Dating chat thread! Number 47

[lubeybooby]

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

[ike1]

Personally I am quite glad to have had a bit of a break between dating proper and TR. Some of it was on purpose...I thinnk I set the old POF profile 4 weeks ago. Would be happy to meet someone now. But we are all different. I say go along OWW and use it as an opportunity to reflect.

I guess the space has done me good because I have built up a pattern of social and leisure opps that I know stand me in good stead for 'dry' periods.I dont have a fear of Xmas alone for example.

[ike1]

Yeah Kin probs Sat ...he wanted to buy tickets for us to see a comedian but I suggested that a quiet drink instead would be better...

[OhWesternWind]

No, I want to do it. The worst thing for me is sitting around mulling about stuff, I hate that. Need to keep busy and I am just treating this as a nice night out. He seems like a very nice man, also the only veggie male within a radius of at least twenty miles . . . It is very, erm, meaty around here.

[ike1]

What am I supposed to do with a comment like 'Hmmm bring in on'..? Bring what on? A cup of tea? A cheese pastry twirl? Are you still visiting Mr Showbiz Kin?

[KinNora]

Ffs, trying to get Mr Software to flirt is like pulling bloody teeth, meanwhile Mr Showbiz, after I'd been discussing my interest in Ancient Greece ( oh yeah, I'm not all about guerrilla defecation, you know ) said that he hoped that Ariadne would lend me a thread to guide me - I love that kind of pretentious bollocks.

[ike1]

Yes but ARE you going to SEE him Kin?

[StellaBrillante]

Way to go OWW!!! I'd go for Thursday...

And also from me to Nora ref. 'Mother Teresa of wanking'

KirstyWirsty - if he's attached, it's not around here. We both live in relatively small towns (100k or so) and everyone seems to know everyone. He certainly wasn't hidding the fact that we were on a date both times, quite on the contrary. He was very touchy and we were holding arms as we came out of the cinema, etc. Also, he texts any time from 7pm onwards and sometimes until past 11pm so I can't see how he'd keep this from someone. All I can think of is that perhaps he's dating other people.

For the time being, I just want to go on a 3rd date and get that long overdue kiss (and a massive snog too!). I am not sure he's a player but I suspect that he's a bit of hard work. However, he's also an incredibly interesting man, and very attractive too, so no harm getting to know him better.

all - do any of you live in a small / medium town? I've always felt very uncomfortable about od, mainly because I worry about people seeing it. However, it'd be really nice to get a date in for the long weekend - especially if lecturer flakes on me. (it's not supposed to be complicated, it's not supposed to be complicated!)

[KinNora]

I hope you are seeing Mr Herbalist Ike I know you said that you like a neutral first date but the comedian could be good.

I'm seeing Mr Showbiz for lunch next week and visiting Mr Software in his home city the day after. Mr Software is taking me out to a cocktail bar which has supposedly got a Cabaret-style, slightly sleazy Berlin style, leading me to flirt about provocative dress which he has totally failed to run with. Sheeeeshhhhhh.

OWW you have to do whatever feels right to you. ( Is it all pies round your way ? I can imagine that veggies are slightly hard to come by )

[KinNora]

Stella in my extremely small sample size, lecturers are complicated. Too busy examining their own navels...

[OhWesternWind]

Oh Nora Mr Showbiz has got it all going on. Intelligence and wit pretentious bollocks and a bit of come hitherness all in one sentence . . .

Well, we will see about Thursday then. Will ask round for a babysitter tomorrow and see how we go! Not sure if my usuals will be away over the weekend so some of it will be dependent on them.

Stella I live in quite a small town and have actually recognised a couple of very mardy looking men off dating sites, but of course I've not said anything. If they had been a couple of the ones I'd had my eye on, though, I might have . . . So what if people see it? So long as you realise that people you know could well see your profile and bear that in mind whilst you're writing it and choosing your pictures, that will be fine. There's nothing shameful about looking for someone online. I've only had one date though with someone from my town, most of them have been from the various villages round about.

[mercury7]

yes I live in a small town, I tend to keep away from very local men, after a couple of uncomfortable encounters in my local gym

[OhWesternWind]

Sex and beer and chips and gravy, Nora, all the way. Mr Software sounds a bit like hard work. What's the matter with him? I bet he's worried about offending you.

I know a lot of lecturers through work, and almost all of them are people I would go out of my way to avoid socially. Sorry.

[ike1]

Do you think I am being a stick in the mud then Kin? I just dont want to feel beholden to him if he pays and I dont want to see him again. For a second date...yes!

[StellaBrillante]

Thank you lovelies, I think I need to overcome my fobia of od!

OWW and Nora - I thought he was a lecturer to begin with hence the nickname; he coaches rugby actually.

Hope you will manage to get something sorted for Thursday OWW; a welcome distraction to take your mind off things

[KinNora]

[KinNora]

No, I don't think you're being a stick in the mud Ike not at all, if you don't want to see him again you could always PayPal him the cost of your ticket ! It just sounds like a fun date and it'd be a shame not to go.

[KinNora]

Ahhhh Stella I see ... (Big thighs, eh ?)

[ike1]

Yeah it could be oh I dunno!?

[OhWesternWind]

Oh a rugby coach is much better. It all makes sense now with the tickets!

Ike the comedy night sounds good but if it were me I think I'd go for the drink. You can't really get to know someone at a comedy club ...

I am determined not to dwell on the crap with LM. If I am brutally honest, I did know for a while that things weren't right, hence the various talks. So I kind of knew to expect it to finish - the manner of it has surprised me, but not the fact of it. So I'd come to terms with it finishing a while ago in a strange way. And what's to miss? I saw little of him anyway, he cut right down on the texting so it's not like there was constant contact. It was all a bit shit.

Mr Veggie, on the other hand, seems refreshingly keen!

[StellaBrillante]

Indeed Nora and big guns too It'd be a shame not to put all of that to good use, don't you think?
ps. 'phobia' not 'fobia' - yikes!

[ike1]

Nice to have a fellow veggie ...I like that!

[Scrazy]

I live in a small town and hate the thought of being recognised on OD, that's why I'm not on it . My neighbour is on it and he stalks me anyway. A few men have recognised me and asked me out. If I go on it I only unhide the profile for short bursts of time when I'm bored. I'm an OD failure.

Lubey, phew, I much prefer bob when I feel that way. I'm in awe of your attitude.

Good luck OWW, hope he is a suitable distraction.

I'm still waiting to see if I have a date this holiday.

[VelvetSpoon]

I've always had a weakness for rugby players, going back to my uni days, though never dated one, rugby playing well-built types are never interested in me!

[ike1]

Come and live in Wales Velv! You cant avoid em and their cauliflower ears....

[OhWesternWind]

I like Mr Veggie being a veggie - I am one too and it will be really nice not to have him ask me what I eat for Christmas dinner.