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WarmFuzzyFun · 23/02/2013 17:27

Here it is...

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VelvetSpoon · 23/02/2013 22:54

Western, I agree with Kin's advice about writing it down. Maybe even on paper so you're not tempted to send it immediately. I often find writing stuff out makes it easier to know what I actually want to say.

Mind you, I also rehearse entire conversations in my head, that often helps me.

KinNora · 23/02/2013 22:55

I wouldn't, OWW, not tonight I don't think

OhWesternWind · 23/02/2013 22:55

Bant there's a lot you can do without anglish having to come into it ... Impress her with your funky moves and beer drinking prowess.

JulietteMontague · 23/02/2013 22:55

Western no please don't send that. He may be asleep, and would be thrown by that. Leave it until the morning, ask him to pop over. You can then talk face to face.

ike1 · 23/02/2013 22:55

Again I just dont know OWW I am an 'out with it' sort and for a detatched person I can be quite fiery and prone to outbursts so I would probably have shouted at him by now or broken down sobbing or something....

Bant · 23/02/2013 22:56

oww it's too late to send a meaningful text tonight. Wait until tomorrow, sleep on it

KinNora · 23/02/2013 22:56

Bloody hell, Velvet, I do that too. I find writing things down and then going back to them stops me doing impetuous things that I would have regretted.

OhWesternWind · 23/02/2013 22:57

I am not going to text him. It will keep for another day.

ike1 · 23/02/2013 22:59

ok then OWW I agree with the other and will try that tip of writing stuff down if I ever have another relationship.

KinNora · 23/02/2013 22:59

I think that's the right decision, OWW

KinNora · 23/02/2013 23:00

Ike, honestly, it has stopped me doing so many stupid impetuous things contacting Spud

micshi · 23/02/2013 23:00

OWW, it's difficult to know. Some men are only able to put their feelings in writing. Other men would just ignore the text if they don't know how to reply. Or if you talked to him in person about how you feel, you might get told what you want to hear, but then he may not follow through with actions! Or he may just reply honestly!!

Scrazy · 23/02/2013 23:01

Kin, I've never been told this via OD as I don't have my assets on show unless it's incidental Grin. More in real life by people I'm sleeping with so although I hate the word 'tits' make me cringe, I just shrug if off and try and take it as a compliment, especially nowadays as gravity is calling. I don't like the word 'breasts' either so cannot be offended.

Bant · 23/02/2013 23:01

Blonde has left with her friends. Now there is a 50 year old in a red sequin top winking at me. Literally. I thought that was just on Match.

Damn these funky dance moves. They get me into trouble

micshi · 23/02/2013 23:02

JM, what's lovestruck full of then?!

Scrazy · 23/02/2013 23:02

Sorry not Kin, Micshi.

ike1 · 23/02/2013 23:06

There's alot to be said for being a toy boy Bant....the lady has just reached her prime...

I notice South Wales' finest is out in force this evening on POF...yum

Scrazy · 23/02/2013 23:10

Yes Bant, wouldn't you go older then?

KinNora · 23/02/2013 23:12

Ah Bant, I bet you're like Travolta smeared in cougar catnip.

Ike, there's lovely now ( isn't that what Welsh people say ? )

VoiceofUnreason · 23/02/2013 23:14

Bant - I can't abide karaoke, so you have my admiration sitting in that bar at all, let alone for a couple of hours.

Sorry not been following thread this evening, had a chum round for dinner and was doing my best Gordon Ramsay/Jamie Oliver/insert other preferred catering bod

PS The cake was disappointing. Not quite soft enough. One of my best dinners though

Scrazy · 23/02/2013 23:20

I hate karaoke too, voice. Dinner sounds lovely, would love a man to cook for me again!

I had a little nap on the sofa early evening and have come to life again so having a few glasses of wine, getting messages on POF from people I don't want to reply too. Not going to bed early as I have nowt to get up for in the morning.

MsCellophane · 23/02/2013 23:20

Western - you have to say something, wondering isn't going help

Velvet, same to you too

Speaking with MrCM definitely helped, though I'm not much closer to knowing full story of what is going on.

Though we were chatting on Friday and I made a flirty comment, he said something about wanting to be 'here' (ie where I was) and I said of course, we're waiting for you to be ready - he replied I am ready

I have no idea if he meant ready to date or ready to shag so time will tell. I'm actually ok with casual but I'd like it to be regular casual

On a good note, LennyKravitz sent me a torso shot - OMG the man is gorgeous. I need to meet him and hope I can understand his accent long enough to jump him

Bant · 23/02/2013 23:24

voice hearing the Hungarian version of 'happy birthday to you' was worth the time here. Hearing the rendering of 'I'm sexy and I know it' performed by two middle aged chubby bearded blokes, with the appropriate hip-thrusting moves, was just sublime.

VoiceofUnreason · 23/02/2013 23:27

I was a toyboy - my ex was 10 years older than me. Fine to begin with but it did become an issue later on. As a result, I wouldn't date someone more than a year or two older now. I know that's a bit 'tarring everyone with the same brush' but there we are.

Scrazy - this evening it was curried parsnip soup, followed by orange sorbet, main course was chicken in a white wine and tarragon sauce with sugar snap peas, glazed carrots and parmentier potatoes (with garlic and rosemary), and then cheese.

Scrazy · 23/02/2013 23:31

Sounds yummy. I wouldn't date anyone so much younger than myself nowadays. Around 6 years younger or older is OK for me know. I say older because the recent ex was older than me but he was an exceptions so the ideal age for me would be 3 years or so younger.

Not saying I wouldn't rule out a fling with a younger man again, I've had a few and try and avoid the young ones but they look so priddy!