Although he told his sister he was going to the pub, he tells lies to everyone, so he may not have. Wherever he was, he was sure to be feeling very sorry for himself.
This is good really. It's good that he is suffering, karma has got him.
He has lots of time to regret his actions, to wish he had never set eyes on that woman, to wish he had appreciated and cherished the wonderful woman he had, and spent more time with his beautiful daughters.
He has to sort out somewhere to live, he will need financial advice and he will need a solicitor. But before he can do any of that, he has to accept that it's over. Up until last night, he clearly did not accept it.
He actually thought he could come round with a bottle of wine and a takeaway!! He is only just starting to see how inappropriate and insulting that was.
What an idiot! The enormity of what he's done is just starting to hit him. I wouldn't be surprised if he spiralled into a full depression. He can't cope with the consequences of his own actions.
Unlike you, op. You hit the ground running and have very good instincts. Your priorities now should be trying to rest whenever you can and being very, very kind and gentle to yourself.
Are you eating ok? Might be a good idea to take a multivitamin. How are you off for money? If you have legal access to his bank account, there is nothing wrong with taking a reasonable sum for groceries, etc. until you get maintenance sorted out. Just make sure you keep receipts.
Have a google for solicitors in your area, just start putting some feelers out if you feel up to it. Womens Aid and citizens advice can help, as can loads of lovely mumsnetters who have been in your shoes. It's early days but just knowing what you are entitled to can help take some of the worry away x