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Dating thread no 49

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JulietteMontague · 01/04/2013 15:17

All daters welcome here.

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VelvetSpoon · 04/04/2013 23:47

SP I'm sorry but I am Grin at him wanting you to play in the park with him! Has he not had a date since primary school?!!

You MUST go on the other date. Firstly, he can't be any worse (if he suggests meeting you at the park, you are however permitted to cancel!) and he might be a whole lot better.

We have all been on terrible dates, tbh most of mine have been pretty bad one way or another! the worst one ever, a completely blind date (way before OD, a friend said she thought we'd get on...the bitch!) nice enough bloke but a foot shorter than I am in heels and built like a jockey. I could not get away fast enough!

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 04/04/2013 23:53

Hes now messaging me saying you not talking? I could tell you weren't interested :( :(!

He is not my type at all, he had pictures up from years ago and he talks in a weird baby voice. It was pitch black and he thought I was stupid enough to walk up to a park in the middle of a field with a man 3x bigger then me who I didn't know.

I was in a dress and heels too!

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JulietteMontague · 04/04/2013 23:58

SP I'm also sorry but Grin at taking you to the park, what exactly did he expect you to play on? Do meet the other date, as Velvet says it has to be better.

If it makes you feel better, you may remember I mentioned my date last week had a very old photo. The part I left out because it felt mean to say it was that he was at least 30kg heavier. Lovely man, would have suffocated me. I didn't mention the Tourettes either, did I.

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JulietteMontague · 05/04/2013 00:01

The second part didn't bother me tbh, very subtle anyway. It was just the weight.

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SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 05/04/2013 00:01

Grin I feel slightly better now. It was been with a toddler that could drive. I have a 3 year old already!

No clue but there was a couple of cars pulled up with steamy windows! I'm just ignoring him. I don't know what to say. He keeps sending messages with sad faces. He a few year older then me too!

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 05/04/2013 00:02

Juliette It might sound shallow but its the weight for me. I'm only 4 foot 11 and weigh barely 8 stone. Hes have killed me! Not a chance.

Off to rehome 100 cats tomorrow!

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JulietteMontague · 05/04/2013 00:10

SP I got your man mixed up, I thought he was the 21yr old and that was his style. I can't believe a grown up took you to the park, in heels Grin

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SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 05/04/2013 00:15

21year old fucked off few week ago.

A grown up, who had his own car and house, took me to a park at night. Not just any park though. The park which has a well known dogging car park! Very romantic!

This was a random lets meet moment. Thinking been spontaneous is a good thing. No it was not!

Army guy wants to meet me tomorrow. I swear if he takes me to a wacky warehouse I'm giving up Grin

ike1 · 05/04/2013 02:15

Honestly I REALLY have heared it ALL now! Sps

KirstyWirsty · 05/04/2013 06:00

SPs that all sounds very dodgy .. If you ignore him he'll go away .. Eventually!!

KinNora · 05/04/2013 06:19

So let's get this straight, SP, he wanted to take you dogging on a first date ? He's no stranger to the art of romance and that's for sure. As for the 'little baby voice' you want to send him on a date with Pom's 'weird Mexican voice' man - imagine the conversation between those two.

Pomegranatenoir · 05/04/2013 06:41

Morning everyone,

Felt awful yesterday. Really flat. Rubbish day at work and had to send the thanks but no thanks text and didn't want to hurt his feelings. Had 4 texts off him before I sent it. He was suffocating!! He still text back asking to be friends but I haven't replied. Would rather live on my own and never speak to another human again than go anywhere with him! Naus!

It has out me off od though. How do you pick yourself up?

It has changed what I want now though. Nothing serious, just someone to have fun with. Go for drinks and the odd day out, maybe some nice meals but nothing heavy. I am happy with my life at the mo - not even really missing a man anymore but I would like some male company.

Sp- your date sounds awful. How do you feel?? It isn't any reflection in you. He is just a weirdo. Block and move on!!

KinNora · 05/04/2013 06:50

Morning Pom the 'thanks but no thanks' text is always slightly difficult. I reckon that the best way to see unsatisfactory dates is to think of each one as refining what you do actually want from a relationship, that way you can take something positive out of a negative experience otherwise it's too easy to fall into the whole ' I'll never find anyone, it's all crap, I should just give up ' mindset.

Bant · 05/04/2013 08:15

So are you saying I shouldn't take CootGirl to funky funhouse? But.. There's a trampoline!

ohmyrainydays · 05/04/2013 08:26

I'm sorry SP but the thought of a grown man thinking that taking someone on a date to the park is hilarious. How did he ever think that would be a good idea?

Hopefully date number 2 for me will be tonight. I really want to see him again soon.

OhWesternWind · 05/04/2013 08:39

What is going on with the silly voices?

SP sorry to sound like your mum here, but please be careful, don't get into cars with men you don't know. Best thing is to arrange to meet them somewhere public and get there under your own steam, then no risk of being taken dogging Shock That is blooming awful, hope you're feeling alright.

Pom I felt quite low after my bad date last week - it can knock you back a bit. I think what you're doing using it in a positive way is great - this has helped you with deciding what you do and don't want from a relationship. I just carry on regardless, on to the next one! I have no chance to meet anyone irl because of the children and my work commitments, so it's OD or nothing, I don't want nothing, so on I go. If you're quite happy with not having a man around, then think about giving it a break for a while until you feel a bit better about it.

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JulietteMontague · 05/04/2013 08:40

sp how do you feel this morning? I hope you have wiped Rûyy

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JulietteMontague · 05/04/2013 08:50

SP Went to soon, not had first coffee here. Meant to say wiped it from your memory

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KinNora · 05/04/2013 08:56

Just in case anyone is very childish and needs a laugh, I saw this on another thread That's my Christmas Sorted

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JulietteMontague · 05/04/2013 08:57

SP and to follow up what OWW said its also best to meet somewhere else away from your home, we never know who these men are and don't want them turning up either making a fuss or worse, especially with DC in the house.

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Scrazy · 05/04/2013 10:14

SP, just caught up and I was about to wade in and say what are you doing getting into someones car on a first date, can see OWW beat me to it. Also I guess he picked you up from your home, it's a no no. Meet in a neutral place, get the bus or drive yourself if you do, next time. Then you can make a quick gettaway when you realise you have had the misfortune to meet a weirdo.

I got sucked into contact for about a year with a guy who lived abroad once. I had exchanged a few messages and photo's and he looked OK etc and had my email address. Kept plugging away at it, sending happy Christmas emails and updating me on his life etc. All quite pleasant. Anyway he was back in the UK and wanted to meet up, so I agreed. He had made all these plans about taking me to his home town etc so I told him to hold off on the plans before we met. He got lost trying to find the meeting place and phoned me once I'd given up so I arranged to walk somewhere and meet him. I had to get in his car and as soon as I saw him I felt like throwing myself out onto the pavement. I just didn't fancy him one bit, but besides that he gave me the creeps. Never again!

Pomegranatenoir · 05/04/2013 10:17

Still feeling a bit flat. Went back on pof and match last night and didn't get much interest. All the men that wink or message me seem to be a lot older or very boring and geeky.

How do I attract some cooler looking men. Might need to rewrite my profile. I am currently a geek magnet!!!

Scrazy · 05/04/2013 10:23

Pome, bad dates always make me feel like never going on a blind date again. Are you on POF? I think the best thing to do is just keep your profile on, forget about it and see a nice message with a decent photo as a bonus. Only reply to men you really like the look off and if you are really bored one night, do a search and send messages to a few hotties. Don't expect a reply and if you get one then great.

Try and get out and about doing other things in RL.

OhWesternWind · 05/04/2013 10:31

Pom if you're looking for a particular type, then maybe you'll have to do a search, look for ones you think are okay or better and message them. Some will reply, some won't but I'm sure you'll get some replies back if you message half a dozen or so.

I like geeks, though. The conversation yesterday about "boring" was really good - "boring" as an alternative to chaotic and flaky and being on an emotional rollercoaster is good. There are some truly boring men, but it can be difficult to separate this from someone who has a stable and regular life, no hang ups or issues, as there aren't necessarily the emotional highs and lows, adrenaline rushes and addictive games there with it all. If that's what you're used to (in the sense of you generally, not you in particular Pom) then it can be easy to mistake something calm and normal for something boring, but it's not.

Pomegranatenoir · 05/04/2013 10:38

I think i like geeks too and would prefer a man with an emotional side but my date the other night was everything I don't want in a man and completely turned me off geeks. He thought he was cool and a bit rebellious as well which made it even worse. He just made me cringe.

I don't think I want danger or bad boy I want someone with a bit of fire in their belly and who makes me laugh and wants to try new places and things. I want them to be a proper man too. My exh was a outwardly very weak passive aggressive type and I don't want that again. You never know where you are with them.

Profiles are live on pof and match. Will have to see what turns up...

Suppose you just know when it's right and when it isn't. Would love to fancy a man though. Been ages since I fancied someone!!

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