? Or has he got some previous form for messing you about a bit with contact/texts etc?

Micshi, that sucks! So rude of him as well.

Good to see the crash carp being put to good use Kin... nice one Wink

Pomegranate - You're taking way too much of your own self worth and happiness and making it depend on OD... nooooo don't do that! OD requires the thick skin, remember the guidelines... don't expect happiness to come from it, and don't base your self worth in attention from men. The thick skin is required because it can be so shit and draining, and while some are lucky and hit it off with the first person they date, for the majority of us it's a bit more of a slog than that!... if you are going to be online dating, you need to be coming from a place where you are happy anyway otherwise it can be soul destroying.

You won't always be confined to four walls and childrens parties, but your kids are very young so it might seem like that for a little while. Can you try and build up some other social stuff, and go out just to have fun, not with the intention of meeting men... just go out so that you are not feeling so confined... then the OD stuff won't drag you down because you are happy enough anyway. Hope that makes sense?

OWW good luck with cakey :o

Scrazy · 07/04/2013 12:56

Yes, I see people on TV my age and think jeez they look younger than me Grin. Talking of which did anyone see Sarah Brightman on the one show, whether she has lost weight or something but she looked scarily good.

ohmyrainydays · 07/04/2013 12:59

I'd be happy to change mine soon Scrazy but he wants to wait now.

Ike when's your date? I was so nervous before mine I could barely drive. I also lost all the money out of my purse and couldn't pay the car park. He had to come in my car with me to find a free one.

mercury7 · 07/04/2013 13:08

I agree Sarah B looks fab, but she'll have had 'work' done, surely?

lubeybooby · 07/04/2013 13:09

rainy it's been three seconds you cannot change it yet... I'm with him on the waiting!

KinNora · 07/04/2013 13:11

Pom agree completely with what Lubey says, also take as many positives as you can from it, even from crappy dates. This OD lark has made me realise that, actually, I'm not as shit at talking to strangers as I thought I was, that I enjoy travelling to places by myself and not being part of a couple, that some people think I'm funny and beautiful and that the independent, capable woman I used to be before my personality was chipped away is still in there somewhere. I hold onto all that, especially when I meet men who tell me about their weird fetishes.

ohmyrainydays · 07/04/2013 13:12

I'm not going to but before we met he said that's what he'd want to do after our first date in a perfect world. I went a little bit ranty at him about my privacy.

KinNora · 07/04/2013 13:15

( and one of my students told me he thought I was in my 'late twenties' the other day - arf. Obviously I've now pre-passed all his assessments )

ike1 · 07/04/2013 13:16

Thats the way boy..that's the way..eh kin?

JulietteMontague · 07/04/2013 13:17

Kin I've Pmd you. My main profile is on OKC

Rainy maybe wait a bit, it's all very new

Pom again what Lubey said

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