This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

[lubeybooby]

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

Jazzy of course you're upset, what an arse. I would echo what other posters have said in that it is absolutely not typical, you can leave a date anytime you feel uncomfortable and also as time goes on you will get a very finely tuned sense of when something isn't right.

Morning Man was he from gsm who wanted to meet at 10 am this morning. Nice guy, we got on very well and went for a walk after coffee, not sure if there will be a spark but we are meeting up again next week.

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I dont think it's all that funny Jazzi

jazzi that sounds absolutely horrible. What a complete arsehole. You're justified in that situation to escape via the loo/back door if you're feeling threatened. I have no idea what causes men to act that way, but they're wastes of space.

It's understandable if you want to take a break after a bad experience like that, but as several people has said that's very unusual behaviour. Usually the worst you can expect is the stinking of fags. Your radar will get better, and feel free to knee a bloke in the bollocks if he's threatening you in the future. Any half decent bloke will applaud .

Have delurked.

jazzi (have you considered or) is there a way to report him on the Okcupid's website? I don't like the idea of someone else receiving the same treatment.

WFF, I was wondering the same thing.

I was thinking about reporting him but as far as I can see there isn't a facility to do it on Okcupid. I am just hoping that it was a one off

There isn't any way to report to okcupid.

The only possible thing would be to report sexual assault to police (the grabbing?) if you know his name and address or at least rough area where he lives.

Ohh Jazzi that sounds horrific :( I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

What are everyone's views on repeated cancellations? Mr Transition and I have been chatting for about 2 months now, he calls 2-3 per week, sooooo many texts..however.... out of 4 arranged dates he's cancelled 3 of them-all a few hours before we're meeting. So we've only met once...yet we chat all the time and it seems almost quite like we're seeing each other...

He cancelled this morning but has postponed it till tomorrow..I'm sceptical if he turns up and its hard not to feel a little hurt everytime he cancels although in all fairness today his ex text and offered him contact with his son after messing him about for a month so I didn't mind at all!

Mama that's really annoying. I guess see what happens tomorrow... if he does it again I would move on. Too unreliable.

Oh Jazz What an utter tosser. Echo others if in doubt get the hell out!

Mama If I am honest I cba. Sounds like a total time waster.

Just waiting on Mr R&R. Then off to the Rock & Roll gig. Sure it will be a laugh if nothing else.

Jazz - what a horrible man, how dare he.

Mama - how frustrating. Is he quite shy?

Jazz that's horrendous. None of my dates were even remotely like that. Please don't think this is normal at all for OD. My worst date was horribly tedious but that's as bad as it got.

Just because you're on a date, you don't need to accept this kind of behaviour. If you are feeling uncomfortable, make an excuse if you want to, but just leave. That kind of behaviour isn't acceptable. (((Hugs)))

Jazzi, that sounds horrific. I agree with everyone else, most dates aren't like that. Well done for alerting the other people, and for the benefit of anyone else who finds themself in a similar situation, please remember that you can always just leave. There's no need for an excuse if someone is acting in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, you just get up and leave.

Mama, also CBA.

Snape, a date?

ohhhh gawd.

Since when did 'fun' come to mean 'an easy no strings shag I can get without having to pay for it'

I'm upping my age range, 2 messages from under 25s saying 'hey sorry to be cheeky but would you be up for some fun'

I feel like saying 'yes indeed i enjoy all sorts of fun things. Both outdoor and indoor. But if you want a free fuck you can fuck right off'.

aaaaaaarrrrrgh. Rant over.

Jazzi sounds like a wannabe sex criminal. You didn't even have to sit down with him. The first comment alone would have had me out the door.

btw respect to others on the thread who are involved in NSA things and that sort of 'fun' (and I have been in the past), I don't think NSA is always 'prostitution' so sorry for the metaphor. It's just the attitude of THESE particular men, that women online are gagging for it and it's a way to get your end away with an easy 'tart'. Probably wouldn't even have to buy these desperate older women a drink eh? Gah. Unbelievable.

It's that sense of male entitlement which I can't believe. Of course it may well happen the other way round too but obv I'm not seeing it. Plus I am bi and no woman has ever messaged me in that lazy, sleazy way ever.

sorry I mean I don't think NSA is EVER prostitution- it's just that I think these guys kind of see it that way, as a means to access bodies. Gah expression fail this eve.

NSA sites attract alot of men who have that mindset..but they are easy to spot!

and I doubt they ever get lucky...

Jazzi - I have told this story here before...

I went on a date once with someone I had been texting for a few weeks.

Went to a pub, went to the loo, and when I came back and sat down, he kindly showed me a picture of his hard cock on his phone. Just like that.

May I also mention the time that me and my sister pulled 2 blokes on a night out and took them back to my mums, as you do.

Me and my one went into the living room, my sister went to the loo, and her bloke went to make coffee in my mums kitchen. All of us went into the kitchen at the same time but obviously he was only expecting my sister... there he was, stark bollock naked, pointing at his cock and saying 'look at that and tell me you don't want it'

wtf Sweet :o
what makes them think thats they way to charm a girl

Ohhhh thinking about that story always makes me laugh

Those were the days.....

domesticgodless. I think some men do view OD as a candy-shop and it's entirely possible that they don't quite get that there are some sites where NSA is the core element and some that mix NSA with relationship seekers. Sometimes wires get crossed. :)

I specifically state in my blurb that I don't date married men, men with live-in or long term partners or engage in casual sex. I get the very occasional 'gentleman caller' who messages me with a bit of filth, but people tend to get the message if you firmly and politely state what you do/dont believe in. Some people are chancers and will go for a scatter-gun approach. That tends to be men, because there is still unfortunately a bit of a perspective in some quarters that men make the first move...

sweet. HE GOT HIS COCK OUT IN YOUR MUMS KITCHEN?!?!?!