The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Boinging Into Spring, With A Dance And A Sing!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse and I'm one of the regular travellers on this Bus!

This is a Bus for drinkers, the completely sober, those fighting to stay sober and everyone in between! No matter what, you're welcome here if you feel you don't like the way you drink anymore, or you're worried for someone else.

Take a seat.

You'll be listened to, looked after and maybe (if you're lucky), slapped with our resident Squid, Barry whom I'm sure you'll meet in time!

So, what have you got to lose by posting? What have you got to lose by coming to say hello and telling us why you don't like the way you drink anymore?

And, if you'd like to see where we've been so far HERE IS THE LAST THREAD

And the reason we're ALL here in the first place, the first ever thread is ALL HERE

See you soon xx

Morning all! Better couple of days for me, did a wedding yesterday sober for the first time as was driving. Interesting experience, couple of points of note, many people who have been drinking all day have breath that smells of sick, i still like dancing sober :). Tired today, in lots of pain still and trying not to let it get me too down. Things planned with DS today, as feeling things have been a bit boring for him recently, hopefully we'll have lots of fun. Tiredness plus Saturday will be a big trigger for me this evening, so probably be popping in then.

Welcome sunny

mouse I hope you managed to get a decent night's sleep and are feeling a bit better today.

Love and strength to all babes x

greeney I love to dance sober too

Ma I'm going to go against the grain here and say that your dh is probably behaving like that because he's an entitled arse. Nothing to do with feeling unwell, he is an adult, not a baby.

His mood swings are a deliberate attempt to control you and make you behave the way he wants you to. He's trying everything he can and when it doesn't work he tries something else. The nice/nasty pattern is part of the script. If you hang around on the relationships board, you will see this type of behaviour over and over again.

And it's still all about him isn't it? What he wants, how he feels. Has he asked what you want, or how he can support you and help you feel happy? Has he asked dd what she wants and what he can do to make that easier for her to achieve?

Anyway, stick to your guns, make your plans, make small changes that lead to those small steps in the direction that you want to go. Whatever you want, we will be here. Keep posting.

And tell me to wind my neck in if I'm being too outspoken x

Love to all, will catch up later when I've a bit more time to post. Been busy. Lost 6lbs so far this month

Hi Mouse, Joey, Greeneyed....,.thanks for your posts. I do believe I am now ready to accept this problem and own it...for so long I have been saying its ok as lots of people around me drink heavily but to be honest they can handle it and they are not on ad's......plus it's their choice. I have a 19 month old and a 9month old (yes only 10 months apart!........somewhat of a surprise to say the least). I honestly thought after having them I would not go back to my old ways but am disappointed to admit I have. We are on holiday tomorrow and I don't think realistically I am going to abstain completely but my goal is to stop when I get back for at least a month......My other half has said he will only drink one night a week so that should help me. I am looking forward to getting to know you all on this forum. You all seem so supportive of one another. Xxxx

Morning babes, just checking in to say 2 weeks alcohol free today:)

Obviously my post meant to say AA not AS

Blimey sunny it can't be easy with two so close. It must be a hell of a lot harder with a two bottle of wine hangover.

It's great you are facing up to things, you will be doing yourself and your family a real kindness.

Well done obrigada :)

sunny it's easy to normalise our drinking when we spend time with other heavy drinkers but it is not normal, the majority of the population are drinking less than the government guidelines, will try and google the stats

Waves to all
faire great post and spot on. I just need to grow a pair I suppose.
Been to the dentist for injections and drilling and such like and now feel a bit crap. Said I wouldn't take dd to her friends tonight as don't want to drive so she is pissed off with me. Feel I've let her down a bit, especially while she's having such a hard time with DH but I'm practicing doing what I want to do. Why does that make me feel guilty?

Hi, just wanted to check in & give a wave to all babes...welcome Sunny!
Well done to those managing to beat ww & other nasties & good luck to those trying.
Mouse sorry you had such a rough day, hope you get your little nemo off to bed and you & dh can enjoy your date night. Have saw The woman in Black, thought it was very creepy but dd didn't think it was scary...I'm a big feardy tho!
Day 35 & I am addicted to reading Allen Carr, I feel the man had some amazing insight into alcoholism, really making me not ever want to drink again when i said to dh he said I would be so boring...not sure if he was joking or not. I suppose now I'm trying not to drink I am boring But think I am ok with that, I'll take a boring, cozy, content Saturday over 3 days of feeling shit x

Thanks all of you for such a warm welcome.

Hi all. Sorry sent the last post without meaning to. You're absolutely right in that having both the boys so close together is a challenge but after two bottles of wine the night before is no fun at all! Mouse, sorry to hear you didn't have a great day with Nemo and are enjoying film night. Thanks for your post and yes will try not to set my expectations too high on holiday.
Clutter, I have that Allen Carr book so may try to dig it out. It's interesting that your OH said you would be boring if you didn't drink as I think mine would feel the same. I do worry how it would affect our relationship although he is very supportive of what I want to do. I agree that there is no fun in a three day hangover!
I am goin to sign off now as we leave to go on hols at 4am so need to get an early night. Am so pleased I have joined this chat and look forward to catching up with you when I get back. Great not to feel like I am the only one facing these challenges. Xxxx

ma, faire sorry I did not mean to imply that your DHs behaviour could be excused by 'illness' . I just meant it was more understandable (I can be a right moody cow when I'm ill!) but of course that is not a reason to treat you and your DDs badly.

mouse hope you enjoy your film, whatever you end up deciding to watch!

I still have a cold, so not drinking tonight. It is quite hard (I got some wine 'for the weekend') knowing it's there, but am exercising that self-control muscle. It must be getting stronger because I didn't need to leave the wine in the car this time

I bought a new car today! When we go to part-exchange mine, I must check there is no wine left in the glove-box, god knows what the car salesman would think....

Well done to obrigdad and greeny and clutter and everyone else who is lurking at the back of the Bus smoking crafty fags and secretly swigging alcohol out of coffee mugs.

I know Sunny, I can feel I am more boring but my dh or friends or work colleagues are not me the next day & don't know what it feels like when I am so ill, it's grim for me.
If you are feeling in a place where you want to make change I would definitely give the Allen Carr book a go. I feel in the right place to read now but probably wasn't 5 years ago if that makes sense?
If your leaving at 4 definitely better get off to bed as would imagine that will be a little stressful with 2 little ones.
Hope you have a lovely time on holiday, glad you found the bus xx

Ha ha Faire earlier on I was sneakily sipping coca cola out of a mug as my ds is so not allowed it yet so wants it. Think it almost made me feel like I was doing something I shouldn't!
Sorry your not feeling great, hope you feel better soon. I agree that I wasn't meaning to excuse MA's dh's behaviour with illness but agree that sometimes you can behave worse when feeling shit.

Evening, tis me Mouse

Two glasses of wine and my PJs are on and I'm ready for bed. DH put Nemo to bed and he let him for the first time in MONTHS!

MONTHS!

It was hard today to rise above things.....but I did. And I'm proud of myself for not turning into shouty mummy.

Clutter - he means that he would find his evenings boring if you didn't drink like that or at all again. That's not a fair thing to say to you, when you are working so hard to better yourself, your health, and I'm with YOU, I'd rather be sober than feeling like Deep Fried Dog Shite for days on end. Do what is right for you. That's almost blackmail xxx

No film as DH has promised to get up with Nemo when he calls out so I am going to bed now whilst I can. Cross your fingers for us please Babes, we need positive vibes xxxx

mouse wishing you a peaceful night and some rest. Sending lavender scented wafts in your direction x

Mouse really hoping you all
got a good nights sleep last night.
I think (hope) he was only joking. I have been awful to my dh at times when drunk so think he would rather have me sober than some of the nights we have had
My little boy up at 5am, he keeps doing this and not sure why? I have a dark blanket on his window so it's not cause its getting lighter?
Hope all babes managed ok last night? xx

mouse yay to dh and nemo.Hope you had a good nights sleep.
Highlight of today will be a run to the dump with all the crap I tidied out of the house yesterday. Wonder if there is a skip marked twunts that I can put dh in?

Ma because there is no landfill big enough to take all the twunts placed in the skip! It would be a very useful service though. How long does a twunt take to biodegrade? I worry about the environment.

clutter My little beast is up between 5 & 6 every morning. I'm planning my revenge for when he's a teenager...

mouse hope you had a great night's sleep x

Happy St Patrick's day (Don't think i've seen a sober one before- not proud of that)

I'm doing alright.I'm spending time with some lovelies from aa and beginning to talk about a few things I've never told anyone before- apart from the bus. It's hard but I know it's the way ahead for me. Makes it MUCH harder to pick up because I don't want to go through this all over again! x

Morning babes

Yesterday I dried two loads of washing on the line in the beautiful morning sunshine. In the afternoon it poured and poured. Then, in the evening we had a massive thunderstorm, complete with lightening, followed by a huge hail storm. This morning we woke up to snow

Have a good St. Patricks Day x

Today I will not be drinking

Morning, tis me, Mouse

Happy Day, my Gpa is Irish, he used to say that's where I get my light grey/blue eyes from when I was little, which made me think you had to buy eyes from a shop!!

Ma - I heart you, keep posting lovely xxxx

Clutter - Nemo went through a phase of that, as did DD. Regardless of light etc... I think sometimes, they've just had enough sleep.

Hey Guggs :) xx

Not a bad night for me, I took a sleeper to make sure I slept and I did, like a dream, filled with nightmares and weird shite but didn't get a lie in which is cool, Nemo had a meltdown when DH suggested that they go down to play and come and find Mamam later. He was having none of it. So I got up, it's just not worth it right now, I'd rather he was happy and having fun than downstairs with me in bed listening to him crying for me and DH getting wound up more and more and then snapping (as he sometimes does because he just wants me to rest) so early start for us all :)

DH has gone to take the Wolf for a walk and collect DD from her none sleep over, then roast beef later, lots of jobs to do including a new weekly planner for Nemo to try and help him understand things better.

I'm doing one for his new timetable too, which will start after Easter.

Oh, and guess what? He is poorly again, he has a cough and a streaming cold. AFUCKINGAIN! Sorry to swear but why? Every time I get him better, he picks something else up. Roll on him being around 8yrs old which is when his immune system will finally be stronger.

Anywho, hope you're all okay?

Purps - ?? Dare I ask sweets? xx

Silver - I know you don't often post anymore but I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you :) xx

Sunny - how are you today?

TheBoss - are you out there? Not heard from you in ages, Rural ? All those who've not posted in a while? Hope ?

Please pop in and say high even if I've missed your name, (sorry), just give us a wave :) xx

Happy st Paddy's Day everyone, both my family & my dh's come from Irish stock so wonder if this is where my ds gets his madness from as he is prone to the odd paddy!
My dh, dd & ds are all off to a footie match today & the peace & quiet is bliss, this must be what it feels like to be single with no children (it feels nice)
I had to go to shops this morning for prezzie for my cousin & normally on a Sunday that would not be fun but I was in a book shop at ten it was freezing outside & I felt alive & happy.

1. Because I did not have crazy boy with me but 2. And most importantly because no booze last night!

Mouse amazing you got a good nights sleep, I am maybe being greedy with ds's sleep. He goes to bed between 7-7:30pm & is asleep in minutes then wakes between 5-6am...I suppose that's not bad, when he was really little he used to wake every 2 hours and now I want more and more! Wishing all babes a lovely day xx