Skip to main content
Skip to main navigation
Skip to talk navigation

Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Flip

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 39 40

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Relationships

Dating chat thread! Number 47

999 replies

lubeybooby · 20/03/2013 19:43

Here we go again folks, all dating related chit chat here.

OP posts:

Report

lubeybooby · 20/03/2013 20:26

Hmmm velvet (yay for the neg result btw) but about C, so he is around online and stuff then yet takes forever to reply to your texts? That is really shit tbh.

I had got the impression he was one of these technophobe type people but those types don't make comments on photos.

OP posts:

mercury7 · 20/03/2013 20:27

bloody facebook is the work of the devil..maybe just ask him Velvet if he wants things to be ongoing between you?

ike1 · 20/03/2013 20:27

Course Velv Was in a bit of a rush with message there. Fuck sakes its all so bloody disappointing....

hoplittlebunnyhophophop · 20/03/2013 20:30

Oh, sorry velvet. What are you going to do?

VelvetSpoon · 20/03/2013 20:32

Lubey generally he is not an online sort of person, hence so few people on his FB. I've not seen anything else he's commented on - I've had a quick nose on his immediate family's pages and nothing there, and nothing else on any of this girls other photos. So I don't think its something he does all the time, which makes it worse somehow.

Bollocks.

VelvetSpoon · 20/03/2013 20:35

I am gutted, honestly I thought he really liked me. I didn't think you spent all night cuddling someone and holding their hand if they were just a meaningless shag.

If I don't get a text by tomorrow I will have to text him and ask him outright if he intends to see me again. Even though I probably know the answer to that.

lubeybooby · 20/03/2013 20:36

I would text him again now asking nicely for an answer about Friday, so that you at least know if you have the chance to talk or not.

Is he still on PoF or whatever?

OP posts:

Movingforward123 · 20/03/2013 20:51

Just marking my place

Velvet - sorry to hear that stupid men!

WarmFuzzyFun · 20/03/2013 20:53

Velvet I hope not. Let's not be to swift, it may not be how it looks...

VelvetSpoon · 20/03/2013 20:53

C was on Match, I deleted my account so can't check but tbh even if I could I don't really think I can face knowing about that, tonight has been disappointing enough already.

I have never doubted him for a second (in terms of thinking he may be seeing/pursuing other women), somehow that makes it worse.

I had a brilliant day at work, a v senior manager (the one who thinks I am always cheerful, and today said he cant imagine me being in a bad mood!) told me he thought some work I'd done for him was outstanding , and told my manager (in front of me) that I am not allowed to leave, as he wants me working directly for him for the foreseeable. Which is a massive feather in my cap.

and now this

WarmFuzzyFun · 20/03/2013 20:58

{Some} Men are strange creatures....talk to him, face to face, and find out. Decide what you think/feel and go from there.

We are here.

I feel a bit upset about it myself (silly isn't it?)...

OhWesternWind · 20/03/2013 21:01

I'm with WFF if you can get to see him. When the situation's a bit tricky, face-to-face talking is usually best. Could you just text saying you need to see him Friday?

ike1 · 20/03/2013 21:01

I apologise to the undoubtedly many fine fellows out there....but honestly at times it just seems that we females are dealing with utter crap and bollox from blokes..

JulietteMontague · 20/03/2013 21:02

velvet crap . How about you text him tonight, see if you're going to meet or not this week. Like Lubey says, at least you'll know that at least.

OhWesternWind · 20/03/2013 21:02

And brilliant stuff at work. A real feather in your cap!!

JulietteMontague · 20/03/2013 21:05

I really must stop trying to post from my phone, I'm bad enough when I'm on the laptop .

VelvetSpoon · 20/03/2013 21:08

Ah WFF don't be :( it's bad enough I'm on the verge of tears, I don't want to make anyone else sad!

Much as I do want to talk to him, (and I think everyone is right, any sort of conversation needs to be face to face - not that I'll be admitting to stalking his FB, but I do need to know whats going on between us, whether this is just sex or more than that) and not jump to the worst possible conclusion, I don't know if or when I'll get the chance, I haven't even had a reply to the text I sent on Monday yet, which asked if I was seeing him on Friday.

JulietteMontague · 20/03/2013 21:15

Velvet ((((hugs))))

VelvetSpoon · 20/03/2013 21:34

I just got a text. I hadn't sent mine, so this is replying to Mondays. Need the collective hive view.

He has said he's got his DC Friday, he's really sorry, that he is useless for not having told me sooner or for having arranged anything else instead, and for letting me down. He said he feels he is messing me about a lot, and not being fair to me.

Bollocksbollocksbollocksbollocks

ike1 · 20/03/2013 21:38

Put simply...yes he bloody well is! What a flaming pain...

ike1 · 20/03/2013 21:41

I think at this stage Velv I would be tempted to text a 'Are you really all that bothered? text and try to move on..

hoplittlebunnyhophophop · 20/03/2013 21:41

Velvet, you could try just being straight up with him by agreeing that he has been a bit useless and that you would like to see him but that if he would just rather leave it at that he should be honest about it.

Actually, I am not the person to give advice about this. Ignore that.

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Email address

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

KinNora · 20/03/2013 21:41

Firstly Velvet I'm really sorry about the FB thing. I agree with everyone else who says that you need to see him face to face ( and I know how hard that is ) - as for the text apologising about messing you about, being useless, not being fair to you, the answer is easy, he should stop being so bloody elusive and actually put a bit of effort in instead of angsting.

ike1 · 20/03/2013 21:44

I wonder what he would do if you told him you are coming over now to talk?

KirstyWirsty · 20/03/2013 21:46

Sorry to hear about C velvet ..

I have set up an ok Cupid profile .. Have had one message (a bit slower than the POF deluge I had last time) from tallsmartsexy who claims to be a model .. His profile and messages have more red flags than Moscow on May Day

Anyone want to have a once over on my profile for me?

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 39 40

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.