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Dating thread no 49

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JulietteMontague · 01/04/2013 15:17

All daters welcome here.

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EternalRose · 04/04/2013 12:16

Oh that was meant to be Good Luck Kin.

x

Scrazy · 04/04/2013 12:16

Good luck Nora!

Snapespeare · 04/04/2013 12:40

Happy date-day daters! Hope you all have fun. :-). Nameless still here and still very lovely. It will be weird when the DCs are back and he's not here Hmm

Almost blurted out the 'L' word last night, but as it would have been in the context the following sentence, 'wait. You're telling me you've got a vibrating cock ring? Oh, I love you.' Then I think it would have been forgivable. But I didn't. :)

KirstyWirsty · 04/04/2013 12:42

Good luck Nora and well done lubey

KinNora · 04/04/2013 12:49

Hmmmmm not turned up yet. If he stands me up, I will track him down and dye his beard electric blue.

Yours, Grumpy of The North.

48howdidthathappen · 04/04/2013 13:06

I do hope he has turned up Kin

Good luck tonight OWW and Rainy

Enjoy the sun Kirsty

ike1 · 04/04/2013 13:11

Am feeling reassured that due to your lack of follow up Kin...sir has arrived! I had better fancy Mr H or I will be very annoyed...so annoyed that I will get back on the sofa....have had fun chatting but I am sooo waiting for it not to translate.

VelvetSpoon · 04/04/2013 13:11

Hope all those with dates today have fun (and Kin I hope in the time it's taken to type this showbiz has turned up!)

The helping people thing I do all the time. C is probably the first man I've met since I can remember who I am not conscious of being able to help/thinking of ways I can actively improve his life. Interesting...

Have been thinking about money too, and how there is a real imbalance between me and practically every man I've met. It doesn't bother me but I do feel it bothers them...nothing I can do about it of course, but it is tricky - in all my dating endeavours I've not met one guy who owns their own house (I do). A couple who have flats, some who rent, and most who are back living with parents.

ike1 · 04/04/2013 13:12

There is a local who dyes his beard electric blue Kin...he calls himself The Bard...wonder if it is him???

mercury7 · 04/04/2013 13:23

Velvet, does income discrepancy have to be an issue?
I've never actually discussed income with a bloke, I never tell anyone how much I earn, also I let people assume I have a mortgage when in reality I own my place outright

VelvetSpoon · 04/04/2013 13:32

Mercury, as I said it doesn't bother me, but it very much does seem to bother men (or at least those I encounter) hence I can't help but be conscious of it. My last 3 exs had a lot of difficulty with me earning more than them - and whilst I don't tend to discuss income with men outside of a relationship, as soon as they know what I do they have a fair idea of what I earn, or at least a ball-park figure...

OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 13:33

I like helping people, but I also like people to help me - dunno what that means. I have had enough of men with issues though - I actually thought LM was quite staid and steady when I first met him which I liked but I was oh so wrong. I think I am quite boring, actually, and I don't have a problem with boring in the sense of no wild ups and downs, everything going along on an even keel. (I do have a problem with boring in terms of wanting to tell me about the workings of the diesel engine or new trends in accountancy). I even wear cardigans and go to garden centres!

Nora I'm assuming you've put the dye back in your handbag.

I am bricking it about tonight! Calm me down, please. Have got a huge number of butterflies doing their thing and I've got to go and chair a big meeting in half an hour, feeling very distracted.

Bant · 04/04/2013 13:37

Come on Kin, where's the loo update?

Going back to the topic you lot were discussing the other night, this might help.

Not sure if it's appropriate for vegetarians though. Sorry OWW

OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 13:55

Quick question - could/would you date someone with the same name as your ex? Have spotted someone nice on PoF but he gives his name in his profile and it's the same as foul ex. I just don't think I could do it.

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JulietteMontague · 04/04/2013 14:09

Bant excellent. That gives a whole new meaning to pork sword.

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JulietteMontague · 04/04/2013 14:28

OWW yes if things worked out and the name was too much of a reminder maybe you could just stick to a nickname. Good luck for later to you and all those with dates today including those who are so occupied with beardy men they haven't taken their phone to the loo.

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SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 04/04/2013 14:30

Need help with ny profile it seems as I'm only attracting nutters. I don't know what it is about me that married men, men with weird fetishes (had someone ask if I would send him pictures of me smoking, yes a smoking fetish Confused, someone wanting me to join him and his wife and then the usual dickheads who tell how they can be my Mr Grey)

So any suggestions on how to attract a normal or normalish man would be great

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 04/04/2013 14:32

OWW I have dated someone who has the same name as my sons dad. He turned out to be a knob too but doubt it was because of the name Grin I have turned down a person who has the same first and last name as my bio dad though! That was too weird

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JulietteMontague · 04/04/2013 14:38

Sp I am avoiding clearing up at the moment, feel free to PM me your link if you would like sometime to take a look (no pressure, only if you want to). Sometimes it's just how it goes, who knows what sets them off Grin.

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Scrazy · 04/04/2013 14:52

Names don't bother me neither do incomes, unless they are really poor and /or feckless. I'm not a high earner, I have a small mortgage so am not destitute. As long as they have a reasonable job, if they are able to, then it's fine with me. My recent ex was better off than me financially, that worked quite nicely. I don't have any tendencies to rescue people.

Velvet, I would see it as a plus point being a high flyer, not something that would put anyone off as if they got into a relationship with you it would mean you wouldn't struggle. I have had relationships where the guy was earning less than me and renting, it might have put me off slightly but then again I've been put off by men who were wealthy Grin.

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 04/04/2013 14:56

I'm on windows phone app which is really simple and shit so cant do much or link.

I basically just mention I have a child, it says what I'm looking for etc. Short but too the point.

If i write 'not looking for married men, smoking fetishistic, Mr Grey etc' will that deter them Grin

My pictures are one dressed up on night out and two of me day to day.

KinNora · 04/04/2013 15:39

Soz, slightly tipsy and still in the pub.

Interim verdict - entertained, amused, reasonably charmed. He smells nice. Not convinced by beard.

OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 15:42

What colour is the beard?

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 04/04/2013 15:57

Kin Would a blue beard improve his look? Grin

I've been asked out on a date for tomorrow afternoon.

OhWesternWind · 04/04/2013 16:01

SP who's asked you out and are you going?

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