This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

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All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

Yep, am quite sure that article didn't say anything we haven't already learned on here but thought I'd share anyway.

Scatty - sorry I missed the bit about the fireman and Les Mis...? And just, well, stunned silence at the Italian Stallion!

Hi All, can I join this thread? I am single, have been for 2 years and last night I had a data, a really bad date, just wondered if I can share?

Jazzicats, I'm here for a bit if you want to share?

Had second date last night with the man who sent the 'why can't I stop thinking about you' message - can't decide whether it was really good or really bad - not sure if he is genuine.

Share away Jazzicatz, I'm listening too :)

Hello Jazzi
I'm sorry about your bad date - do tell.

The Italian Stallion is class. It has made me laugh a lot.

Yay PP good luck, what are you going to wear?

hop I think it calls for a watching brief? See how it goes on, could be a creep or just be very keen on you.

scatty I've got a edumacashun and everyfink and there is no way on this actual earth I would go to see Les Mis (unless Dermot O'Leary was asking, obviously).
I reckon the fireman quite likes you.

Hello Jazzi - sorry to hear about the bad date, yes by all means share.

PP - yay for the date, good luck :o

Jazzi feel free to tell all about it, was it bad as in 'he refused to tip' or bad as in 'he set my hair on fire, stabbed the bar pianist with a salad fork and then asked if I'd pay his bail'

Or somewhere in between?

I've heard stories about all of those happening incidentally, although not all to one person.

PP Thats sounds great!

Hi Jazz Spill

Hop Time will tell.

Scatty Fireman either really likes you or wants you to think he does. Strange one.

Thanks all :)

Grinchie I have NO idea what I'm going to wear! Its a cinema date purely as we both want to see the same film. I think it will be jeans boots and a nice top or boots, leggings and a dress? oh gosh I don't knoooow!

jazzi where have you gone? On the edge of my seat here...

little update from me, I just had a chat on the phone with a guy that I've been messaging with a little.
He friend-ed me on FB (I dont use it but I have an anonymous account for snooping purposes ) plenty of pictures so Ive had a good old browse through.
He's about 15 years younger than me and I really expected him to be kind of laddish, and didnt think I'd like him.

However he sounded very very calm, laid back and 'kind'
I was very surprised!

Sorry, just come back to this.
Met this chap through Okcupid, been chatting for a few days and he seemed really nice. Then it came to the date, he was about 3 inches shorter than he said he was and stank of fags (although he said he was a non-smoker), he turned up late. Then within the first 5 minutes, he started touching me and grabbed me, pulled me close and said 'I want to take you outside, push you against the wall and f**k you'. I was a little to say the least but just laughed if off. We then went and found a seat, he showed me his flies, that were undone and he said he knew they were broken but he didn't bother changing before the date, and now he was a little worried as he had a 'stiffy'! I was so worried during the date that he would drug my wine. He had really bad shakes, like he has long-term drug taking issues, I was so worried, I told the people on the next table in case I suddenly was ill! It was a disaster, I very quickly left, got home and he had sent 4 emails saying what he wanted to do to me blah blah blah.
I have deleted all his details after saying that I didn't think he was for me!
Can't believe what a disaster it was.

Jazziyou poor thing, what a terrible shock it is when you've been messaging and the person seems ok, then turns out to be an absolute horror.
It sounds like quite a disturbing experience.

It's horrid when someone says something totally inappropriate, which deserves a punch in the face, but you cant so you just laugh it off:(

It was frightening, I have been quite upset today. It was the worry that he was going to drug me! I must say it has put me off dating for a while.

Under those circs Jazz you would have been well within your rights to do the old Ike toilet disappearance trick...awful experience poor old you. (hugs)

I was considering it, but I would have felt terrible doing that. I am not sure whether to laugh or cry!

Jazzi that is terrible, I'm so sorry.
Don't let it put you off for long, he really is a singular nutter. Most people are alright, remember.

mercury that sounds quite promising

Oooh PP how exciting. Personally, I would wear jeans/leggins because it will be more comfortable if you are sitting around in a cinema for a couple of hours. Plus our local cinema gets chilly when they whack the air con up!
But what do you feel great in?

Urgh, jazzi how totally awful.

If it's any consolation at all this isn't normal or usual or common, I have had god knows how many dates... must be 80 ish over the last 5 years an I have never felt uncomfortable or scared. They have all been nice enough blokes. Just wouldn't want you to think that happens all the time.

He I suppose is the sole reason the meeting in a public place advice is spot on

well done getting away quickly

men like that really are very much in the minority Jazzi, the more OD you do the more you learn to spot them

Oh Jazzi how horrible for you! what a sleazy old bastard ugh. I hope it doesn't put you off for too long, don't let one arse ruin your chances.

Grinchie you're absolutely right, thats what I would feel comfortable in. I have some nice tops that will look lovely without looking like i'm going over the top iyswim. its a shame its so bloody cold as I love wearing blazers but I have a couple of nice coats that will make a change from my trusty parker!

Jazzi that is awful. I really think under those circumstances making polite excuses and leaving is acceptable. or running as quickly as possible in the other direction As women we're conditioned to an extent into being compliant and not wanting to upset anyone. His behaviour was absolutely out of order and it's extremely worrying that there were no red flags prior to meeting.

Do hope you're starting to feel a little better, hope you have a lovely relaxing evening planned :)

I've been asked out by a chap on OKC. he's very early thirties, apparently taller than me, is polite and charming (so far - no filth) it's the chap with CFS/ME. haven't responded yet, but he's suggested a coffee and that would be nice. :)

Jazzi, that sounds absolutely awful. I'm not surprised you feel upset and that it's put you off dating for a while. But just to back up what others have said, this isn't typical - I've never had a first date that's been anything like this. He sounds absolutely awful. Hope you're starting to feel a little better.

Jazzi that sounds awful, poor you. I think you were well within your rights to have left after the first five minutes. If someone makes you nervous enough to have to rope in strangers then listen to your instincts and leave!

I just want to echo everyone else and say I have never had an experience like that so don't let it put you off.

Thank you all, I did tell a couple of girlfriends and they were too busy laughing, which I suppose I can understand as it is quite funny, but it has still shaken me a little.