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WarmFuzzyFun · 23/02/2013 17:27

Here it is...

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KinNora · 26/02/2013 19:23

In that case here you go, I want advice - I'm thinking of shagging Mr Software because I have (a) not had enough sex in my life - due mainly to exh refusing to do the biz for years (b) not got my leg over since July last year. I don't fancy him particularly, I mean he's not Michael Winner or anything, he just doesn't drive me wild. He is completely unaware that I'm toying with the idea of making the beast with two backs.

mercury7 · 26/02/2013 19:26

well unless you're planning on spiking his drink you'll need to make him aware at some point Wink

do you need advice on how to or whether to?

JulietteMontague · 26/02/2013 19:27

Kin and what is it you are wanting advice on?

Ike what Choochoo and Kin said

ike1 · 26/02/2013 19:30

Right then Kin are you the sort that NEEDS to fancy cos what you are talking about is a friendly bunk up. How you go about this I guess is Merc's territory? Or Lubes? Please put me right if I am wrong...

JulietteMontague · 26/02/2013 19:38

See I missed the convo regarding ageing. I definitely look fucking amazing for my age Grin. Things are beginning to change now though, body better with clothes on and someone is fast replacing my face with some other woman's that sometimes I don't recognise.

lubeybooby · 26/02/2013 19:38

Haha ike yes a fwb shag is right up my street so to speak, or always has been in the past anyway.

Go for it Nora. SEDUCE him. enjoy, have fun. bom chika wowwoooow. His type that you don't wildly fancy and won't be falling for are ideal fwb's. Then update us so I may live vicariously though you while I wait to be 1) allowed to shag again and 2) have the opportunity.

JulietteMontague · 26/02/2013 19:43

Back to Mr Software, if he is a programmer he is likely to be very thorough Wink. Just go for it, it sounds like you are in a situation where you could do with trying a few out for size, he might just be the one who does drive you wild once you get down to it.

KinNora · 26/02/2013 19:45

Oh no, I know how to ( obviously - looks at the three teenagers lounging about the place ) - I just can't decide if it's a good idea or not.

I know he fancies me and so I presume he wouldn't be averse to the idea.

I dunno whether I need to fancy him.i reckon I'd be ok as long as he wasn't a rubbish kisser, I've never had sex outside a 'serious' relationship - I'm contemplating a change in approach.

KinNora · 26/02/2013 19:46

Juliette, I actually sniggered aloud then and ds2 asked what I was laughing at.

lubeybooby · 26/02/2013 19:50

I would Nora. But then, well, I'm me

I do like giving things a try. He might be great and scratch an itch so to speak... and if it's all a bit rubbish you can leg it at any point or never see him again or whatever.

KinNora · 26/02/2013 19:50

Oh I can do seducing, Lubey, he'd be like a lamb to the slaughter. Poor, poor Mr Software.

lubeybooby · 26/02/2013 19:50

shurg? SHRUG, shrugs. I did not shurg.

ike1 · 26/02/2013 19:50

oh those bastarding kids....I am not allowed to laugh without DS asking why....

ike1 · 26/02/2013 19:52

Give him a go Kin....he may surprise you..

KinNora · 26/02/2013 19:54

Ok, commences Operation Deflower Mr Software not actual deflowering, he's got two dc

lubeybooby · 26/02/2013 19:56

woohoo! Go Nora :o

ike1 · 26/02/2013 19:58

Yeah Kin you need a project......may turn into luuuurve,,,,

JulietteMontague · 26/02/2013 20:01

Go Kin Grin.

There is a quote from Dangerous Liaisons film where the Marquise de Merteuil (Glenn Close) character tells the young recently deflowered Cecile that once she is no longer a virgin (or married, I can't remember), 'you can have as many as you want, as often as you want'. I paraphrase but it is good advice.

MsCellophane · 26/02/2013 20:01

Go for it Kin - as lubey said, FWB are easier if there aren't major sparks and can be quite good fun to keep urges down

I have just deleted MrCM (again) but not without sending him a long email as to why.

Last week, he said meet this week. Chatting tonight and he says not this week as fri out with mates and saturday on a date! So have told him I am not sitting in the wings why he tries the sweet trolley. Totally happy for him to go dating but am not willing to be something he picks up and puts down

So that's the end of that and now I am sad again. Rarely meet anyone I really like and this is what happens when I do. It hurts, not due to feelings for him but it's not nice to be treated like that. Don't use me when you are feeling down and expect me to accept things when you are feeling up

Really hope hotbut is free tonight, i need to have a cuddle - he has never let me down or been anything other than gentlemanly

KinNora · 26/02/2013 20:04

Oooh, never had a FWB, how exciting, it's like a project !

ike1 · 26/02/2013 20:10

Yep Kin...think of it as .... an enjoyable hobby ...you like it, it keeps you amused, good for the brain and circulation but not a necessity to your home/domestic routine/ life.

ike1 · 26/02/2013 20:11

Scratch the luuurce suggestion ...that me talkin ...

ike1 · 26/02/2013 20:11

luuurve

KinNora · 26/02/2013 20:17

Nah, he's not a luuuuuurve prospect, he's not funny enough. I only 'luuuurve' comedians

OhWesternWind · 26/02/2013 20:23

MsC - you're right, that's shitty and thoughtless behaviour. Really glad you called him on it. Hope you get some company tonight.

Mr Software - brace yourself! Arm missiles, prepare for incoming Nora